Hello. I am 25 years old and I want to share with you to give me advice on how to deal with my problem. For as long as I can remember, I have been weak. I can't gain at least a little weight. I am almost 2 meters tall and I am only 70 kg. I am constantly teased that I am weak, even at home my mother just repeats "And eat. You are very weak ..." I closed myself in, I do not go out I do not meet friends at all ... no social life. I recently liked a girl. Everything was going well, but once he told me that I looked feminine because I was very thin, gentle with long legs, etc. This spilled the cup and totally evaporated my little self-confidence that I had. I am gentle and feminine. I'm ashamed to wear shorts and T-shirts because that makes me look even more convulsive. I don't know what to do anymore. Now you will say eat more stop smoking. About them - I've never smoked. I can't eat anymore why that means I have to overeat. I eat regularly, normally. I'm not hungry. I feel indescribable anger at myself. I can't look at myself and I don't like myself at all. I feel like a jerk and no one takes me seriously. The girls don't even notice me and it's understandable. Most of them like stronger boys, or at least with normal proportions. This is up and down. Excuse me for the confused thought but at the moment I have a mess in my head.
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Start training something and you will gain muscle mass. When your muscles are stronger, you can't help but look more core and strong. Otherwise, there are various pills to increase appetite when I was little, I was very naughty and they kept stuffing me with them. But I don't think they have a special effect, and as long as you are healthy and eat normally, you don't need such things.
Train !!! Choose a sport, ask about it, if you have friends athletes you can train with them, you will be much better with a person from whom you can always ask for advice. Browse the forum at www.bb-team.org. I think they will also be able to give you useful information there.
People before me have given you good advice. If you have the opportunity, go to the gym and work with an instructor who will prepare a suitable diet and program. Good luck. :)
You have a lot of work to do because you're stuck in a hole. Because I have been in a very similar situation, I know more or less what is wrong with you and I can tell you that there are no impossible things and depending on what measures you take now and how early you do it, the sooner you will fast what you want. What I tell you and what they will tell you here will be very general and will hardly guide you. I would try to help but the site does not allow the exchange of personal data. What I recommend is to understand an awful lot of information about the human body in particular yours and to dig for fitness. Your mother doesn't understand anything about these things and doesn't know that it's not from eating. If someone doesn't support you, it will take a long time, so make it a priority and I would put other things aside. Success! Ceco
He can train, but he has this feeling because of those around him. Instead of giving him advice, try to behave better with each other.
There is no use of fitness. I am also weak and went to the gym almost all year. I gained 5 kg, got sick and lost them in 2 weeks. It's just that the body chooses the optimal weight and that's it. Some people have not been lucky with good genes. That's why I'm not going to have children - there's no point in giving them my bad genes to make them unhappy afterwards. I'm even angry with our people for making me. I live a meaningless life. I eat, work, sleep and wait to die. So do you.
Abe number 6, it's nice to express an opinion, but I don't think anyone will report it to you at all, because it was written by a failed person. The man here wants advice, not some excuse for being a loser. Millions of people manage to do it ... that speaks ill of you ... As long as you stand and blame your genes, people succeed! Ceco
Number 6 what is this ominous comment? Waiting for him to die ... All of us who don't look like a model and a model of the stupid media to wait to die? Author, I understand that you do not feel good in your skin. But think about whether it's not because society imposes on you a model for how you should look, or it's because you really don't like yourself. I like thinner men, I don't know why, but muscles don't appeal to me at all. I'm myself at your weight, only I'm 180. And according to the general zombies, I have to weigh less than 60 kg. I was so much and only then I received approval. But in the end, the important thing is to be OK with yourself (excluding health-threatening pounds). The first and most important thing you need to do is to love yourself, the beauty of a person is largely from his radiance, have you thought about that? Follow a filling program, eat again in normal amounts for you, but richer in protein and carbohydrates. Fitness will build your muscles, but don't expect miracles in a short time! I am sure that even as you look now, if you had the right attitude towards yourself and others, this topic would not exist! I wish you all the best! J., 20
№6, you are cruel! It is a pity that gypsies and cockroaches do not have your perception of life, and we will have to put up with them for many years to come.
It has nothing to do with genes at all. Rather, with improper nutrition. Many boys work out in the gym instead of eating, eat two donuts and one pie a day and think they will gain weight. Weight gain with high calorie intake, and on quality food. For example, if a training man needs 3,000 calories a day, he should make 4,000 calories a day to gain weight. And 4000 calories not from pies and donuts, because that way you will gain fat, but from quality food. Approximately breakfast 150g. oatmeal with yogurt, lunch-chicken with rice and salad and black bread, dinner -fish, salad and boiled potatoes. And in the course of meals at least 200-300 grams of nuts a day (almonds, walnuts, cashews). Nuts are a high-calorie food, and at the same time useful, they are ideal for gaining muscle. Let's eat like this for two months to see if he won't get on.
I think only fitness will help you. Do you remember Slavi Trifonov at the beginning of his career what he looked like? Do not give up!
It's all about physics. Do not cram in any pills. I am also thin, I am 1.90 tall, and I also weigh 70 kg.
