I am 23 years old, so my story is not just another teenage fabrication. I've been dating a 3-year-old boy. We are not poor, but we cannot get 50 thousand. to buy a house in a pile, and I DON'T WANT to commit to a loan. He makes me live in them ... But his family is AWFUL. His father is not his real father, he has a younger sister just in his teens, and his mother, no matter how hard I try to like her, I can't. I dare not leave anything in them, because they touch everything. From sanitary napkins to my socks, my dirty socks take them, wash them and wear them in front of me without any worries. His sister is terribly annoying, she stays with us all the time, my friend chases her, but she turns to him and says "I will stay to keep you company". His mother is the biggest failure as a mother. She can't cook, she can't clean, she is lazy and she is very mean. At first glance, she looks very nice, but I'm constantly affected. One example: I was going to make I pie and because there was no carbonated water (there is never anything in them, not even sugar for your coffee!) And it was raining outside, I called tomorrow I will make it and buy gas. water. Yes, however, she told me "Well, why did you start making a pie when you can't" O_O and I explain like a normal person that it rains, there is no water, etc. and she told me I'll go, as I'm bored. .. And it turns out very stupid because she will go just to humiliate me. I took an umbrella, not that it made sense, I went to the store and came back, but my friend had to go to work urgently and because he has a car, but his father does not have it and literally took his and I drove it. I'm coming back, she drank the soda ... that's if it's not on purpose. Another example: I constantly drive her to the village and because "her husband" is too lazy to come and pick her up and she always carries some rubbish and gets the car dirty a lot, but I don't tell her anything. Once, when she left the village, she wanted to take two hens, she was going to slaughter them in the city, and I told her that they would get a lot dirty to slaughter them here, and she replied, "I don't have time," but I was fed up and said no. to take them and she left the hens DON'T KILL THEM but started sweeping the yard, I asked her when we were going to leave because she and I were in a hurry and she replied "I still have work to do, I have to do it". I can give you many more examples of it. While we have sex with my boyfriend, she enters the room without even knocking, sits on HIS laptop and rummages through the net ... This is only a small part of what I want to write, so if you don't read better, stop here. His father is the biggest breadwinner in the world, he only knows how to shout give me this, give me that, do this, do that. I'm like a taxi for his family. He lay down, put his feet on the table, and my friend's mother called to pick her up from work, and he looked at me and said with kind eyes, "Are you going to pick her up," and I didn't say anything the first few times , but once it happened that I didn't have gas, I only had enough to go home and I told him I didn't have gas and he called me "isn't that how you won't go and come back". When something is not his cry and insults a lot. He insults his wife with very ugly words "Merla, idiot, goat ..." and that in front of his daughter without worrying. He ruined my friend's car, smashed it and folded it everywhere, and didn't even bother to return it to him soon. I have nothing to say about his friend's sister, she is a one-to-one copy of her mother. My friend is a completely different type of person, as if he is not from their family. During the short time we are alone, he behaves great with me. I've told him a thousand times how hard it is for his family to treat me like that, he remarks to them, once we quarreled again over his mother and he defended her. I felt super naughty, but in the end I can't make him choose between me and his family. I was between a rock and a hard place and I know what it is. All his grandparents, aunts, relatives, etc. like me very much and treat me well, but his parents and sister are AD. His work is very hard and he slows down a lot during the day and the only time we can see each other is in the evening after 12:00 when theirs fall asleep and he stays almost every night until 1:00, 2: 00 awake because of me and gets up at 7:00. I don't know how to act. However, this is only a small part of the things I want to share with someone, but no one. I had so many friends, and now I have only one and she is in Greece. Lately we have been arguing a lot, and all the time there are serious scandals, and I roam the city like an owl at night and wonder who to go to and who to talk to, and every time I find out that I have no one to talk to. My family is the typical average family. My mother is a terribly good person. She cooks great and that's one of the reasons my friend and I only eat at home. My mother is very calm and patient, she takes care of us, my father. I once saw them arguing over money. However, I don't have this relationship with my mother like the other girls, I can't sit down and talk to her about relationships with boys or sex. My sister is in 6th grade, so I'm writing her off. My father is a strange person. He gives me everything, what I didn't ask for, he didn't buy it for me, but on the other hand, everything comes out threefold. When we gather somewhere at a table or as a guest and he starts explaining how we harassed him, how we strained him and just spent his money, we didn't give him anything, it's good that he was, otherwise we were lost. And this is not true, everything he bought me he bought it with desire and pleasure, I never drove it by force and I never shook like a little baby for something. He likes to humiliate us and make fun of us, not in any rude way, but he does. When they break me on an exam and he starts talking about how you only gave the money for education, I didn't think about anything, I just spent his money in front of other people. I can't explain to him, that it's normal to be torn in one or two exams, I can't catch up so fast, provided I'm part-time and working. Don't