My problem is that I have too low self-esteem. I don't go out with anyone, I don't go to cafes because I'm ashamed of the prettier girls inside. I'm afraid everyone will say, "Wow, what the hell is this Isn't she ashamed?" I'm afraid when I write to someone I have seen, for example, and he has seen me, but he doesn't really know that he is writing to me, because I think he will stop writing. I don't want to see a lot of people. I don't greet my acquaintances on the street, because I think they are ashamed of me and the others who are with them will tell them "Abe, how can you know each other?" and I will slander him. I have shared it with a few friends and they all tell me that it is not true that I only create wrong thoughts, but I think they only say it because they are my fr. Sometimes when I write to an acquaintance I take the topic lightly and they tell me "Auntie, are you ugly, it's not true" or "Male, you're not well, see how much worse she is than you" or something like that. , but my self-esteem has not risen a gram, because I think they say it out of their mouths so as not to offend me. It bothers me I know, but I don't know what to do.
Answers 19
Hi, What do you really dislike about yourself? Is it just about looks? I can only tell you one thing - people's attitude also depends on your personal attitude towards yourself. And to be the greatest beauty - if you keep repeating that you are ugly, it will turn out that you will be able to make others look with your eyes. You may not be a model, but the important thing is to have charm and remember that nature created us that way. We are what we are. Everyone is unique. Even the thought that there is no one like you is a cause for joy. What is your criterion? What do you like? What made you stop liking yourself? Do you understand that the key is to love yourself and start liking yourself?
They make such comments to me as well, but I do not pay attention to them. You don't have the confidence to say I'm more than you, I'm sexy - put yourself first and don't think that outer beauty is more important than inner beauty. The more beautiful you are inside, the better. And the fact that, for example, the boys don't look at you doesn't mean that you're not cool not to think that your girlfriends are looking at them because they are cool, they look for it themselves WHO'S LOOKING FOR IT Respect yourself BE YOURSELF do not underestimate yourself. Make a change - change your hairstyle, dye your hair or make locks change your style - this will help you at least raise your self-esteem a little if it doesn't happen and this life is one and very short so live it as you like .
The problem is that no one has told me so far that I'm ugly and I can't say that no one is looking at me, on the contrary, they are looking at me, but ... Off I don't know. I don't know exactly what I don't like about myself. I just get complexes from other people around me. Everything you say is true and you are absolutely right and you really help me a lot, because I really need to hear the opinion of strangers who will tell me everything as it is, not "friends" who say everything by word of mouth. Thank you very much.
I am №2. Walk as if you are the coolest and remember that everyone has their own charm if you want to give me a Skype to talk I understand you because I myself was in such a situation.
Emmy ... I can't give it to you, because it's not in Cyrillic and it won't accept my comment, although I would really like to .. Hmm .. I'll write it in Cyrillic, and then you'll write it to me properly: modiliani619
Thank you all...
The fact that you consider yourself ugly bothers you. Thinking about it can't help you at all, and the other day I said to myself that I am ugly and these are my reflections in communication and I said to myself, it's okay to miss that you are ugly and you do not know how to communicate I said to myself: D and so things settled down. Find yourself such a positive thought and maybe it will help you, and if someone insults you just tell him that he is not the person to determine who he is handsome and ugly and no one wanted his opinion. :)
If you don't help yourself no one will help you !!! Set a goal for what you want to be and repeat it every day when you wake up in the morning. Do not change your appearance only the inner "I".
and I am in the same situation;
And I bqh so *** confident !!! I was like that, but thanks to everything I read, I appreciated all my physical qualities, I changed my inner self, as everyone who has this complex should do! Believe in yourself, be confident. Moderator: The comment is Cyrillic by Moderator. Please follow the rule for writing in Cyrillic.
№ 10, will you share some effective methods from these things that you have read and that have helped you? I will be happy to find out something on the subject, because I also have no real judgment for myself and low self-esteem most of all hinders the achievement of anything in life ... Thanks in advance !!! :) :)
I have the same problem, and it's not like I'm in my teens. There are days when I feel like hell, even though I realize I'm exaggerating, and days when I feel pretty and sexy. I often worry that I'm talking nonsense and stop talking to people for fear of saying something stupid. I know that part of my problem with low self-esteem and insecurity is rooted in childhood, but it can't be changed, can it?