Number 6, tighten it! What is this negativism? !! Do I understand your logic correctly? - If you don't look good physically, then everything else loses its meaning and that's why you don't have a family? Ohhh .. some time ago (I was twenty years old) I fell in love with a man who was my colleague, we worked together at a Black Sea resort. He is a very thin and tall man who is not really handsome. However, how he looked at me then! Strange that the other women didn't notice. I was crazy about him! We had a passionate relationship, he is a very devoted lover, and I dreamed after the season to take me to his village, give birth to three children and live happily ever after! I myself am from a big city, the candidate students had passed and I was accepted, but I didn't care about anything - I wanted to be happy with him in the small village, I wanted to be with him! Only he didn't take me. Damn. He said, that he loves being with me, but is looking for another type of woman to take home. And now I thought not to write it, because it will look like a fabrication, but I will write it - the man also has a rather small penis - in an erection it is as long as a Davidoff cigarette. However, there is a saying - 4 cm are enough, the rest is greed. There seems to be a dose of truth. Because this man completely satisfied me, but I say again - he was extremely dedicated, he tried to satisfy me. I want to advise the Author: Author, take a bath every day, put on clean and ironed clothes, buy a nice perfume (oh, how perfumes attract, it's different to smell like a clean and perfumed man - just don't oil yourself, let it be a little ). Indeed, it is very important to be clean, with clean clothes. If you have money for fitness - ok, go. But do not drink any supplements, please! This seems to me like an addiction! A friend went to the gym like that and in 2 years he became tough and his muscles were expressed, but he did not gain weight and did not become "big" or "healthy". He started drinking some supplements, vitamins ... and when he started, now he's drinking some other nonsense ... so you better not get caught up in this dance. If you don't have money for fitness - you can do push-ups at home, buy dumbbells and lift, and you can go to the nearby school yard to train in the evening when there are no students. I am sure that others go to train there as well - such are my observations that many men train in the schoolyards in the evening. It's good to have an environment - find a job (if you don't work) or find the phones of old friends who haven't disappointed you. To start going out - to go for coffee 2-3 times a week - approx. And from time to time to make trips together - for example, a day trip to a landmark, a picnic .. You will be lifted without feeling and thus you will become magnetic! And then a girl will appear. I wish you success!
My friend is as weak as a stick. Tall and, as you put it, feminine! He also has a slight inferiority complex. He puts on 2-3 or 9-10 sometimes clothes, trousers, avoids shorts, tank tops. Some make fun of him. He's 26! I'm 27 and I love it with all my heart :) We recently turned one! I don't care what others think. I love him as he is! I love his bones, curves, I adore him :) I love to hug him, it's very comfortable! When I lie on it, I put on a pillow, and we're fine again :) I try to make him go out in tank tops and not get dressed in so many clothes, because he's beautiful! He teaches me to wear skirts: D I can say that I am a beautiful and desirable woman :) He is my whole world :) It doesn't matter if you are thin or fat ... there are passengers for every train :) I know that you complicate yourself
Throughout your story, I only read how you complain, how there is nothing you can do, but I did not read a sentence that says for yourself what efforts you have made to fix the situation. Yes, women like healthy boys, but these guys put a lot of effort and will to be like that. They were not born that way. So instead of whining, grab and inquire about nutritional supplements for boarding a table, find a comfortable room, make a diet and after 7-8 months write here again ... if you remember at all;) G29
Fitness is his mother. I was a skeleton too. And tall. And after years of fitness I already have good physique .. And it often happens to me to have injuries and to stop the gym for a while but I do not lose weight from it.
To nom. 16: Yes, if I had a girl next to me at the moment, this Easter egg would hardly be there. I have long since stopped hoping to meet my love in the future. As you say, there are passengers for each train, but some carriages remain empty. But hope dies last.
number 17, in fact, many of the cool boys were born that way. It is next to the person. Your mother and father cannot have a large physique and you cannot be a twig.
From 16: well, do you know how my sun captivates me? He did not show his complexes, but showed self-confidence! After we met, I realized how seriously he took them, but if he had moved forward with them, we would never have been together! He showed that he cared about me, he made those great little surprises that can move a woman. Me too, but I didn't care at all that he was the weakest person I knew and still know! So your problem is mostly in self-confidence and despair ... I'm sure you have great traits in yourself and in your character. You just leave them in the background.
Towards №21: Yes, in fact, they stay in the background, because people see appearance first. Like everyone has good and bad qualities, so do I, but I can't relax and be myself and pretend to be heavy. I just don't like to show off and flaunt money, social status, etc. By the author
Number 20, I don't agree with you. It is true that there is a genetic predisposition, but that does not mean that it cannot be overcome. I was just teased by the author's subject and his grumbling about how you understand nothing could be done, how the world was over, he would not find a wife, his life was ruined because he was weak. What if you don't like it so much, what did you do to change it? !! I know weak boys who now have nothing to do with physics with their previous physique. I also know weak boys who have happy relationships and marriages ... It's not all just a vision. Work on yourself and the character, author! Because if you want to make the strongest body in the world while whining like a woman, no one will really ask you. You are a man after all, tighten up and act like one !!