I am a married man of 44 years. We also have a son who is 21 years old. In the beginning, everything was fine. Over the years, my wife and I have become alienated, even from the age of 9-10 we sleep separately. Sex is very rare. All for some reason. Otherwise, we are ideal for people from other countries. I couldn't stand it anymore and I registered on a dating site. Allegedly out of curiosity at first. I met a woman who was there for similar reasons. Married at the age of 39 with two children. We live 50 km apart. We hear each other almost every day after work. We see each other 2-3 times a month and go to a hotel. The sex and the relationship we have with each other are indescribable. Everything we don't have at home we add when we see and hear each other. My question is - should we continue to put horns on our halves and is this right?
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Once the child is older, I think you have a right to your own happiness. Whether it will be long after the separation or evaporate, no one can say. Whether you will be left alone, too, no one can predict. But at least you're in good shape, you have a grown child. For the mistress, if her children are small, I do not envy you at all, you will have to take care and set aside money for other people's children and you will have to leave them without a father. Maybe you need to decide for yourself if you have a future with your current wife and if you can move forward alone, regardless of whether the mistress will be with you or not.
It is very clear that it is right, but life is not perfect. Now a lot of people will spit on you, you shouldn't have shared here. Just experience the moments and share the things of life with each other. Have you allowed everyday life to enter your life strongly and I think that going back and a new restart, as if your family is new, cannot happen. Life is not just black and white. There are different shades. Live the way you feel.
Author, you should ask yourself two questions: 1. What would you do for your mistress if her husband found out and threw her and her two children out on the street and divorced her? Would he help her and divorce her because of her, accepting her with two children? 2. If your wife understands - and you forgive your infidelity, would you divorce her and continue clean? If the answers to both questions are negative - fuck you and don't think
Whatever attitude you give - that's what you get Sooner or later you will be a cuckold, then let's see how the necessary supplements and additions that you have at the moment will affect you
Of course, it is not right to talk to your wife, tell her what you are missing ...
Of course not. Why and who needs it? at 44 you can say everything in plain text right?
must!
If it makes you happy, I think it's right.
We have to! How else? !! And most importantly, that's how you find what you're missing at home. I wonder if your halves play the same theater?
I think you should break up with your wife. Think about whether you want to live this double life and whether when you grow old and look back, you will be happy with the fact that you did not grab what makes you happy but were with someone just because in front of others you are "perfect" together.
It's not right, but it's fashionable now.
Answer to the question - it is not right, you should not continue, but you will continue until you are caught and there is a fair. You both think with your lower body. OK, but there are consequences for everything. If you are ready to accept and pay - go on.
That you shouldn't put horns on your halves - you shouldn't! That you should not continue - you should not! But if you think your wife isn't doing the same, you're very naive!
That's right. Once you're stupid and let things go that way without sitting down and talking like intelligent beings like you are, that's okay! You have a mistress and your wife has a lover. It hardly stays dry.
As long as you have taught the person that it is not right, he must have understood it, he has realized that he should not do so. His question is, should he continue to put his wife's horns? Author, what happened happened, no matter what they tell you, you can't go back in time. Think carefully about what is more important to you at the moment, what you want from now on, no one can answer these questions. First talk to your mistress directly, see if she is ready for a more serious step. In case you have agreed to see each other only for sex, it is very likely that you do not hope for more, talk and clarify, if there are feelings between you should not be left unspoken. Continuing your current relationship runs the risk that sooner or later one of the two will be caught and then it will be bad for everyone. Think of your wife, however, as he himself said to others, you are the perfect family, it will probably be difficult for her to cope with life and the label "divorced". I do not take sides, I can not say who is to blame in these cases, everyone is to blame your wife, you, the mistress and her husband, this is my opinion of course. Weigh the pros, cons and cons well. Only one thing is for sure, you should not continue to suffer, if you break up with your mistress sooner or later you will find another. I won't advise you to try to fix things with your wife, you must have tried already. What you live in is not marriage but cohabitation. First decide what you want out of life and then do anything. Good luck! F32 I can not say who is to blame in these cases, everyone is to blame your wife, you, the mistress and her husband, this is my opinion of course. Weigh the pros, cons and cons well. Only one thing is for sure, you should not continue to torment yourself, if you break up with your mistress sooner or later you will find another. I won't advise you to try to fix things with your wife, you must have tried already. What you live in is not marriage but cohabitation. First decide what you want out of life and then do anything. Good luck! F32 I can't say who is to blame in these cases, everyone is to blame for your wife, you, the mistress and her husband, this is my opinion of course. Weigh the pros, cons and cons well. Only one thing is for sure, you should not continue to suffer, if you break up with your mistress sooner or later you will find another. I won't advise you to try to fix things with your wife, you must have tried already. What you live in is not marriage but cohabitation. First decide what you want out of life and then do anything. Good luck! F32 What you live in is not marriage but cohabitation. First decide what you want out of life and then do anything. Good luck! F32 What you live in is not marriage but cohabitation. First decide what you want out of life and then do anything. Good luck! F32
Is it so scary to tell the truth and your wife to decide if it's okay to stay together. Maybe she's at the same station. The ugliness of infidelity is betrayal. Just eliminate the betrayal. Otherwise, your choice of mistress is bad, if she is caught, she will expect you to take responsibility for her and her children.
A very risky situation, if her husband catches you, there is a high probability that she will stay on the street with the children. You and your family clearly feel sorry for him and don't care, but are you ready to take responsibility for the nightmare that is coming in the mistress's family? Hey, big people, big nonsense they do. Divorce me and then have fun, why do you complicate your life unnecessarily?