get me wrong, he's a great father, but he loves to brag. So I have a big family and many acquaintances, but no friends. Many betrayed me and knocked down friends and relatives and I ignored them one by one at one point it turned out that I was left alone. I get together a lot and more and more often I break out in front of my friend and make fun of him. I know it's not right and I wonder how she still tolerates me. I said such a rude word about his mother and he was always silent and said nothing to me. No matter how bad a mother you have, you will not be happy to hear her insulted, and I have insulted her a lot in front of him. I have told him many things in plain text about the relationship between us and my relationship with others. A year ago I had a big problem with my ovaries, but everything went well. I had lost the desire for sex for about 3 months, but he understood me and did not even think for a second to go to someone else and patiently waited for me to take the initiative without him forcing me. We've been doing it less and less since then, whether it's because I'm constantly nervous or because he's tired, I don't know, but somehow I think it's at the bottom of it all. That's why I'm so blown away, tender, nervous and devastated. We love each other very much and neither he nor I want to separate, but I don't know how to solve our problems. Almost every week there are scandals in which I wash my eyes, and he gets nervous to the max and I think he will not last another night like last night. I want us to stop arguing, to separate from our families, and things will fall into place. I have a job at the moment, but it is not serious and very lucrative enough to spend for me. He wanted us to take out a loan, but I am so afraid of this loan and I am convinced that we will totally get out and get stuck if we take out one. Ours are too young to go to the village and leave us the apartment, and theirs do not want to attribute it to him. In my opinion, when it is a boy and a girl, it is right for the apartment to go to the boy. And his sister is only 15 ... His mother and father are building their house in their village, repairing it, but they would live in both places. Is this right? His mother was pushing him with a truck to take out a loan, but he came to his senses and did not take it out. It's very hard for me, very ... Thank you for reading everything, if you have read it. I want advice and help, but that's enough for me, but I just shared it with someone :) Monica, Sh. but it's not serious and very lucrative enough to spend on me. He wanted us to take out a loan, but I am so afraid of this loan and I am convinced that we will totally break down and get stuck if we take out one. Ours are too young to go to the village and leave us the apartment, and theirs do not want to attribute it to him. In my opinion, when it is a boy and a girl, it is right for the apartment to go to the boy. And his sister is only 15 ... His mother and father are building their house in their village, repairing it, but they would live in both places. Is this right? His mother was pushing him with a truck to take out a loan, but he came to his senses and did not take it out. It's very hard for me, very ... Thank you for reading everything, if you have read it. I want advice and help, but that's enough for me, but I just shared it with someone :) Monica, Sh. but it's not serious and very lucrative enough to spend on me. He wanted us to take out a loan, but I am so afraid of this loan and I am convinced that we will totally get out and get stuck if we take out one. Ours are too young to go to the village and leave us the apartment, and theirs do not want to attribute it to him. In my opinion, when they are a boy and a girl, it is right for the apartment to go to the boy. And his sister is only 15 ... His mother and father are building their house in their village, repairing it, but they would live in both places. Is this right? His mother was pushing him with a truck to take out a loan, but he came to his senses and did not take it out. It's very hard for me, very ... Thank you for reading everything, if you have read it. I want advice and help, but that's enough for me, but I've only shared it with someone :) Monica, Sh. He wanted us to take out a loan, but I am so afraid of this loan and I am convinced that we will totally get out and get stuck if we take out one. Ours are too young to go to the village and leave us the apartment, and theirs do not want to attribute it to him. In my opinion, when it is a boy and a girl, it is right for the apartment to go to the boy. And his sister is only 15 ... His mother and father are building their house in their village, repairing it, but they would live in both places. Is this right? His mother was pushing him with a truck to take out a loan, but he came to his senses and did not take it out. It's very hard for me, very ... Thank you for reading everything, if you have read it. I want advice and help, but that's enough for me, but I just shared it with someone :) Monica, Sh. He wanted us to take out a loan, but I am so afraid of this loan and I am convinced that we will totally break down and get stuck if we take out one. Ours are too young to go to the village and leave us the apartment, and theirs do not want to attribute it to him. In my opinion, when they are a boy and a girl, the apartment should go to the boy. And his sister is only 15 ... His mother and father are building their house in their village, repairing it, but they would live in both places. Is this right? His mother was pushing him with a truck to take out a loan, but he came to his senses and did not take it out. It's very hard for me, very ... Thank you for reading everything, if you have read it. I want advice and help, but that's enough for me, but I just shared it with someone :) Monica, Sh. however, I am so afraid of this loan and I am convinced that we will totally break down and get stuck if we take one out. Ours are too young to go to the village and leave us the apartment, and theirs do not want to attribute it to him. In my opinion, when they are a boy and a girl, it is right for the apartment