I Have No One To Communicate With

   It is not from before and now. People are the same, only we grew up. I'm 35 and I'm in your position too. There is literally no one to drink a coffee. The reason is that everyone around me already has families or serious relationships and stays at home with my partner and children. I don't blame them, I would do the same in their place. I just haven't been able to meet the right woman so far, and it's a lot harder now.

   I feel and think exactly the same, but I think it's due to the fact that I moved to a bigger city, where I didn't want to make lasting friendships. Even if there is an old acquaintance with whom I talk, albeit rarely, they still misunderstand me and get angry. If I am positive, they accept that I brag and humiliate them. If I talk about problems, I burden them with negativity. Apparently, the more informed the society, the more paranoia haunts everyone and behind-the-scenes thoughts and reflections.

   And I would like just that type of communication. :(

   30 is an age when you are already reaping the fruits of what you did in the most important part of your life. They watched more fun / did nonsense, and now you remember what they take ... The other side of the question is that we live in an information age, we are irradiated everywhere with everything, everything requires attention ... And not to say, but 99% of people are not able to weed out the meaningful from the meaningless. That's why I stopped communicating directly or in writing with anyone. They have priorities, so do I. And I try to invest my time in something meaningful that develops me as a person. Sometimes a person really communicates with him, but you just have to go out or dig through the internet to see the ubiquitous degeneration, and say to yourself - no, thank you. Better a poor horse than no horse at all. This is a big social topic, not something isolated, to have a private debate and decision. Learn to be alone, "before" will not return, time only flows forward unfortunately ...

   Come out with me.

   Well, you are probably in such an environment ... we in our company go out for a beer at least once a week, but most often we get together at least twice, sometimes on Sundays ... Sign up for dancing ...

   I explain it by the fact that people, around 30, are already married and engaged, with children and other responsibilities. It's not like 20 years old. I'm 31 and I also rarely go out. Unless it's a place suitable for a 4-year-old :) Unfortunately, this is the truth.

   The main reason everything has changed is that we have changed. I'm also in my 30s. I'm not a teenager or a student anymore. My thinking has changed. You have no one to communicate with because you are closed to communication. True, current communication is different from "that" time. But communication is there. These things may seem pointless. But they are not. They are meaningless to you, so you ignore them. They ignore you because they can't understand what you're telling them. New things are not evil. They are used more than the old ones because they are practical. Someone from the era of telegraph communication will think of us as super complicated, because they will not know what this touchscreen is. The new things are practical and have an internal logic. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones and you will see that you are not alone. "I have no one to communicate with." Really? !! Aren't you on a lonely island or in a prison cell? And there are people who, on a lonely island and in solitary confinement, find someone to communicate with. "There's no one for a beer." Buy a cash register in Kamenitza and distribute them in the neighborhood and see if there are any. I am ready to communicate. And I would drink a beer even though I am a Muslim. And I will write to you. And now please do not hide behind such excuses that there is no one. Here you have at least one. Success!

   If they avoid you, then something in your approach to them is lame ... And at 30 it is normal to have 1-2 children on your head, for example, to build a fork or another house, and not to have time even for yourself, let alone Is it for outings and ligatures ... I'm in a slightly different age group - before the 50s, and I don't miss communication at all, friends, relatives, now even children's friends ... We go out, we have picnics, cultural events (theater) , cinema), sometimes we play computer games, seas, mountains, walks in the park, evening guests. Especially Friday night and weekend :)

   How many years ago people were completely different. You don't say how old you are, but you have requirements that they be around 30. And don't you want them to be in their 50s? Maybe you're looking in the wrong age group. If there are no normal people around 30 for you, this tells me that the problem is in you. When was the last time you had sex with a man (or a woman), maybe that's what weighs the most on you?

   It will get worse and worse, unfortunately. Too many people are literally preoccupied with the shallow but broad virtuality and transfer it to a reality that is less and less familiar and understandable to them. Both men and women, but for some women simply because of the nature of the woman shines as a slightly brighter example of this.

