I have a problem with myself. I fail all my relationships. I have a terrible character. Sometimes I just don't know how anyone tolerates me at all. And the worst part is that I always consider myself right, and in the rare moments of "flashes" (like this one) I realize that's not the case. My friend tolerates me in spite of everything. He himself is not the most perfect, he is sometimes rude, he is colder. But he complies with all my anger and still wants us to be together. I don't know if I'm too sensitive, but I get offended very easily, sometimes by insignificant things. I obviously demand too much. I've always been that way ... to my family and to everyone I consider close. You will probably tell yourself what I give. I don't know either. I keep thinking that I'm doing the right thing, that loving them sincerely, that being honest, sincere and true in my relationship means that's enough. I also comply, but it is very difficult for me to compromise and when I feel offended or hurt I become very cruel. With my words and gestures it is as if I want to punish the "guilty". And I don't realize that he can suffer too. I underestimate other people's pain, I give importance only to my own. I judge even the smallest mistake cruelly. I don't know how to handle all this. Why am I like that ? Why do I want to be proven at all times that I am loved, given that I am not given a reason to think otherwise. I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life, and I think it will. And not because I can't stand me, but because I demand too much and when I don't get things the way I want, I quickly become disappointed and refuse. With my words and gestures it is as if I want to punish the "guilty". And I don't realize that he can suffer too. I underestimate other people's pain, I give importance only to my own. I judge even the smallest mistake cruelly. I don't know how to handle all this. Why am I like that ?? Why do I want to be constantly, at any moment, proven to be loved, when I am not given a reason to think otherwise. I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life, and I think it will. And not because I can't stand me, but because I demand too much and when I don't get things the way I want, I quickly become disappointed and refuse. With my words and gestures, it is as if I want to punish the "guilty". And I don't realize that he can suffer too. I underestimate other people's pain, I give importance only to my own. I judge even the smallest mistake cruelly. I don't know how to handle all this. Why am I like that ?? Why do I want to be proven at all times that I am loved, given that I am not given a reason to think otherwise. I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life, and I think it will. And not because I can't stand me, but because I demand too much and when I don't get things the way I want, I quickly become disappointed and refuse. I don't know how to handle all this. Why am I like that ?? Why do I want to be constantly, at any moment, proven to be loved, when I am not given a reason to think otherwise. I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life, and I think it will. And not because I can't stand me, but because I demand too much and when I don't get things the way I want, I quickly become disappointed and refuse. I don't know how to handle all this. Why am I like that ?? Why do I want to be constantly, at any moment, proven to be loved, when I am not given a reason to think otherwise. I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life, and I think it will. And not because I can't stand me, but because I demand too much and when I don't get things the way I want, I quickly become disappointed and refuse.
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So am I. When I love, I give everything and expect the same in return.
You will hardly believe me, but ABSOLUTELY EVERY WORD without "I ruin all my relationships" seems to be written for me. The coincidence is scary. I shared your text with friends and they agree. I haven't found a solution, so I can't help you. Success!
Hey ... don't take her too seriously! ;) It's awful that you think you're awful! ...: D While you burned yourself, and I think so! You are too delicate, sensitive, fragile, ... as an inner being. Eee ... you have built a protective layer to protect yourself! You see, when you're rude, cold, you don't realize it! You do it as a reflex, an instinct to protect yourself. You are afraid that they will hurt you, because even as a child, as you say, it hurts a lot! ... So ... are you to blame for your behavior? Are you to blame for being repulsive and harsher on people? !! To be honest, a little yes! But not completely. I guess that in your years of growing up, you had at least a few cases in which you were hurt, and it was very strong - emotional for you !!! To move forward, you have learned to control your feelings, and to respond, before someone has said something more biting to blunt your will. Well, the people around you don't see the reason for your stubborn and "cold" appearance! ... For them it is as if you are somehow cruel, they make guesses that there may be a great sensitivity under the layer, but it is difficult for them to reach it. Because you skillfully defend and defend your personal boundaries! ... :) Look, ... if I can't tell you, relax, and trust the person next to you! Because you decide whether to let someone closer to you! ... :)) What's stopping you from telling him what you've shared here? Don't you have a connection? Isn't he the closest person to you? If you don't share and don't care, what is your relationship based on? Think about this! ... In my opinion, to be still with you means he loves you. And for his behavior! Ha, well, since you know yourself, how do you expect him to behave? !! At times he is rude and cold, maybe because that's the only way to be with you by being a stronger character. You, would you be with him if you were easily hurt? His attitude towards you is a consequence of yours, and a way not to lose you. Let's say, hypothetically, that I'm in his place. Seeing your behavior every day, I will continue to be with you, because I will hope that someday, you will allow me to you alone, beyond the barrier you have set! ... :) Hmm ... you have a desire for change, otherwise what will you look for an answer here? Don't be afraid to change. And hey, I'm not talking to everyone, but only to those closest to me :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ to be with you, being a stronger character. You, would you be with him if you were easily hurt? His attitude towards you is a consequence of yours, and a way not to lose you. Let's say, hypothetically, that I'm in his place. Seeing your demeanor every day, I will continue to be with you, because I will hope that someday, you will allow me to you alone, beyond the barrier you have set! ... :) Hmm ... you have a desire for change, otherwise