Hello! First of all, I apologize if the topic is in the wrong category. So - I know that one of the many similar topics, but for me maybe the situation is a little different. I am 18 years old and she is 17. I have known the girl for 8 years. I have been feeling feelings for her for 2 years now, whenever I am with her and other friends I try to pay her as much attention as possible, to entertain her, etc. She trusts me, for example she gives me to play with her hair or to I tease her, etc. My concern is that if I offer her, for example, we could ruin our friendship. If anyone has had a similar case, I would ask them to share how things went. Thanks in advance!
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I guess everyone has had a similar case - it's part of growing up. Most boys in your situation never do anything to "not ruin their friendship", which leads to exactly that - they ruin their friendship, because sooner or later the girl will find another. Besides - believe me - you don't need such a "friendship". So you have nothing to lose. Invite her to meetings - just the two of you and when you feel the moment - offer. If you feel that there is no such interest on her part - withdraw, wait for it to pass and find another.
Hey, I like this 'I like you very much', if you explain to me what it means, I will answer you too. For now, here's the answer: Either you love someone or you don't like it. I like puppies too. Habit and attachment are different. Assessing someone as a cool person is third. To feel the pleasure of communicating with someone - is the fourth and so on. In a relationship - all these factors must be present, you can not be with someone just because it encourages, supports and makes you feel good, sexual relationship - no, mother-child relationship - yes, it looks like her. You've known her for 8 years, you've seen her as a very little girl, don't you think you like her as a sister? Why do you need to screw up your relationship? Because you're a teenager with rabid hormones ... Find a girlfriend for a relationship and leave the girl, you don't love her, you'll only hurt her.
From the author: First of all, thanks for the answers. Maybe it would be best to really find another girl. It will be difficult for me to swallow this, that's why I decided to do sports, at least not to think about it, and who knows - every evil for good. Thanks again for your feedback, I thought about it and maybe this is really the right decision!
Dude, it's not about offering her or not focusing on this "offering" at all .. you've known each other for a long time and it's very nice and there's nothing wrong with telling her you like her and experiencing something more than friendly feelings, you will not lose anything .. or you will look at her in love with remorse that you can do nothing or you will reveal to her what you feel, you do not know at all what will happen in her head, be a man in this life with "if" nothing is achieved. I personally would take a risk, because I have to reach peace of mind anyway, and I would be calmer if I knew the answer to the question in my head "whether it will respond to me or not"