Hi girl I'm 19. And I did it a year ago with my boyfriend. It bothers me that the first time I wanted it to be very special and to think very well. But he gave me an ultimatum that if I didn't give it to him, then I didn't love him, and that's not the case. We now have a good sexual relationship. But he turned out to be a big manipulator, he constantly harasses me, he always watches me pay the bills wherever we go, he insulted me, he attacked me. And that weighs a lot on me. I have the feeling that he wants to be with me not because he loves me, but because there is someone to use. And I ask you if it's worth going to a psychologist and trying to improve the relationship, or just continue without him. And if I continue without him, I think that the other will behave again so that he will not appreciate me. I just feel very confused. I don't even want to be in a relationship in the future.
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Without him!
First, no, there is no point in being with this person. Second, never, ever, accept ultimatums or play someone's whistle. There is no person on this Earth, except you, who is aware of what is happening in your heart and how you make your decisions. I get angry the second someone tells me I'm going to do something if I love them. He has no way of knowing. People love in different ways, and love can't oblige you to anything, it can't enslave you. Your friend wanted to have sex with you, he decided that if he pushed you, you would bend over, break and give him what he wanted. It happened, which is why he decided that he could apply his practice to everything else. You're not stupid at all, you don't get the wrong impression that I'm trying to make you look like that. I think you are a sweet girl who wanted to prove her love and make her boyfriend happy. This is great, but your friend doesn't deserve to make sacrifices for him, because he almost demands them from you and obliges you. The third thing I want to tell you is that not all men are like your friend. There are so many decent, kind and loyal people. You deserve to be with a person who, like you, would sacrifice his own comfort to be well. Love looks like this: you don't want anything, but they give you everything, they don't want anything from you, but you give them everything. My advice is to give up this relationship and believe more in yourself. Stand up. I believe you are a wonderful person, but you are still naive. You will manage on your own. In time, you will find someone who will truly love you and will not hurt you mentally or emotionally. The third thing I want to tell you is that not all men are like your friend. There are so many decent, kind and loyal people. You deserve to be with a person who, like you, would sacrifice his own comfort to be well. Love looks like this: you don't want anything, but they give you everything, they don't want anything from you, but you give them everything. My advice is to give up this relationship and believe more in yourself. Stand up. I believe you are a wonderful person, but you are still naive. You will manage on your own. In time, you will find someone who will truly love you and will not hurt you mentally or emotionally. The third thing I want to tell you is that not all men are like your friend. There are so many decent, kind and loyal people. You deserve to be with a person who, like you, would sacrifice his own comfort to be well. Love looks like this: you don't want anything, but they give you everything, they don't want anything from you, but you give them everything. My advice is to give up this relationship and believe more in yourself. Stand up. I believe you are a wonderful person, but you are still naive. You will manage on your own. In time, you will find someone who will truly love you and will not hurt you mentally or emotionally. Love looks like this: you don't want anything, but they give you everything, they don't want anything from you, but you give them everything. My advice is to give up this relationship and believe more in yourself. Stand up. I believe you are a wonderful person, but you are still naive. You will manage on your own. In time, you will find someone who will truly love you and will not hurt you mentally or emotionally. Love looks like this: you don't want anything, but they give you everything, they don't want anything from you, but you give them everything. My advice is to give up this relationship and believe more in yourself. Stand up. I believe you are a wonderful person, but you are still naive. You will manage on your own. In time, you will find someone who will truly love you and will not hurt you mentally or emotionally.
Of course without him! Is this the connection you are describing? And for that, full of nonsense, you just haven't found the right person. Man was not created to live alone. Do not make such compromises and do not waste time with him but find a boy who loves and respects you.
As a woman older than you, I tell you - dump him! Sooner or later he will dump you, I say from experience. I had a relationship with such an egoist, or rather an egocentric, I loved him and gave him everything, and I received mainly troubles, infidelities, lies or concealment of the truth, meanness, scandals. Do not allow anyone to rule over you and manipulate you.
You have entered the connection "Master and Victim", get out of there !!! How will you pay your bills like that? The man has to pay the bill or AT LEAST to share the bills whoever drank and ate whatever, to pay it himself! There are no more men. How will he beat you like that? Drop it, they don't get treated, they don't get better REMOVE it until it made you children, and to see a dilemma ... Paris
I completely agree with the others who commented. Such a person deserves to be left alone for the rest of his life. Drop this user and look for luck with another. There are so many lonely good boys who will carry you in their arms, and you suffer humiliation and insults from this oligophrenic. Don't let yourself be manipulated.
Take out the scissors and cut. There's no way ... a man can embarrass him for being a man ...
Prove that you are strong and respect yourself and have character ... or stay a slave for life, who said that you will not meet another who will love you and behave great with you ... just have a little patience and change places where you go together and meet young cultured people but avoid net zapoz. success YOU CAN.
Ah ah, history remembers many such cases. You are not the first nor will you be the last in such a situation. And there will be such men because you allow them to behave like that, and you do not leave them. The nasty thing is that there is probably a boy who likes you and would like to treat you in a completely different way. I'm not a psychologist or anything, but in my life I've noticed how women always run after people who treat you badly, I don't know why. Some time ago when I was trying to be a gentleman and so on, it was always difficult for me to have sex with a girl / woman, no matter how athletically funny I was, and so on. But after I changed my approach to the fairer sex and started looking at women and treating them just like a piece of meat, contrary to any normal logic, they started to work for me. I don't know what is wrong with you and what you find so attractive in the lack of respect and so on. And my advice left it and found someone else. Are you afraid that he will behave like that? Like I said, we have to behave the way you want, demand => supply, if you don't let him, he won't behave like that. M-22