to go to the boy. And his sister is only 15 ... His mother and father are building their house in their village, repairing it, but they would live in both places. Is this right? His mother was pushing him with a truck to take out a loan, but he came to his senses and did not take it out. It's very hard for me, very ... Thank you for reading everything, if you have read it. I want advice and help, but that's enough for me, but I've only shared it with someone :) Monica, Sh. however, I am so afraid of this loan and I am convinced that we will totally break down and get stuck if we take one out. Ours are too young to go to the village and leave us the apartment, and theirs do not want to attribute it to him. In my opinion, when it is a boy and a girl, it is right for the apartment to go to the boy. And his sister is only 15 ... His mother and father are building their house in their village, repairing it, but they would live in both places. Is this right? His mother was pushing him with a truck to take out a loan, but he came to his senses and did not take it out. It's very hard for me, very ... Thank you for reading everything, if you have read it. I want advice and help, but that's enough for me, but I just shared it with someone :) Monica, Sh. In my opinion, when it is a boy and a girl, it is right for the apartment to go to the boy. And his sister is only 15 ... His mother and father are building their house in their village, repairing it, but they would live in both places. Is this right? His mother was pushing him with a truck to take out a loan, but he came to his senses and did not take it out. It's very hard for me, very ... Thank you for reading everything, if you have read it. I want advice and help, but that's enough for me, but I just shared it with someone :) Monica, Sh. In my opinion, when it is a boy and a girl, it is right for the apartment to go to the boy. And his sister is only 15 ... His mother and father are building their house in their village, repairing it, but they would live in both places. Is this right? His mother was pushing him with a truck to take out a loan, but he came to his senses and did not take it out. It's very hard for me, very ... Thank you for reading everything, if you have read it. I want advice and help, but that's enough for me, but I just shared it with someone :) Monica, Sh.
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Look, you cook the problems yourself and you sip your soup accordingly. At 23 no one has their own home, but there are also accommodations. If you live in the countryside for no more than BGN 150-200, you will have a nice studio for both of you - that's what you pay for cars and nonsense at the moment. Don't complain, just grab and do something. And if I had your problems ... Laura
Hi, Monica. I read the whole story you wrote and I'm sure there's a lot more. Tip: strictly consider your financial affairs with your boyfriend and it's no wonder that with all the gasoline and the time you spend with mothers and others, it can be used for something useful. If you love your friend, the answer is one - you start a second job, take the least you can and dive into the new life. I was in the same situation 19 years ago. I worked almost around the clock for about six years. Now I have an apartment, money for a vacation and I have no loan. You will cope together. But talk to the person next to you. If you are going to be together, he needs to know how you feel. I wish you success. Roses
Your story is very interesting, I read it to the end. It is clear that your life seems to be in a pit and there is no way out, only tension, quarrels and scandals. But still nothing is lost. It is completely natural, in my opinion, not every family of our relatives and friends, but as in your case, a serious friend is not with a perfect family. Not all parents have positive traits, some have bad ones, but the important thing is that your friend is a good person and you love each other. It is true that the actions of your friend's mother and his father are not right, but obviously their behavior is like that, it does not mean that there is no way out. It just takes patience and compromise on both sides. It is really the right decision to separate just the two of you somewhere and take a break from the tension in the families, but there is not always such an opportunity, somehow you have to have patience and more confidence to know that you will handle everything. According to the descriptions, your family is very good and dedicated, your father rather does not want to humiliate, but just as every parent thinks well of their child and wants the best for him, so some parents are strict and demanding. Anyway, the important thing in the end is that your friend tries to listen and be patient because of the tension around you. This is the most important thing to always have someone by your side to help you and so everything bad will pass. I hope I helped with something. girl, 15 years old therefore, some parents are strict and demanding. Anyway, the important thing in the end is that your friend tries to listen and be patient because of the tension around you. This is the most important thing to always have someone by your side to help you and so everything bad will pass. I hope I helped with something. girl, 15 years old therefore, some parents are strict and demanding. Anyway, the important thing in the end is that your friend tries to listen and be patient because of the tension around you. This is the most important thing to always have someone by your side to help you and so everything bad will pass. I hope I helped with something. girl, 15 years old
Option: I don't know what city you are from, but I guess it's not Sofia. I could be wrong! If you are not from Sofia, look for both jobs in the capital. I think it will be more profitable and you can rent accommodation. At the moment the prices are terribly low. Many people have started like this. I guess an obstacle is studying. It would be best to finish first, but how long it will cost you - I have no idea. In any case, it would be better to be separate from his parents - there are no two opinions! Success!