Wow. N12 as if I wrote it. I am also not sociable because of this fear. There were times when I said something stupid and everyone laughed at me. I try not to stand out in front of the cool ones. And for me there are days when I just underestimate myself and other days when I feel good. I can't say I'm ugly, but beautiful is also strong. I have a few flaws. My self-esteem is lowered by the people around me. I am thin but I do not have a nice body shape. I'm not ugly but I don't have a beautiful face. I don't like my hair. I would like it to be thick, healthy and straight. I don't like the smile and the teeth and the gums. My eyebrows are short and I can't shape them well. I am very slightly hunched over in the neck area. He leans forward slightly. I have some cellulite. I don't like anything at all. I get really sick when I see my girlfriends with beautiful body curves. They look like Sasha Markina if you've heard of her. I want that type of body. I am also prone to envy, but the interesting thing is that I envy the people around me and not some stranger (although it may be more beautiful). I want a strong character. I try to change both internally and externally and I never succeed ... Will any therapies work well for me? It has happened to me that I am so jealous and so critical that I cry. Thanks to those who read it. I started writing a two-word comment and that ... By the way, I have a great sense of humor, but I can't show it to strangers. I can not relax. I better keep quiet. And I'm super embarrassed when they laugh at something I've said and they don't really know what a good and cool person I am. They leave the wrong impression on me. I am also shy in front of new people. I would never go out without someone close to me, and yet I can't relax
Wow. N12 as if I wrote it. I am also not sociable because of this fear. There were times when I said something stupid and everyone laughed at me. I try not to stand out in front of the cool ones. And for me there are days when I just underestimate myself and other days when I feel good. I can't say I'm ugly, but beautiful is also strong. I have a few flaws. My self-esteem is lowered by the people around me. I am thin but I do not have a nice body shape. I'm not ugly but I don't have a beautiful face. I don't like my hair. I would like it to be thick, healthy and straight. I don't like the smile and the teeth and the gums. My eyebrows are short and I can't shape them well. I am very slightly hunched over in the neck area. He leans forward slightly. I have some cellulite. I don't like anything at all. I get really sick when I see my girlfriends with beautiful body curves. They look like Sasha Markina if you've heard of her. I want that type of body. I am also prone to envy, but the interesting thing is that I envy the people around me and not some stranger (although it may be more beautiful). I want a strong character. I try to change both internally and externally and I never succeed ... Will any therapies work well for me? It has happened to me that I am so jealous and so critical that I cry. Thanks to those who read it. I started writing a two-word comment and that ... By the way, I have a great sense of humor, but I can't show it to strangers. I can not relax. I better keep quiet. And I'm super embarrassed when they laugh at something I've said and they don't really know what a good and cool person I am. They leave the wrong impression on me. I am also shy in front of new people. I would never go out without someone close to me, and yet I can't relax
Abe people, what's wrong with you !? !? There is no such thing as ugly, beautiful, sexy or not. When a person feels good in his skin and is self-confident, he radiates this and others perceive him in this way. If you constantly think about how bad, ugly, stupid, etc. you are, gradually everyone will start thinking that way about you. Take matters into your own hands! The first thing you need to do in the morning is to look in the mirror to smile at yourself and say to yourself "Good morning! Today I look amazing and I feel great! The day will be wonderful!". Then everything looks more rosy :) Come on, good luck!
Name: Shadowless Man I'll write you an excerpt from Jim Carey's "The Liar" -Dad, but the teacher said beauty comes from within. with your ugly. Don't trust others that you are not. They are your friends, what else to tell you And there really is a model for what is beautiful and what is not. The good is good, the ugly is ugly. The rest is pure philosophizing how a person, if he feels beautiful, looked beautiful - "bull shit" But this is not a pain to die. Just stop constantly seeking approval from your friends to feed your ego. People are different. Not everyone was born Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. Have self-confidence and live a normal life. If someone doesn't want to be with you because you're not the classic beauty, fuck it. I want to say one more thing. Chi also vomits from complex, mostly women, who without asking them constantly point out how "smart and good-looking" they are. I know a lot of them. With egati self-confidence. Sorry picture. Be alive and healthy. I avoid such people. If you want, I'll give you a very simple piece of advice on how to find out what they think of you. You sit down somewhere and you're supposed to go to the toilet, leave your phone on record and you're done. It is quite insidious and I do not recommend it, but it is also quite effective. This is from me. I'm a "young man" of 35 and I'm not very attractive, I look rather ugly and not very intelligent, but I stopped constantly looking for people's approval and I can say that now I have a lot of good friends. Who is not pleasant to me, I just do not meet him. who, without asking them, constantly point out how "smart and good-looking" they are. I know a lot of them. With egati self-confidence. Sorry picture. Be alive and healthy. I avoid such people. If you want, I'll give you a very simple piece of advice on how to find out what they think of you. You sit down somewhere and you're supposed to go to the toilet, leave your phone on record and you're done. It is quite insidious and I do not recommend it, but it is also quite effective. This is from me. I'm a "young man" of 35 and I'm not very attractive, I look rather ugly and not very intelligent, but I stopped constantly looking for people's approval and I can say that now I have a lot of good friends. Who is not pleasant to me, I just do not meet him. who, without asking them, constantly point out how "smart and good-looking" they are. I know a lot of them. With egati self-confidence. Sorry picture. Be alive and healthy. I avoid such people. If you want, I'll give you a very simple piece of advice on how to find out what they think of you. You sit down somewhere and you're supposed to go to the toilet, leave your phone on record and you're done. It is quite insidious and I do not recommend it, but it is also quite effective. This is from me. I'm a "young man" of 35 and I'm not very attractive, I look rather ugly and not very intelligent, but I stopped constantly looking for people's approval and I can say that now I have a lot of good friends. Who is not pleasant to me, I just do not meet him. Sorry picture. Be alive and healthy. I avoid such people. If you want, I'll give you a very simple piece of advice on how to find out what they think of you. You sit down somewhere and you're supposed to go to the toilet, leave your phone on record and you're done. It is quite insidious and I do not recommend it, but it is also quite effective. This is from me. I'm a "young man" of 35 and I'm not very attractive, I look rather ugly and not very intelligent, but I stopped constantly looking for people's approval and I can say that now I have a lot of good friends. Who is not pleasant to me, I just do not meet him. Sorry picture. Be alive and healthy. I avoid such people. If you want, I'll give you a very simple piece of advice on how to find out what they think of you. You sit down somewhere and you're supposed to go to the toilet, leave your phone on record and you're done. It is quite insidious and I do not recommend it, but it is also quite effective. This is from me. I'm a "young man" of 35 and I'm not very attractive, I look rather ugly and not very intelligent, but I stopped constantly looking for people's approval and I can say that now I have a lot of good friends. Who is not pleasant to me, I just do not meet him. but it is also quite effective. This is from me. I'm a "young man" of 35 and I'm not very attractive, I look rather ugly and not very intelligent, but I stopped constantly looking for people's approval and I can say that now I have a lot of good friends. Who is not pleasant to me, I just do not meet him. but it is also quite effective. This is from me. I'm a "young man" of 35 and I'm not very attractive, I look rather ugly and not very intelligent, but I stopped constantly looking for people's approval and I can say that now I have a lot of good friends. Who is not pleasant to me, I just do not meet him.
Self-esteem is something very important! you will never succeed in life if you do not respect yourself. Go talk to a psychologist a few times, and everything will fall into place, everyone has felt depressed sometimes, there is nothing shameful, I also went to a psychologist.
.... And until you feel it, your life will come to an end! You will regret that you did not really experience it. I am a 23 year old girl and I have been in the same situation, if you want we can talk, I think I definitely have experience to share on the topic!
Number 18. If you can give yourself a facebook, because I used to have self-confidence, but suddenly what happened and I don't know .... I'm afraid to talk to a girl ... I'm even ashamed to smile because my teeth are slightly crooked: ((((Really if you think you can help me I'm waiting for you.