what will you be looking for an answer here? Don't be afraid to change. And hey, I'm not talking to everyone, but only to those closest to me :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ to be with you, being a stronger character. You, would you be with him if you were easily hurt? His attitude towards you is a consequence of yours, and a way not to lose you. Let's say, hypothetically, that I'm in his place. Seeing your demeanor every day, I will continue to be with you, because I will hope that someday, you will allow me to you alone, beyond the barrier you have set! ... :) Hmm ... you have a desire for change, otherwise what will you look for an answer here? Don't be afraid to change. And hey, I'm not talking to everyone, but only to those closest to me :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ is a consequence of yours, and a way not to lose you. Let's say, hypothetically, that I'm in his place. Seeing your demeanor every day, I will continue to be with you, because I will hope that someday, you will allow me to you alone, beyond the barrier you have set! ... :) Hmm ... you have a desire for change, otherwise what will you be looking for an answer here? Don't be afraid to change. And hey, I'm not talking to everyone, but only to those closest to me :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ is a consequence of yours, and a way not to lose you. Let's say, hypothetically, that I'm in his place. Seeing your demeanor every day, I will continue to be with you, because I will hope that someday, you will allow me to you alone, beyond the barrier you have set! ... :) Hmm ... you have a desire for change, otherwise what will you look for an answer here? Don't be afraid to change. And hey, I'm not talking to everyone, but only to those closest to me :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ beyond the barrier you set! ... :) Hmm ... you have a desire for change, otherwise what will you be looking for an answer here? Don't be afraid to change. And hey, I'm not talking to everyone, but only to those closest to me :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~ beyond the barrier you set! ... :) Hmm ... you have a desire for change, otherwise what will you look for an answer here? Don't be afraid to change. And hey, I'm not talking to everyone, but only to those closest to me :) PS Who wants to ask me a question or say something. He can do it completely ANONYMOUSLY on [BREACH OF THE RULES] :) No registration required. I guarantee there will be answers. ~ winterfire ~
It's as if I wrote it: H .. Sometimes even I can't stand myself, and for others I have no idea how they tolerate me. And the worst thing is that I realize it, but I don't change it ... no, because I don't want to ... it just doesn't work. I try to control myself sometimes with the thought that I'm hurting a lot of people, but it's as if until I get out everything that weighs on me, that has hurt me or affected me in some way ... I'm just not myself. In such a situation, I can say so much nonsense that I don't really think, I become hellishly cruel, I speak in vain without thinking about what I say and whether I will regret it. I don't know what kind of person I am, but I can't accept that I may be wrong or that I may be wrong. Only my opinion is valid and it is the most correct. I can't accept that someone can hurt him just like me ... I can't accept, that others have feelings too. I take offense too easily, I take everything seriously, I get hurt too quickly, I get angry about everything (almost). Is it because I am vulnerable, sensitive and I always want to be shown how much they care about me and how much they love me ... I don't know. The point is that in the outside world, where people don't know me so well .. even if I'm hurt, I somehow hide it inside myself .. while with people who love me and tolerate me every day .. I behave a hell of a dumb .. : X as if they live only for me, as if I am something more. I fully understand you, but it's all up to us. After all, no one has to put up with such things. If we do not change ourselves, we risk (as you said) .. to be left alone! Mims, 18 sensitive and I always want to be shown how much they care about me and how much they love me .. I don't know. The point is that in the outside world, where people don't know me so well .. even if I'm hurt, I somehow hide it inside myself .. while with people who love me and tolerate me every day .. I behave a hell of a dumb .. : X as if they live only for me, as if I am something more. I fully understand you, but it's all up to us. After all, no one has to put up with such things. If we do not change ourselves, we risk (as you said) .. to be left alone! Mims, 18 sensitive and I always want to be shown how much they care about me and how much they love me .. I don't know. The point is that in the outside world, where people don't know me so well .. even if I'm hurt, I somehow hide it inside myself .. while with people who love me and tolerate me every day .. I behave a hell of a dumb .. : X as if they live only for me, as if I am something more. I fully understand you, but it's all up to us. After all, no one has to put up with such things. If we do not change ourselves, we risk (as you said) .. to be left alone! Mims, 18 : X as if they live only for me, as if I am something more. I fully understand you, but it's all up to us. After all, no one has to put up with such things. If we do not change ourselves, we risk (as you said) .. to be left alone! Mims, 18 : X as if they live only for me, as if I am something more. I fully understand you, but it's all up to us. After all, no one has to put up with such things. If we do not change ourselves, we risk (as you said) .. to be left alone! Mims, 18
What is your zodiac sign? Libra?
I'm the same ... and since I can't help myself, I won't be useful to you either. Good luck and head up! =]
You think a lot and you have a big ego. Don't think so much, forget about the past and the future, live the moment to the fullest, grow a little and things will get better.
Author, I have the same problem .... And I don't know how to overcome it, I think I can't, it's stronger and I can't control myself ... I consider myself a good and fair person, but I take offense very easily and for a second, in a word, I get angry and hurt the people around me, I say things that I immediately start to regret. I realize that I have a problem, but I do not know how to overcome it ... I am happy that the person next to me is extremely patient and understanding, and loves me very much. I just don't know if it won't come to him at some point. Nr 8 - it's not a problem with age and I can't cope with growing up ... I'm 26! (I don't think I was like that before, I experienced a very difficult and painful separation for me years ago, and I think I've changed since then, but I'm not sure if that's the reason anymore). I used to be very sensitive, vulnerable,