I spent a long time reviewing the topics on the site, especially those created by people whose relatives are wondering how to help them fight addictions. My story is similar, but the desired outcome is different. I don't know how to start the story, because it is very personal and bothers me a lot, I can't sleep and go crazy ... I'm doing it right, I'm a young man. Through my practice, cases of young men and women caught with something, caught, intoxicated, arrested ... failed. Of course, from a professional point of view, the law is applicable and the captured drug addicts get what they deserve. But personally, something very painful happened to me ... 2 years ago I met a girl - intelligent, fun, beautiful. It so happened that life divided us and brought us together now, sometime in February. For these two years I learned that the girl cut herself (there are a lot of scars + stitches), there were problems with weed, amphetamines, coca and alcohol. When I saw her, she was so thin, she had just melted. We started spending more time together, enough to happily find out that she was already clean (her friends had told me before, but I was skeptical) - only cigarettes were left and she rarely smoked weed.
We went out, laughed, talked a lot, ate (she managed to gain weight). But in August I had to leave for a month. Well, there was no problem - we wrote to each other, we heard each other. But at one point I realized something was wrong. She had gone to techno parties, where she was shaking, and smoking weed became more frequent, and I began to worry. When I got home, we saw each other - she drank 3 beers, smoked a lot of cigarettes and always smelled like a trump card in her bag - she even showed me that she had one. And once he even seemed to brag to me, he also showed me 1 candy (amphetamine) that he was carrying. Of course, I'm not okay with that. Firstly, she is my friend and she poisons her body, secondly, I see what will happen if she is caught ... And so we started conversations, which grew into quarrels. I explained to her how bad it was to go back to drugs, told her she had changed in a month, and she was angry and said I was suffocating her, being so obsessed with her.
And I just care and I care about her because I'm so attached! So, time has passed in conversations and the conclusions are the following - support and conversations do not help - she used to go to a psychologist and a psychiatrist, and this obviously does not work - they are ignorant and think she is already clean, but she is 20 + and their opinion does not concern her as much No matter how much it hurts me, I will have to take some measures. Last week, she left me under the pretext that " And the spread of these substances too. I do not want to face the law, but honestly, at the moment it seems to me the right choice. The bad thing is that it can't go anonymous. I want to stop this mass destruction of people with drugs. But for this to happen, distributors and carriers must face the law ... Advise me, please, what should I do? Basically, I would say to myself "what are you going to do, it's not on your head anymore", but if everyone said that while poisoning people in front of his eyes, who he still cares about .... I don't know what to do !! And the spread of these substances too. I do not want to face the law, but honestly, at the moment it seems to me the right choice.
The bad thing is that it can't go anonymous. I want to stop this mass destruction of people with drugs. But for this to happen, distributors and carriers must face the law ... Advise me, please, what should I do? Basically, I would say to myself "what are you going to do, it's not on your head anymore", but if everyone said that while poisoning people in front of his eyes, who he still cares about .... I don't know what to do !! distributors and carriers must face the law ... Please advise me what to do? Basically, I would say to myself "what are you going to do, it's not on your head anymore", but if everyone said that while poisoning people in front of his eyes, who he still cares about .... I don't know what to do !! distributors and carriers must face the law ... Please advise me what to do? Basically, I would say to myself "what are you going to do, it's not on your head anymore", but if everyone said that while poisoning people in front of his eyes, who he still cares about .... I don't know what to do !!
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If there is a file, you will ruin the future, if it does not stop, there may be no future. Difficult choice. But do you really think that putting her in jail will stop her from using drugs? I don't believe it at all.
From the author: There is no file, I do not intend to put her in prison, it would be cruel and unbearable not only for her but also for her family - I know theirs, they are good people ... And even if they catch her and kill her they search, the amount of illicit substances he holds is not so great that he can be punished behind bars. Rather, I think it would scare her. At least if something serious happens, she can fix it and reconsider how dangerous the whole thing is. Otherwise, number 1, you are right that if it continues in the same spirit, there may be no future. The bad thing is that the things she accepts and the way she is slowly poisoned will ruin her over time and create a delusion that she is fine, when in fact she is not. The life cases that concern you , are much more complex than those in court ..
Your plans are completely naive, as if you are 11. You will not help her, at least help yourself. She has a mental disorder of some kind and will always swing back and forth. Yes, yes, I know that they could be cured.
Hi colleague! I am a law student. Probably the forum members will hate me, but I hope to help, I hope. Before I went to university and enrolled in law school, I was also a drug addict ... in my teens, I didn't even smell grass. There were two of us, we had a relationship. Meaning, I know it's weird that a drug addict came in to study law, but it's not impossible. My parents threatened me with the police then and I am convinced that they would do it. I'm cowardly and I stopped, and I was an adult now. My advice: it hurts or not, you have to make such a decision if conversations don't work out. I understand that this is a sick topic for you, it is also for me, if I see addicts I get very sick, but the truth is that drugs are a big mass problem and maybe we will never fight them. If you think such measures would scare her, act. It's for her own good. If she won't lie down, I don't think it's that extreme, but you probably know that in prisons this problem is even bigger. I have a friend, a warden is in prison, he said drugs are exploding. The decision you have to make is difficult, the situation is delicate. Good luck and write for development!
The first time will get away with a fine, or at worst conditional, and then? She won't find a whole job, even if one day she wants one, but what if she gets caught a second or third time? Every time she is stopped for inspection, it turns out that she is detained for drugs, what do you think will happen next? If they refuse to work 1-2-10 times, what do you think it will do, it will spread again, so in my opinion this is not the solution.
What exactly do you feel like? You are not more intelligent than her, what do you think you will achieve? The change comes from the person's consciousness, if she realizes that there is a problem she will solve it, what are you to give her an inclination? Don't you think that every individual has the free will to do with himself? From another, yesterday's kid.
If the woman is 20, she will not be intimidated by the police, she will only be embittered by your attempt to control her behavior. It may even get worse. Put yourself in such a situation - for example, you take, but one of your quickest people goes and "hands over" you purposefully. What will be your reaction? - in any case, you will not be grateful, nor will you understand the motives of the "traitor". Drug addiction is perhaps the only disease in which the patient is persecuted and punished instead of being treated. And one more thing - scientists have found that mental illness and drug addiction are directly related - if you feel the need for drugs, then you have a mental illness that has not been detected. I'm talking about the initial attempts - some try and stop, others continue. Those who continue do so due to hidden mental illnesses. Of course, at a later stage, mental illness becomes apparent. So my advice is, rather, to be treated in some way by a psychiatrist, endocrinologist, neurologist. Not a psychologist. The relevant specialist should find out which substances it synthesizes in smaller quantities, and which gland or part of the brain is wrong, and treat it adequately. This is the only way out. No police would help, for the simple reason that their intervention would not lead to a balanced hormonal background in the addict. It can only strain the psyche and make it worse. However, I don't know how you can make her read about the problem and take adequate measures for her health. The relevant specialist should find out which substances it synthesizes in smaller quantities, and which gland or part of the brain is wrong, and treat it adequately. This is the only way out. No police would help, for the simple reason that their intervention would not lead to a balanced hormonal background in the addict. It can only strain the psyche and make it worse. However, I don't know how you can make her read about the problem and take adequate measures for her health. The relevant specialist should find out which substances it synthesizes in smaller quantities, and which gland or part of the brain is wrong, and treat it adequately. This is the only way out. No police would help, for the simple reason that their intervention would not lead to a balanced hormonal background in the addict. It can only strain the psyche and make it worse. However, I don't know how you can make her read about the problem and take adequate measures for her health.
Number 6, the boy just wants to help, this is not a contest for intelligence. Everyone has a will, but for some it is weak, like for drug addicts. To the author - I don't know what to tell you, but for you it would be better to leave it and not create problems on your head ... time will heal; however, if we thought like that, the world would go nowhere, we should help the people we love. And you, as far as I can see, are not selfish, it will be difficult for you, but go ahead, fight!
And she wrote here, before you were with a drug addict, then with the boy who practices law, but their paths diverged. Then he said she was clean.
Who are you to decide to do anything ?! You just suck that she left you and now you're looking for a way to cling to her ... but I'll advise you to get the crowds out of your head and not intrude on other people's lives. But from people like you. F, 27
I have encountered a similar case. From the summer of 2018 until now I try to discreetly help. No result. It is about a 33-year-old woman. She had promised me to stop methamphetamine; she stopped for about a month, but since she is very beautiful, her friends and those around her use her most ruthlessly. And she, like your friend, drinks, not clean water, only diluted vodka, smokes 3 cans of "Assembly" and hardly eats.