Hello! I read the stories on the site and find a lot of encouraging advice. However, I do not find the strength to deal with my problems. The problem is that I have been married for 1 month, but my husband and I do not get along. He is very good with friends, colleagues and everyone else, but he treats me terribly. At the slightest remark, it raises a scandal and we cannot understand each other as normal people. Besides, I'm pregnant, but that doesn't stop her from arguing with me. Otherwise, he is very nice to our pregnant acquaintances, even borrowed money and so on. He demonstrated that I meant nothing to him and that the blame was on me. I don't have to say what I think to ask him where he goes, I don't care who calls in the middle of the night. Please advice, I don't know what to do.
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Well, go away. If it's as you say - there's no point in standing. Talk to him, if things don't work out - leave. Just because you have a signature doesn't mean you have to ruin your life. Success!
It seems to me that you have come across some absolute despot and tyrant. Before you got married, you didn't mention how he behaved. And how come you have no right to express your opinion and ask questions, so that you are not some stupid idiot, whose place is only by the stove. What a miracle this is. I don't know what advice to give you, I have been married for a long time and I have 2 children, but such a thing has not happened to me. Talk to him, set conditions for him, if necessary go to yours for a while. If he loves you, he will look for you and ask for forgiveness if you don't lose him while it's time. Such are the kind men who do not know what they want. Good luck.
no advice, but a question WHY did you get married? and more precisely YOU, with what intelligence you were attached to him, so now you will probably just have to itch where you crushed him ... unless the divorce procedure and the independent birth and raising of a child do not attract you, think a little !!! don't overdo it, obviously you don't feel like it, but at least A LITTLE!
Honey, why did you get married only a month ago? What month are you in? Wasn't he like that before you got married? From what you have written, I am left with the impression that you signed under duress because of the pregnancy because of the question "what will people say"? with you or not. And the one who writes: "such are the men" does not understand anything. She writes to herself that she does not know what to advise you. You cannot equate all men and all women. Otherwise there would be only happy or only unhappy marriages.
If you really want advice from people who don't know you, you should be more specific in presenting the situation you are in. How can someone take a relationship without knowing in which month you are pregnant, can you count on someone's support if you are left alone to raise your child, what was the relationship with your husband before marriage and last but not least, what you yourself want from life. Without these details, your words sound like an outpouring of pain, not a search for a constructive solution. If so, I sympathize with you! Remember that everyone on this earth has a right to happiness. You and your unborn child too!
Number 3 don't do that, my ex-husband and I were boyfriends for 4 years and everything was great. When we got married, I was pregnant and after 2 weeks I was wondering: Who is this, God? In front of friends and acquaintances he was great and good. I didn't leave and he ruined my life. Author, if there is a place to go immediately do it!
"What you sow - you will reap! It's your fault, why didn't you think before ????? ?
Run while it's time. Better earlier, before your child grows up. He will suffer like you, and your suffering will be double. The sooner you escape, the easier it will be for you. I didn't do it years ago and now I'm trapped.
Break up with him, no matter how hard it is for you and no, do not think that when the child appears it will be a long time. It won't be, it will be even worse. I say this from an experience similar to yours. Now the little one is one year old and she already sees the scandals ... I will leave, but we are not in Bulgaria and I am waiting ...
run, this is the beginning of the end, believe me.It is easier for men to pose than to take responsibility, it is not worth bothering, better alone than with a man who does not know what he wants.Run, men are лиглёвци!
"Run while it's time. Better earlier, before your child grows up. He will suffer like you, and your suffering will be doubled. The sooner you run away, the easier it will be for you. I will not. I did it years ago and now I am trapped. " to live - you can divorce happily ...)
This is the answer and you know it very well: GET OUT OF IT, IT WILL NOT BE GOOD. It can get worse, but not better. Don't believe those who tell you "talk to him", you can't talk. And that you had nowhere to go is not true. At least you can go back to where you came from. You will have a child, do not ruin his life. Please don't let your child be ruined out of cowardice ... this lowly guy you met, if he behaves like that from now on, what will happen in 10, 15 years? In what environment, in what environment will your child live?!? I'm not a pickle, I'm a 52-year-old woman.
ST1: Drop that bastard right away. Having a child by him is not a reason to be with him and suffer humiliation from his contemptuous behavior and constant scandals. He is neither a man nor a man, so this simpleton does not deserve such a woman. He obviously doesn't love you and won't change no matter what he says. There is nothing wrong with saying leave it because it will continue to ruin your life and some day that of the child.
I think dump it! It's not worth wasting your life on garbage !!
I have one at home. I have been living with him for 40 years. With a higher education, he held a responsible position. He has been retired for 7-8 years. I have two sons with him. I think I'm a serious person and I've done a lot of things in my life. But the only thing I couldn't do was make him change his attitude towards me. It's the same as you describe. I decided he was killing inferiority complexes, I just closed the door on him and left him to talk to himself. I don't put all men under one denominator, but it's very complicated with them. If it's good today, you don't know what it will be like tomorrow. Do not rely too much on any man, but take matters into your own hands and fix your life.
This man will ruin your life. If you stay, it will ruin your child's life, the sooner you do it, the better. Meeting such people marks you for life.