I Hid The Abortion From My Mother

   from someone who does not want the child, what to expect, you can do well, you can not raise him alone.

   You don't say how old you are, but at some point a person will or will not have to grow up ... There are things that are yours and only yours - neither your mother, nor your best friends, nor anyone else should know for them (it will be understood when and if the time comes, be sure of it). The mature person does not concern others with himself and his problems, on the contrary - they try to help them and solve theirs.

   You have to try to forget it, no matter how hard it is for you, it was just written that way, you can't go back in time, look ahead, life goes on, one day you will have a child and you will be the happiest woman in the world.

   Hi, I completely understand you and I experienced this 4 years ago. Just didn't say how old you are ?? For me, the situation was even more tense, as I had a total of so to speak 3 attempts at abortion within 2-3 months of pregnancy. The story is very long and not for here. What an irony - I've always been an excellent student at school, a smart child and a beautiful woman, but ... to be honest, no one is insured against that. I was very much in love with the man then and I didn't think about the consequences at all. I always insisted on a condom or at least relied on him to protect me, but he never succeeded. A lot of people told me it wasn't for me, that it wasn't frivolous, etc., but I was on another planet at all then, adding that I didn't have a mother to take care of me, unlike you. That's why I'm for abortion, because who knows what my life would have been like with this child if he had stayed, although the father showed concern and "readiness" for a father, but that was only because I was pregnant and according to "some" doctors, the child could not leave. I know how it sounds from the side, but then it was like that. It would be a life of obligation, not of will. So ... at the moment I have the same worries as you, I went to the doctor and tests were done for me, they tell me that everything is fine, but the fear and psychological stress I experienced from the abortion always remain. I am in a more delicate situation, as I met my future husband, if I may call him that, and in general my watch is ticking and it is clear to me that sooner or later family and children await me ... but this fear deters me a lot. and I still don't know what I'm going to do, but somehow I will have to overcome it no way. I advise you to do the same. Success!

   PS In addition to the comment ... I was also a third-year student when this happened and I was not ready for such a step, I wanted to finish as it should be and only then children. Honestly, the decision to have an abortion was made by me then, alone, the father seemed to be more inclined, but this was also absurd with a child, because apart from studying, the man did not live in Bulgaria and had to move to etc. Dr., I didn't know the language yet, alone, so I made the best decision for me and my future family, and I don't regret it. Most of all, I'm sorry that I got pregnant out of lack of intelligence. I told my story. :)

   I don't know if you made the right decision, only time will tell. I got pregnant at the age of 18 and just like you I tried to hide from my mother. but ... mother is this, thank God she felt me ​​in time, we had a long conversation. In general, he left the decision to me, pointing out the possible outcomes / commitments / consequences and promised me support no matter what he decided. The hardest and most correct decision in my life! He is now a 21-year-old man! Thanks to him, I achieved a lot in a professional and personal plan - the strongest motive I ever had. I don't want to make you feel even worse, I hope that one day you will have healthy and happy children. But ... since you're friends with your mother, you probably hid because she was going to try to dissuade you from having an abortion ... I guess. Is that what bothers you? !!

   And what did you do now? He told us, the thousands of complete strangers, that we don't care a gram about you, but hid from his mother. It is true that you have the right to do this when you are an adult and live independently. But you say yourself that she has always been your best friend. And she believes you !!! My thinking may be old-fashioned, but I think that every mother has the right to know what is happening to the child, especially when it comes to his life or health.

   And what did you do now? He told us, the thousands of complete strangers, that we don't care a gram about you, but hid from his mother. It is true that you have the right to do this when you are an adult and live independently. But you say yourself that she has always been your best friend. And she believes you !!! My thinking may be old-fashioned, but I think that every mother has the right to know what is happening to the child, especially when it comes to his life or health.