   I am a 26-year-old girl and I am in the same situation, only I am constantly changing my place of residence and I cannot make a lasting friendship. Didn't you say what city you're from?

   If this counts as communication - you have. It's a pity you want it to be real. It's complicated there. You don't write what you do. If you are unemployed, find a job in an area where you are in contact with more people - something in the social, in a larger company or store. You need an environment. Otherwise it does not happen. And enough with these requirements - about 30. People are people. you can work with both 20 and 50 year olds. And from me success!

   And I'm just that I'm abroad and it's 100 times harder to build friendships outside of the work environment. My colleagues from work called me to get together, but I don't feel them so close, they are not nice to me to go, foreigners, they invited me several times, I didn't go and they stopped calling me. I also had a full childhood with friends, going out, various incidents, I didn't go home for days, after a while everyone got somewhere and everything disappeared now I don't even know who is where. Sometimes I get very nostalgic for the past and the place where I grew up , the people and friends I grew up with. I don't know if it's good or bad, but I'm used to it myself.

   9 and 10 infuriated me a lot with their impudence, that's why I will sound a little rude. number 9, my one who has children is simply obliged to be part of ligatures;) Otherwise, a fork at the age of 30 more Bulgarians do not have the opportunity to have, let alone tighten. Well, unless it is hereditary, but in this case they rarely have the extra money. You are another generation from another time - think about it. And another thing, if the author was a man, would you still say that it is normal to have 1-2 children. As for them, nowadays so many 30-year-olds have children, even 2 .. Who are you to allow yourself to say when it is normal for a person to have children. Or he may not want children. The topic is not for children, nor for love - it is no coincidence that it is neither in the family section, nor in the section love and infidelity. Also, each generation is different. And so you boasted, that I even wondered how you managed to share. you can't get there with this busy schedule, which sweetly presented us. 10, of course the author is about 30. And I feel like you got it very well. If sex could replace communication, it would be an easy job. You sound like a pretty disgusting uncle to me, who at every opportunity looks to promote himself to young women and girls, brrr that's disgusting. If the topic was started by a boy, you wouldn't be promoting his 50-year-old, would you? Otherwise, it is clear that the author is most likely isolated from her peers, for one or several reasons, her life may have turned out this way, her work may be like this, many things may be, but should you allow yourself to are you writing such nonsense to her? To deal with 50-year-olds? It's best to tell your children to deal with 50-year-olds! Not that anything against the elderly,

   I will give advice to the author - like a hobby that has more fans, then join a facebook group related to this hobby and when it's time to meet go. This way you will meet new people and you can get along with someone. For example, I can tell you that if you buy a motorcycle and you are in Sofia at any time you can find a friend to ride together and drink coffee afterwards.

   15, out of many "promotions", you brought it here. And yet, you will get much worse, I remember the word, mostly because "you understand everything", but I wonder why then nothing works for you? I have lived my life to a great extent - I have a wife, our children are big, we have financially secured for the old days, and the cottages and houses are ready. Now we have 10-15 quiet creative years ahead of us, and then we are waiting for grandchildren. So you promote yourself, number 15, to us, when it was our time, we promoted ourselves, quite successfully. And if we're disgusting, heh, walking and watching the young - I'm sick. It's like I'm in America 30 years ago. Not only disgusting, but with absolute beetles in the head. To all the younger ones, I "promote" them to come and run in the morning, and also to save from what they earn, instead of wasting it on nonsense. But there is no one upstairs - they know more ... Well, come on health, and good luck with the promotions :)

   So am I, I'm 32 and I'm lonely. The interesting thing is that I know the reason - it's me.

