In short - I'm 35 now, I have almost no experience with women, because for all the years I had only one long relationship and 2 short, I'm not attractive to women, it's hard to find girlfriends, but I'm currently with a girl at 36. Before I met her, I was very desperate and I thought that just to meet a decent girl I would be shorter than the grass and I would do whatever it took to stay together. However, something does not work. It's like we're with this girl because I want a girlfriend and she wants a husband, a child and a family. We told each other that we love each other, but somehow I don't feel there is much love. We often quarrel about everything because we are quite different. Of course, the girl has a lot of positive qualities, but she also has a lot of qualities that I don't like. My head is such a mess that I have no idea what to do. I have a feeling, that it's all a huge gamble. If we break up, I may not find a new girlfriend soon and spend a long time alone, which I don't like at all. I also don't know what my chances are of meeting a girl who really feels like she's my man. In short - I have the feeling that the girl I'm with is not right for me, but I have no chance at this age to hope that I can meet the man for me. What advice would you give me? What should I think about? but I don't have much chance in those years to hope that the man can meet me. What advice would you give me? What should I think about? but I also have no chance at these years to hope that the man can meet me. What advice would you give me? What should I think about?
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My mother works for a family created by people who got married just so they wouldn't be left alone. The result - an unhappy marriage, daily scandals and a CRAZY child. Crazy as a mental disorder, not like madness. It's not right for me to be with someone just because you may not find another. See if he felt like her best friend; if you were very pleased with her and could not imagine life without her presence; if you could at least say that you don't fight and there's a hell of an understanding - take it. But you neither feel it nor agree with it. It irritates you. Well, over the years, the irritation will not go away, but will increase. The tension will grow. Do you want to break up in your old age? Or from now on to know your destiny. Better alone than badly accompanied. She may be the best chick in the world, but if it doesn't make you happy, leave. And hope to meet the right one, and if not - alive and well.
Well, it's like a dude like everyone bleats and they are full of complexes, you get up at 40 and olele male. As for women, you have no success because as 100% of singles you don't even try. You're waiting ... but what are you waiting for and you don't know if he comes and knocks on your door, I don't know. I'm talking to a little straight godfather in your eyes, but you can't tell in black and white. As for your question, you missed the deadline a lot, in this situation I also don't know what I would do, I would rather be left without an inheritance than to have a child, and then what? A child is made with love, it is clear that there is nothing eternal but ... still. The risks are clear to you and you just have to be aware. What do you prefer to create an unhappy family or not to create one at all. The choice is yours and it is best for you to judge for yourself because then there will be no hen mun.
At 35, you're not too old. I do not understand why you are afraid of loneliness, if you are not happy in this relationship. If you make too many compromises and just don't like this woman, make a point. If one day you have a child, things will get even more complicated, eventually you will separate again. Calm down, find out what you want and look for another. However, I do not know how. I wish you success. Relationships from nowhere are a kind of masochism. Personally, I do not like, but not everyone dares to stay alone for a little or a long time.
My only advice to you is ... you are very pathetic, very
From the author: At number 4 I can tell it to go explode somewhere. To others - thanks for the shared opinion. And I think things have to be better for us to have a child and to be able to feel like I'm going to be happy with this woman for the rest of my life. At times I start to think that it's better to be alone and possibly wait for my luck than with a person who will break my nerves and we'll fuck both our lives.
Hi, I'm more or less like you - unattractive to women, maybe because I'm short and shy. Like you, I got a wife and we started a family, I loved her. After the child was born and the first months of enthusiasm and impulses on her part passed, hell broke loose! He started behaving rudely, impudently, arrogantly, they are not whims and pretensions, and in the end I was told, come on, I want to live my life with other men and breaks (your child will watch him when I'm busy). My advice is, better alone than with such a company!
A family without love is a huge mistake! The very fact that you are wondering whether to be with her answers your own question. If from now on there is no strong love and you have doubts, when your child is born and everyday life begins ....? You wouldn't want your child to pay for that, would you? A child is created with love. Work on your self-esteem and the problems that make it difficult for you to communicate. Better after 4-5 years, family (you're not old after all) but with the right person next to you. Success!
For a man, 35 is ok, a nice, mature age, when you already know what you want. You should understand that two unhappy and lonely people do not become a happy whole. Go ahead and try to show more self-confidence and interest in women. We love that. In fact, everyone likes to be interested in his life because it makes him feel significant. I say all this from experience and with best wishes!
