Hello, my story is as follows. I have had a boyfriend for 2 months. I am 28 years old, and before that I had other relationships, but in reality only 1 I consider serious about 4 years. My current girlfriend is 21 years old. My problem is this, I love her very much and I try to please her as much as I can and she says she loves me. He is very jealous of me and, as they say, he makes an elephant out of a fly. An example of this is that he realizes that I've looked at someone and all day he gets angry and even raises a scandal, but in reality there is nothing like that and a bunch of other such trifles. When she is angry, which I think is very often, she starts insulting, sometimes more directly, sometimes more subtly, but she always insults and shouts. At one point he tells me how I was the most beautiful, etc. In the next soil you do not pay attention to me, you do not love me ... The last recent example is a whole day together we walk to different places. I take her home to go to work and no indication of anything wrong. We talk, we write, we call until about 8 9 in the evening and at one point it stops, it doesn't return anything to me. In general, I don't see anything wrong, but the last time she always called when she left work, in many cases we saw each other after work, and the other day she just came home and called and didn't pick up, she didn't write. Nothing ... I ask her if there is a problem, she says something, you didn't become paranoid and decided to end the conversation.
If I didn't know her mood, I wouldn't ask her. So my question is, have I really become paranoid? How can you say in her moment that they don't pay enough attention to you and want more and longer conversations, and in the next one when I told her 3 times at least for a while to hear her not to reflect me: /. He keeps me on thorns for everything. I have a feeling he wants us to fight and get along every other day. This thing exhausts me a lot and bothers me mentally. I've talked to her many times and told her directly, but it's still true. I'm still guilty of something, and if I try to defend myself, it starts attacking me even more. In the moments when she is "good", there is simply no such person. It is unique! Until you think of something else. He literally changes his mood every day. One day so another. There are days when it can be good and bad. I don't know what to think anymore :( There are days when it can be good and bad. I don't know what to think anymore :( There are days when it can be good and bad. I don't know what to think anymore :(
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That it spins you on its finger. He's playing with you. Stop indulging, keep some distance, stay masculine and it will play out. Now you are easily accessible and stupid, uninteresting. Either she's seen someone else, or she's testing you on how you're going to react.
Not you, but she has an emotional and mental problem. I will not diagnose because I am not a psychiatrist, but the girl has to work on herself, if she can't do it alone, then with a psychotherapist and a psychiatrist (although I am against pills, they can be replaced by changing the diet and sports to normalize imbalances in the body).
The goal of women like this is to make you think you have a psychological problem, not her. People like her are great manipulators - they know how and when to play with your feelings. It comes from problems with her parents, a psychological illness that she has, and you. Low self-esteem, high criticism, lack of interests and hobbies, probably no friends, ridicule in the school years, low tolerance threshold. She wants you to turn you into an invertebrate that always rushes to her command. He will soon start accusing you of infidelity and things like that. The more you give to one, the more he will ask of you without appreciating. And every single thing you say or want will be the subject of a long discussion, often on the edge of your nerves. He will start insulting your friends and relatives in order to tear you away from them and show you how important he really is to you. But all this is a theater that plays out, because there is no real essence with which to stand in front of you. He will compare you with others, he will complain about you left and right, but I will repeat to you how much he loves you. Yes, she loves the invertebrate worm she has become. She has lowered you low to her level, she will be the master of your desires and emotions. Is that exactly what you want? If the answer is no - just save yourself while it's time. in which she has become. She has lowered you low to her level, she will be the master of your desires and emotions. Is that exactly what you want? If the answer is no - just save yourself while it's time. in which she has become. She has lowered you low to her level, she will be the master of your desires and emotions. Is that exactly what you want? If the answer is no - just save yourself while it's time.
This babe has serious problems, not you. The article is part of the book "Dangerous Personalities", read it and make up your mind whether it is worth continuing. http://webstage.bg/filosofiya-i-psihologiya/4264-svarhchuvstvitelnite-i-emotsionalno-nestabilnite-lichnosti-dzho-navaro.html
It spins you well on your finger and that's because you're very soft with it. Separately, she is obviously quite mentally unstable. The position you take after the next performance is to try to calm her down, to justify herself, which shows weakness and strengthens the desire to attack you. The cure - aggressively and you respond in spite of every scandal or scene of jealousy, if you continue to rub it. If she still loves you, she will come back and she will ask you for forgiveness, after which she will think about the next scenes. If she doesn't come back, then she loved you so much. This is how it is done with such people, but it is still good to think about whether the nerves spent for this purpose are worth it at all.
Until recently, I was in the same situation, but with the difference that I am the woman and he is the crazy "man" who does not get tired of going crazy. In the same way, he keeps me on thorns for months - at one point he says that I am the woman who was waiting for the next one, insults me and leaves. Apparently there are psychopaths of both sexes who think that they love and manage to drown it in you, to manipulate you in their way. But this is not life ... at the moment I am wondering how to come to life after such a mentally exhausting "relationship". But this has no end on their part, believe me. They are still dissatisfied ... Run, there will be no end .. for months I hoped he was temporarily distrustful, but unfortunately there are no fixes ..
I absolutely support number 3, I would write the same thing. I sympathize with you friend, only 2 months is very little time for a man in love to realize what is happening. Don't ruin your psyche, you don't deserve it. It is better to suffer a little than to break your psyche in the end.
There is only one adequate solution to this problem, but when you play it in love, because when you DECIDE to fight, it is unique ... there is no way to do it. People like her are clear. Indeed, number 3 aims right in the top ten with a quick analysis of the situation. These are toxic, unhealthy relationships that no one should put up with. A large leek that on rare occasions when desired is wonderful. She plays it like that to have power over you, showing you exactly "what it could be" if it was always like that. But she's not ... and she never will be. The sooner you hit her, the better. But when you say that you are 28, with only one connection behind your back, it must be very, very, very difficult for you to pull yourself out of the rags, because they don't come just like that. Also ... the people who are most jealous usually hide themselves and think of some side rat, Well, as long as they're not capo, because you're probably doing the same thing in their heads. The day she didn't talk to you, she probably swallowed a colleague's duck. Brother.