   17, you better last, because your generation is responsible for the creation and development of chalga culture. Years ago, your generation massively opened and ran greasy pubs and discos. Your generation has been playing tricks and some of you are still doing it. Your generation is the parent of phenomena like 'Suzanne', also a mass of teenagers who are constantly depressed, cut themselves, have panic attacks, have sex at the age of 11, etc. Focus on looking closely at your children, although 'already big', because it is precisely those where you confuse minds here and there that it usually turns out that you haven't raised your children. I don't know what those 10-15 'creative years' you will drive will be, but if they will be shared. net and playing computer games just pity me. And since there is no one to run with in the morning, call your wife to run with you.

   Run in the morning in the park. Get a dog. Sign up for folk dances. Fitness. Take another look at colleagues, this is a good option. Communicate with neighbors. Maybe a grandmother introduced you to her granddaughter. Smile at people, it is very predisposing. People are better and more responsive than they look in the morning on the subway and on the street. Two days ago I was in an unfamiliar neighborhood, everyone I asked for directions was very, very kind. Just communicate with all the people around you.

   There are apps like tinder through which you can connect with girls, women or other boys. As they wrote, choose a hobby and join a Facebook group. Here are at least two ways to communicate.

   19, I don't worry at all - I just wrote you off. You are so stupid, narcissistic, feminized and I don't know what else, that you won't even be able to come to your senses. And even if it happens to you in some way, you will certainly not see grandchildren, because your children will be copies of yourself. Yes, it is very convenient that "our generation" is to blame for everything! Like your uncle Boyko ... Our generation, "my" girl, was busy with survival, unlike yours, which is characterized mostly by doing nothing, with pretensions and with great self-confidence without coverage. Secondly, look how smart you are: "I don't know what those 10-15 'creative years' you will drive will be, but if they are in shared. Net and playing computer games, I'm sorry." I bet you don't know the meaning of the word "creative" at all. because apart from the consumerism, the hairstyles, the manicures and the "career" you know nothing else in this life. And some people write articles, scientific papers, compositions, poems ... Our heads are not promas with shares. net and computer games, because we grew up without them ... But look - you will certainly sink into what you imagine, simply because your imagination can not think of anything different. Thirty years ago, you were not at all able to judge whether America was bad or good, as Bulgaria was, by the way. So all you "know" about it is a parrot-like repetition of other people's stories and brainwashing. And here - again "mind" gives me - what to do with my children and my wife! You are great connoisseurs! Look at the topic in which you write "I have no one to communicate with" - well, you won't! People are not idiots to tolerate your nonsense! He comes here and starts insulting - what a disgusting uncle I was (I came here to count killers like you - it's like you're the big deal) and what was my generation ... and what are YOU? Shit with leeks ... The problem is that you can't even look at yourself from the side, what a pathetic picture you are, how you don't look like anything and nothing human is left in you. An endless, immoral, stupid table ala gay, ala gender, but something like nothing, calling black "white" and vice versa. No discipline, no humanity, convinced that with money they will buy everything that goes with companions, uses stimulants, spits on everything before him. Well, nothing - you are the crown of evolution. Thanks! He comes here and starts insulting - what a disgusting uncle I was (I came here to count killers like you - it's like you're the big deal) and what was my generation ... and what are YOU? Shit with leeks ... The problem is that you can't even look at yourself from the side, what a pathetic picture you are, how you don't look like anything and nothing human is left in you. An endless, immoral, stupid table ala gay, ala gender, but something like nothing, calling black "white" and vice versa. No discipline, no humanity, convinced that with money they will buy everything that goes with companions, uses stimulants, spits on everything before him. Well, nothing - you are the crown of evolution. Thanks! He comes here and starts insulting - what a disgusting uncle I was (I came here to count killers like you - it's like you're the big deal) and what was my generation ... and what are YOU? Shit with leeks ... The problem is that you can't even look at yourself from the side, what a pathetic picture you are, how you don't look like anything and nothing human is left in you. An endless, immoral, stupid table ala gay, ala gender, but something like nothing, calling black "white" and vice versa. No discipline, no humanity, convinced that with money they will buy everything that goes with companions, uses stimulants, spits on everything before him. Well, nothing - you are the crown of evolution. Thanks! how you are like nothing and nothing human is left in you. An endless, immoral, stupid table ala gay, ala gender, but something like nothing, calling black "white" and vice versa. No discipline, no humanity, convinced that with money they will buy everything that goes with companions, uses stimulants, spits on everything before him. Well, nothing - you are the crown of evolution. Thanks! how you are like nothing and nothing human is left in you. An endless, immoral, stupid table ala gay, ala gender, but something like nothing, calling black "white" and vice versa. No discipline, no humanity, convinced that with money they will buy everything that goes with companions, uses stimulants, spits on everything before him. Well, nothing - you are the crown of evolution. Thanks!

