Hello, I am looking for advice on a problem that has plagued me for years. I am 17 years old and whenever a problem arises and someone starts to pick on me about anything, I keep quiet and let myself be trampled. It sucks because I don't have the courage to say a word to him. I just go numb and swallow my grammar. Otherwise, in front of my friends I am cheerful, funny, etc., but when someone scolds me, I can't answer him ...
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Well, learn to reciprocate. So was I. I let them make me a monkey. And, as cliché as it may sound, I woke up one morning and was so fed up that I decided not to let them get on my head anymore. And I don't allow it to anyone (including my parents). We are not talking about disrespect, or disobedience, or screams and insults. It's just that when I don't like something, I say it and defend my position. You will succeed. You just have to overcome stupid prejudices. People can't do anything to you. They just talk. At most, take a slap from a girl who thinks the world revolves around her. But you will learn to stand up for yourself. :) Good luck!
And if you tell him what you will gain? For me, the opposite is true - I can't help but respond and just get nervous, but I don't really achieve anything. I wanted to be like you. To be able to let them jingle and be through a special place.
The same job! To answer I really have to be absolutely furious! Ah, fortunately this rarely happens to me, but otherwise I keep quiet, which is not good at all, because anger and insults accumulate, accumulate and at some point begin to affect me badly, I became depressed, closed, even physically began to it affects stress, my hair falls out ... so it's better to scream everything than to accumulate resentment and anger in yourself. That's why we both need to learn to stand up for our rights.
I have never allowed myself to be insulted or humiliated, I am just a bit picky by nature :) I will never leave myself! Maybe you're afraid they'll hit you.
And I'm in front of everyone else, but not my parents .. I was, it has not happened to me soon that someone said something to insult or humiliate me, but if it happens I will probably be so .. Maybe because of nobody said anything now they consider me closed, modest or etc ... How to make people not think of me as such, but want to communicate with me, etc., to see that I am smart, funny and etc ... I'm sorry about the spelling and punctuation now I'm not trying to write correctly at all, I'm sleeping E: