I Have Been AFRAID For The First Time

   I was scared too. I made it at the age of 21. Use a lubricant if you are not moist enough, reduces pain, helps to penetrate more easily. And without fingers. There is no need for 1.2 fingers, and then you know ... it's not a warm-up, it just hurts. He doesn't need alcohol either, he has his worries anyway. The pain is not as great as you think. Just let it penetrate you and stand for a few seconds until you get used to it. Then continue, but not too quickly, changing positions and pushing, leave it for another time. There may be a little blood. I had the next day, it is not said that when it enters you and you will bleed. Calm down. It's not that scary.

   Well, it's very scary! Looking at it - 90% of women die the first time ...

   Drink one or two drinks, he also, but without getting drunk at all, helps. And to ask, there is no exact answer - every woman is different. Watch porn (although life is not like a directed video), it is important to have a good erection, to insert it carefully when you are ready, play a little first - blowjob, licking, hand stimulation, but not to do to the gynecologist and to confuse you, there is a penis for this job.

   Every first time is different. Just because it's bad and painful for someone doesn't mean it will be the same for you. You want to collect stories and I'll tell you mine, but don't be influenced by the more unpleasant stories, it's individual. Everything will be fine. The first time is strange as a feeling, but it is not as scary as it is described on the Internet. When I did it for the first time I was in 12th grade - in love, calm and confident in my body. I had read various scary stories about blood and pain that made me mentally prepare for bad scenarios, but in fact everything was wonderful. Before we did, we had once undressed and hugged, nothing special. We didn't have oral sex, we just touched a little - without any penetration. I'm such that I don't like half-stories, I want everything at once. Anyway, the sex was no surprise. A few days earlier we had bought condoms 'just in case we decide something'. We secluded ourselves, got hot, I felt calm and didn't even comment that we were going to have sex. Our bodies followed, but I was not afraid and did not think of anything extraneous at all. I don't think about pain, I don't think about blood, I don't think I'm losing my virginity right now. My mind was completely committed to the moment. I lacked any stress factor and to this day I believe that this is the reason I have a wonderful memory. I was excited. There was pain, but it was nothing special. Honestly, in my life I have been in pain many times more at other times. If I compare the wax mask with my first time, then the loss of my virginity is lower on the scale of pain. The feeling was very strange and a little uncomfortable, it took a few minutes to become more natural. At one point I was worried, but a few kisses helped me get back on the wave and forget about everything else. You want me to rate the pain, which makes it very difficult for me, but I will say 3, 50 on the ten-point scale. Then there was some blood. Here it is important to mention that this blood has nothing to do with what you have probably read. I thought it would be like cutting a vein, I almost imagined a whole sea of ​​blood - nothing like that. I had complete confidence in the person next to me and I felt great. I remember after we did this great job, we lay relaxed and I said to myself, "Was that it? It's not scary at all." Then we repeated ... I did not reflect the pain to such an extent and I was not afraid that immediately after my first sexual intercourse I was ready for more. How we did it - well, I was a little clumsy. I didn't stand like a tree, but I was definitely not very flexible. I was forgiven, I could do so much and I had no idea what to do. But I was so busy feeling in love and happy that I didn't care about anything. My heart was beating very fast all the time and I didn't concentrate on the pain for a second, because I was busy looking for some pleasure ... didn't I mention that I was aroused? I hope it will be the same with you. I had heard various scary stories, too, but I believed it would be different for me. I think attitude is very important. I had heard various scary stories, too, but I believed it would be different for me. I think attitude is very important. I had heard various scary stories, too, but I believed it would be different for me. I think attitude is very important.

   In my opinion, the shame of seeing his naked male body is greater than the pain. And the act itself.

   there is nothing special and scary, in general it hurts to be not so much in the beginning. The boy is advised to be more careful so that you have good memories, although mine are not like that at all, it depends on the partner. then you will be calmer

   Do not worry. It is not a pain to die. On a scale of 1 to 10, I get 3/4 pain - that is, nothing special when I pee or sit. The pain is there for the second time. It is important to be relaxed, to trust him and to be careful !!! If you feel severe pain, stop for a moment, there is nothing shameful to talk to during the act. Get to know your bodies well, communicate, predispose each other. It is always better for a man to have experience, but in this case just trust yourself and your bodies! Success!

   Don't blow him. No whistles.

   Well, it's really scary. I have heard it said that it was something like the Batak massacre during the Turkish slavery. I will wait until I turn 25 and when I decide to have sex I will first go to a gynecologist and he will open me painlessly. Girls do not rush the first time, wait until about 24.25 years and then have sex for the first time. Men will gasp in surprise when they realize that you are still a virgin.

   It was a bit more comical for me and not so rosy, but calm - it's not scary,: D And it doesn't mean that it will happen to you. It was my birthday when I was 18 and we were a little drunk. In the evening, when my friend and I went to bed, everything started normally - hugs, kisses, passion - we wished. And then I decided I wanted to do it. He lit candles and played quiet, soothing background music. I was excited and wet and I wanted him a lot, of course he played with me as a good boyfriend, but when it came time for the real part he could not penetrate. It took him a long time, at the same time I started to hurt from the pressure (not being inside, but only at the entrance), my excitement went to hell and ... In the end he managed to score it for the 10th time. and quite abruptly, blood flowed - a lot of blood and we were here, because I got up to wash in the bathroom, and if it flows, it flows and doesn't stop. It didn't really hurt me when I broke in, but before that at the entrance. I would describe the pain as 4/10. This blood flows, if you want believe me, 5-10 Min and we were both very scared. Note that he was not a virgin and had 2-3 girls experience before me. The next day I had to go on vacation and this gave me 10 days to "recover" from the first time. When I came back he wanted us to try again and we tried accordingly, but he still couldn't penetrate for a long time, then I didn't like the act itself, it hurt me and yes, again nothing happened. Then his masculine self-confidence I think collapsed and that's where our problems started - he started to be jealous of me, I almost slept with someone else, because he was not worth it, which led to our separation. A year and a bit later I was with a new friend, in the beginning - the first 5-6 times it still hurt and I could not relax, but at least he managed to penetrate without difficulty. So ... it's strictly individual for everyone.

   Use a lubricant, it may be expensive, you may be ashamed to buy it, but it is better to have it for the first time! Otherwise there is a nasty rub and the act itself is unpleasant, not so much the "opening". And this with the fingers is some complete nonsense, it will hurt you more than them, I tell you from personal experience. Personally, on a scale of 1 to 10, it hurts maybe 2-3, but a bucket of blood leaked. Everyone around me told me that it would be 2-3 drops, but it gushed out harder than the first days of the cycle and I was quite scared, not to mention the boy - he felt sick from the blood: D After it stopped flowing like waterfall (after 10-15 minutes) and he recovered and stopped nauseating (remembering this incident makes me very funny), we tried again and it was more bearable. In general, people (girls) should stop whining so much for the first time, because the more you imagine romance and ideal moments, the more you get disappointed when it all goes to hell. I was very upset then, because I wanted it to be like in the movies and to be perfect, but what happened ... a waterfall of blood, a vomiting boyfriend and went to the cinema excitement: D Ahh yes, and then I had cystitis and ran to the toilet every 5 minutes - that's why with lubricant :) F 22

   It depends on the person next to you. My husband was very careful, I was 18 when we first did it, he had more experience than me. But I felt almost nothing, he was very careful and calm, and I had no blood, nothing. So everyone is different.