"My question is, should we continue to put our horns on our halves, and is that right?" You made the choice, you don't care about the consequences, fuck you. He also cheated on the new poop, this time with a donkey. There are some clumsy and crippled genders with an IQ below 4 (ie women) who will accuse you of mocking the integrity of your family and ruining your wife. Ignore their appeals to thought, empathy and common sense - aren't you a philosopher? Cheat to the hole, country.
First you both with the "other" must have clear rules with each other. Something like, fun is fun, but so far. Having great sex, and having a "forbidden" relationship that definitely raises the adrenaline, you two are in that comfort zone where you've either never been or forgotten, and now it's sweet. However, if you live under one roof, things will not be as erotic and rosy as they are 3 times a month in the hotel. Your wife can hardly stand on her ass. I don't know who would last 10 years without feeling the other, in case she sticks to it. In such family circumstances, the extramarital affair comes with a bit of a "bonus" and a kind of bringing freshness and balance. In summary - while you can steal time for yourself and feel good - do it!
Moralists, do you distinguish between love and sex? One cool sex does not have to be engaged in a serious relationship, nor is it obligatory for the infidel to divorce in order to live with the other.
It's not right, but after talking to your wife and she refuses to give you a normal level of intimacy ... In fact, such women even prefer a man to find a mistress and leave them alone. Infidelity is when the other holds on to you and you betray him.
I am very interested in all those who justify the author's action, would they write the same comments if the story was the same, but instead of AUTHOR it was AUTHOR? :) Otherwise, I think the story is fake for the purpose of provocation. There is no normal person who cheats and asks: should I continue to lie and put my horns on? The answer is clear and definitely a 44 year old man knows it :)
I am 25, as old as your son, as they say, but I will give you my opinion. I was a great moralist some time ago. I denounced infidelity and secret relationships of both sexes. I never imagined that you could be with someone and think of someone else. But over time, I've come to realize that marriage is just a bargain. You make this deal with the woman you are with, you swear allegiance, only the man eventually becomes a provider and nothing more. You also provide security, provide everything or at least a large part of things at home, and in return you hear only excuses that she is not having sex, that something hurts her, that she is what you are, etc. Women just get married to get this security, because they cannot be alone, but in fact they are selfish by nature and will always look for something better. I would not allow myself to reproach you at all. Live your life the way on which to bring you happiness. The guarantee that she doesn't see anyone else is very small, so I don't see the point in bothering her. I do not know people with a happy long-term marriage. I see my parents too. For 15 years I have only listened to scandals and reproaches to each other. My mother spits on my father, my father spits on my mother, scandals non-stop and that's it. So he takes care of the family, but he also takes care of himself. Otherwise, you will become like my father, who mutters to his wife non-stop and does nothing about it, does not even dare to oppose her, and she in turn plays him with scandals through which he manipulates him. She didn't understand it, and she's already 60. Just don't make the mistake of marrying the second woman, it will be the same as the first. Women are just like that. The moment you propose marriage to them, it is clear to them that they can control you in any way, with children, her with a new home and a bunch of other nonsense. Don't get emotionally attached and you won't have problems to worry about unnecessarily.
Authors 15 and 23 are the most valuable! Thank you all. A question for moralists. How do you see yourself in a year, two, five?
It's not right, but it's a fact that it happened. The ugliness of infidelity is lies. If you're not feeling well with your wife, she probably isn't flying around you out of happiness. It is logical to discuss it and decide whether you will stay together and if so, whether you will be faithful in the future. A simple frankness changes a lot of things in a relationship. It would be wonderful if you paid your wife the attention you give to your mistress. Women are what you give them, you get. If you give good emotions to your wife, she will also want to return the favor. If you satisfy her sexually, she will want to satisfy you too. Their nature is such that they are caring, but also emotional. You will not miss sex, your dinner will always be warm, everything will be right. It is enough for a man to be pampered sometimes, and a woman wants an emotional connection and various romantic moments. If something is missing in the whole account, the other will stop going at some point. Your child is big, now you could take time for each other and fix your relationship. The child is big, now you can talk and decide that everyone will watch their own fun. Not bad, as long as everyone is happy. I'm not judging you, it's much easier. With a long marriage, one stops trying and often comes to such topics in the forums. You had the opportunity and you worked. It's just not right to lie to your wife. You had the opportunity and you worked. It's just not right to lie to your wife. You had the opportunity and you worked. It's just not right to lie to your wife.
You put horns on her for a long time, she suddenly thought to ask if this was right. Go confess to the priest in the church to forgive your sins and do not bother us with nonsense.
Excuse me, author, but are you dumb, or are you just pretending to be? Was it right to deceive your wife, the mother of your son, whom you once loved and for whom you promised to take care of good and bad, health and disease, wealth and poverty? Ha now is it an incredibly difficult question. If I were in her place with such horns, I would adorn you with a finger pointing at you. It's like your son going to hotels with girlfriends, not you-but when you get caught, you scream at the male critical heptane. It will take something to cut your waist, that who will pick you up from the hotel?
I wonder if this story isn't fake? A 44-year-old man to ask if it was right to have a mistress and if he should continue to shake her? Well, ask your son, he was an author. Or your wife. Hardly anyone here cares so much about you, whether you will fuck with someone or not. You made the decision when you went with your mistress, what is the opinion of this and that? If you are not well at home, go where you want. Only if you are a man - worthy and honest, not a mouse and a coward, tell your wife and leave her. There is no point in maintaining a formal marriage with an unloved person. In this way you will be able to dedicate yourself completely and calmly to your love. And when you get tired of it, the next one.