   I'm N8. For me, giving birth at 18 is absurd. I didn't feel ready at the age of 23 and I didn't have a mind for children, but what's left at the age of 18? I was in the 12th grade at school then ... I don't know, somehow I can't understand these early births, not to mention underage girls, etc. After all, we haven't lived in the Middle Ages for a long time. It all depends on the mind and reason of the woman and the maturity of her family. When I got pregnant, ours were more prone to a child, supposedly a grandson, than myself, just because I knew I would watch it almost alone, I would say without a father , because he lived abroad and all the responsibility would fall on me, he would only provide financially, and I am an idealist at heart and I always wanted things to be as it should be - love, wedding, family, children, etc. This with single parents raising their children alone, somehow I can't take it. In this way, you harm the child even more by taking away one of his parents than if you had an abortion. After all, if we count how many times we've had sex and if the condom wasn't invented, possibly how many children we could have, each unique, so this is not the last chance for children. We live in the 21st century, after all. I don't know, that's my thinking. In order to give a child what he needs, you must first be old enough and have passed the teenage years to take care of another human being. Otherwise, life is a matter of duty, not of love, as they say. possibly how many children we could have, each unique, so this is not the last chance for children. We live in the 21st century, after all. I don't know, that's my thinking. In order to give a child what he needs, you must first be old enough and have passed the teenage years to take care of another human being. Otherwise, life is a matter of duty, not of love, as they say. possibly how many children we could have, each unique, so this is not the last chance for children. We live in the 21st century, after all. I don't know, that's my thinking. In order to give a child what he needs, you must first be old enough and have passed the teenage years to take care of another human being. Otherwise, life is a matter of duty, not of love, as they say.

   I really liked the comment of number 5!

   H8 / 13;))) 10 am, read my comment again. I am a successful woman ... and I have no worries about whether I will have children or not. I have;))) Because I made the right decision for me. I did not spend years in fears whether there will be .... whether it will happen. Yes, we are in the 21st century, and in this and in the past centuries everyone bears and has been responsible for their actions. My son could have been another abortion :( horror, goosebumps. I raised my child, and I finished, and I work on my dream that my son is currently (21 years old) studying and working in the IT field. That is .... The child is not only not that it does not interfere, but motivates even more. And I am happy that I did not have to go through what those who prefer abortion. Here that you also admit your fears. And how many years that's how you "get scared" and how much is left?

   H8 / 13. Well, I'm not so scared anymore. It was a momentary reaction some time ago. Everyone knows the right decision for themselves. Let me just ask you - does your child have a father, a family, are you married? I don't want to blame you in the least for not misunderstanding me. I am not so brave to look after a child alone, not to mention that my life would develop a completely different, not so pleasant for me direction, I would not even meet my true love in life, which I met 4 years later. After all, in his youth no one knows how his life will turn out. And it is a string of life-determining decisions. I made my choice then, I felt that I was not ready for a child, I was horrified at the thought that I was pregnant, alone and there was no one to support me. His father and he didn't know what he wanted, but it was a generally confusing situation. Now I am in a very different mind from a few years ago and I even feel that the moment is approaching, precisely because I met another man who is ready for this step in life, self-aware, responsible and with a completely different mindset from my previous friend. My previous partner is 34 years old, older than he is, and with the demeanor of a teenager, still unconscious, when he sees a skirt on the street with a short skirt or wide neckline, his eyes flutter. What is this normal? One wonders how I was with such a "man" and what is left for a child with him. and with the demeanor and demeanor of a teenager, still unconscious, when he sees a skirt on the street with a short skirt or a wide neckline, his eyes flutter. What is this normal? One wonders how I was with such a "man" and what is left for a child with him. and with the demeanor and demeanor of a teenager, still unconscious, when he sees a skirt on the street with a short skirt or a wide neckline, his eyes flutter. What is this normal? One wonders how I was with such a "man" and what is left for a child with him.

   H17, calm down, I don't feel blamed. As I said, for me this was the right decision. I kept my baby, I got rid of the father. Naturally, I had the support of my parents. And I met the man of my life when my son was 9 months old. He knows that he is not his biological father, but he says that he could not dream of a better one. He bears his last name :) he raised him from a baby :) At no time did I think that my child would take something - education, a man, a good job. My only fear was how I would cope as a parent. Maybe that's why I received everything else, I didn't look at myself as ... different from any other young woman. Well, we can't predict what will happen to us tomorrow, but if something has to be decided by us today, if it depends on us ... not always what looks easier is better. Again, as above on Tuesday, I don't want anyone to feel worse, everyone makes their choice and lives with it. I am very, very grateful to my mother for "pinching" me for a conversation. That's why I assumed that this is what torments the author.

   Hello! When I was accepted to study the desired specialty 7 years ago, I realized that I was pregnant. My partner was extremely inappropriate (and to this day I wonder where my head was) and I had an abortion, I hid it from my parents. I do not regret my choice, with this man I would doom my child to misery, a broken family, and I myself would not achieve anything in this life. I know him because after I broke up with him, he got pregnant with another girl, they are currently separated, and she turns to him to guard him in which restaurant she is with, she doesn't work, but she shakes. It's just that as soon as I saw the two traits, the first thing I said was, "I'm removing it." It will sound cool to many, but for me it was the right decision, which I do not regret. I don't think you have to feel guilty when the time comes, you'll tell her.

   Abortion is murder.