Why are you slapping yourself? Take a stay and you will be calm. That way, there will be no one to annoy and interrupt you in the tender moments, and from a distance you can at least start enduring your friend's family. Because at some point he will get tired of hearing words against his mother and will show you the door.
From the author To 1. I want to get a place to stay, but if we do so we will never be able to raise funds to buy something of our own. We will have children in time and they must follow the same path as we do. There will be nothing to leave them, where will they live? Up to 4. No, we are not from Sofia. If we are going to leave this city and go somewhere to work, it will be abroad for 2, 3 years. I am not greedy, I just want enough to take a house, then we will return. I like Bulgaria, but I can't live in Sofia. I'm not used to madness and tension.
So what I learned from your story: you can't live this way anymore, you don't feel happy, they use you and they harass you. You don't want to take out a home loan, but you're waiting for someone to go to the countryside and leave you in their apartment. Now, I watched this village moving movie with my father-in-law and mother-in-law, the difference being that I didn't believe it and didn't live with them because I knew what was going to happen. Yes, it's true, we have a marriage, and that changes things a lot. We took out a loan a few months ago and will repay it in 20 years. This is how many other families live. And I had never had loans, but never. But now I have. And a mortgage. No way. The important thing is to take the first step. You say you are not poor, so there is a chance that your parents will help. I do not persuade you to dive deep with credit and an apartment. For starters, go out to lodging. You will see how you will handle the costs yourself, you will learn to do the math. You will be just the two of you. Believe me, no matter how difficult it is, if you love and understand and think alike, things will work out. It's a cliché, but it's been tested. Live for a while, calm down. Consider whether you can look in one direction and act. You can't change everyone around you. Take your life into your own hands.
I don't think you will be together for long if you continue like this. At some point, someone will get tired of the situation and leave. I hope it's not you, as far as I understand you love your friend. Don't think about unborn Petko at the moment (meaning for future children and how they will live) but live your life the way you both understand and want it. A home without a loan or cash nowadays is difficult to buy, it is difficult to save thousands only from salaries in Bulgaria and not everyone abroad is lucky enough to save for a home. Be a little over things (I know it's hard) but one day you will not regret the wasted years and youth, because life passes and only we choose how to live it.
It's like I wrote it, only 15 years ago. I had the same situation, the same problems, the same good aunts and uncles of my husband. Only my hopes were higher because he is the only son / I have no anger /, but on the other hand I have a mother-in-law three evils in one. The only way out: Accommodation, then a mortgage loan. You will understand that most of the commenters are right, you just have to go the same way and you went there. Don't wait for someone to leave you a house, think about it, you pay for the house with your nerves. The mental health of a young girl is far more important than half a dumb 40 year old panel. The panel for which you give your health today will fall by itself in only 15 years. The advantages of the accommodation at this time, which you describe, are much more than a momentary roof. The peace of your husband and yours are more important than BGN 200 per month, if you continue like this, tomorrow you will give BGN 500 for medicines per month just for yourself. I went slightly out in the eighth month and now I pay BGN 100 for medicines a month to get sick, I got an ulcer, asthma, breast cancer from nerves. And why do I already have the dream home / we paid off the loan / I have a child but I have no health. And the mother-in-law continues to live in her apartment, I'm glad at least that I have no obligation to look after them in old age / if I outlive them /.
Hello! You look like a girl I knew, I may be wrong, but still ... Monica from Burgas? While reading your story, at the beginning I thought of this girl, and when I saw your signature, something made me write. I will be grateful if you answer if I am wrong. Greetings!
Until 11. I did not understand exactly what you were asking me, but I understand that you recognize your acquaintance in me. As I look at the comments above (for which I am very grateful) a story like mine is very common, so obviously you really recognize yourself. M from Shumen :)