   22, with this comment made me smile, so I gave you 1 excellent vote. So I will not claim how much I know the meaning of the word 'creative', I will just tell you that I earn my living precisely with creativity. Yes, I earn and support myself from my work, and if this is to be called a 'career' or a 'career', whoever puts anything into these words, so be it. I would do the same even if I were a rich heiress, of course I wouldn't be looking for money then. Thirty years ago, you certainly weren't able to judge America, or many other things, when you claimed you were close to 50, because then you were close to 20. And you exaggerated a lot by saying that you had to you survive 'your peers .. So, if we think a little more, every living person is forced to survive, he will not. But the people who REALLY had to struggle with SURVIVAL were my PARENTS, who were 30 years old and had just had a baby when the society fell, their peers and in general those who were married with babies and little ones. children. And you and your peers, as the socialist has fallen, were still yesterday's L - I will not say this word, because it is not typical for my vocabulary, but I saw that it is for yours. You have just started your life and you are free to do what you want and go where you want. And if for a moment you manage to abstract from the rage that has overtaken you, you will see that in fact I did not call you a disgusting uncle, but number 10. What I did not approve of in your first speech I have clearly described in comment15, if you want to reread it in a sober head - you will see that I turned to you first (9) and then to the 10th. And in this connection - irritated means that I made up your mind what to do with your wife and children. Didn't you do the same in comment9? That you even bragged, but you were supposedly brought up in society and it is assumed that you should not lack modesty. Otherwise, if I had to define you, I would just call you a big complex.

   n23, any person with average intelligence can answer this question at a glance. Which you obviously don't have. Which confirms the words of n9, 17, 22.

   Many of us have fallen into such a hole - when work squeezes you you do not have much strength in your free time to actively seek contacts, which does not mean that you do not want to be able to go out for a coffee with someone. What I did - I enrolled in various courses - language, cooking, financial investment. In such places you can meet people of the same age with similar interests, and you are busy and do not have much time to feel sorry for yourself.

   You're obviously an old girl, or maybe you're already fat? Here's a practical idea - buy an Alfa Romeo, join a sect and have to communicate with other owners. Well, if you don't care about cars, you'll just listen, but it's still good. You may be crammed into one of them, so it's worth the investment.

   27 - what does the subject have to do with whether the author is an old or a new girl, or whether she weighs 500 kg? Stop killing your complexes in the forum. If you can't be helpful to people who genuinely want advice, then don't comment.

   I'm calm, I'm 21 and from now on I'm in such a situation. Except that I can't understand why 90% of the people I know who "get dirty" should be with their halves non-stop .... in the sense that they don't even go out anymore, so once a week you just work and sit. at home, what if they are 30 .... I don't know, I don't understand that either

   I'm a 30-year-old woman, and I'll tell you what it's like to sit at home - depression. And you see what happens if / when one of those you mentioned guesses .. in fact - better not do, and run with 300 ;-)

   And I can't explain that to myself. It's as if they're glued to each other. And they tell me - when you have a relationship it is so. Well, if that's the connection, I don't want to have one at all. Where are the normal people you can call for a coffee?