You have described the situation around you quite generally, so do not expect specific answers or advice. I would suggest that you do a self-analysis of your previous relationships, not to look for other people's flaws, but to see your own and try to eliminate them in your current relationship. It sounds very natural to me at this age that she is looking for a man for marriage and a child, I do not understand what you mean by saying that you are looking for a girlfriend. If you can focus on the good sides, share what the bad ones are, and maybe only you think they are bad - for example, I can accept many shortcomings in one person, but there are some that I am adamant that never I will not close my eyes. In any case, the best option is to sit down and talk about the topic, listen to it, let it be the first to say what claims it has against you, based on what you have heard, state your claims - talk to each other, people, try to fit in, not move away, people are not a pot that when you get bored or don't like it, you can throw it in the trash, if necessary you will add a little salt and other spices, you will add or bake, you will correct, you will try again or as they say "If you want to do a job - you will find a way, if you do not want to do it - you will find an excuse.". I wish you success with the current one, it is never too late for the next one! If you want to do a job - you will find a way, if you do not want to do it - you will find an excuse. I wish you success with the present, for the next it is never too late! If you want to do a job - you will find a way, if you do not want to do it - you will find an excuse. I wish you success with the present, for the next it is never too late!
Better alone than badly accompanied! You will always get something for the bloating, but if you associate yourself with the wrong one, it will ruin your life. It is better to take a single woman with a child (almost every second mother is like that), and you will fuck at will, and the woman will be more reasonable (because of the child), because if she does your trick, she will easily lose her temper.
Well, number 4 is right, no matter how much you don't like the truth. It's a pity it looks from the side, two desperate people are trying to do something but nothing will come of it.
Well, decide, you will be neither the first nor the last to marry for motives other than love. Most of the families are like that, they are taken to reproduce, and sooner or later love disappears, if it existed at all ...
Why are you wasting your time with yourself, she is irretrievably running the years in which she can give birth, not you. Wanted a girlfriend ...
Number 10, for this comment I completely agree "Better alone than badly accompanied!", But not "both you will fuck at will, and the woman will be more reasonable", but not for that. A valuable woman would not allow such a thing unless she has feelings, even if she is with a child. I would look for the right person for the author in your place, because it is very likely that a divorce will occur after the child appears, since its inception. you ask these questions. Success!
Even if you are the worst person in the world, author, you still do not deserve the fate you are headed for. Believe a woman who has gone this way - a marriage without love, simply because I was 34 and "it was time for me". My husband was not an idiot, he is a decent, serious and responsible person, but we had nothing in common purely emotional. He probably married me too, because "everyone does." Thank God he didn't want children (consider a man not to want children from his wife, what "love" he felt for her). For 10 years we looked like a model couple and for 10 years I was eaten away by loneliness from within. We finally got divorced with the idea of "staying good friends". Well, it doesn't work. If we were friends at all, we probably wouldn't get a divorce. We call each other on birthdays and that's it, neither of us feels the need to communicate with the other. After a while I met another man. And with him I already understood what love is. This is not wanting to fall asleep, because that way you will stop feeling his body next to yours; to get sick if he is sick; to go crazy if the situation does not allow you to touch him; to run home to hug him as soon as possible; all your friends kindly call you "in love-lost" and do not be ashamed that at 40 and a half your eyes shine like a schoolgirl. We got married, of course, there was simply no way we couldn't get married, and we would get married ten more times without hesitation. And the only thing that does not give me peace today is that life is not as long as I want to be able to fully enjoy this love, so every day we live it as the last. And you, author, you have voluntarily set out for a gray, joyless, and unspiritual existence with a woman you don't even particularly like. Please, man, don't cause yourself this misfortune! You will not do good to yourself or to the girl whose only fault is that you are different.
Dude, an example with me. I'm 31, I look good, I have a stable profession, I don't wait for someone to pay my bills, nor do I want to link them to children or marriage. But men do not use only for sex and a vent, but commit themselves to some who lie on their shoulders, want marriage, children and so on. Then they complain and so on. I am their eternal friend with privileges, to whom they can come for advice, service and so on. Then I hear various "You are very beautiful, I like you very much, but ...". Not that I wanted or expected anything from such frivolous and unsuccessful personal relationships. and True, I have many flaws, but I have never hidden them. I don't think love exists anymore or I missed it as a teen. Now I'm just looking at my personal well-being. I have no intention of living with someone without a thrill. It has happened to me and I do not repeat. Fuck both society and the biological clock. It's selfish, but. my happiness as an individual is now above all.