Hello, everyone! I will try to explain briefly what has been happening to me in recent years and how I am starting to live more and more day by day ... I am an 18-year-old boy and I am in 12th grade. When I started 9th grade, I decided that I wanted to be different and live the way I liked. I started exercising regularly and going to the gym because it was my thrill, my flame. I trained hard, ate forcibly because I wanted results and went to bed not too late. At the same time, my worldview began to change. I realized that I wanted to do things that were important to me in life and one day achieve something significant for me. So I started reading various articles, books, I became interested in business. I talked to everyone. Everything is okay, but the moment came when I saw a girl and fell in love with her because she was different and to note that we were 15! Yes, however she liked me as a friend, but I was madly in love with flowers and gifts, and I tried to write poems to her, I tried to behave like adults. And so 1 year in a pathetic attempt to show her my love for her, she finally decided to try. We went out there, here. We did all sorts of things. I was constantly with her and a moment came when it started to burden me. I give an example: I get up early in the morning, cook, I will help my parents with the housework, see her and go to school (2nd shift). In the evening I hurry home, eat something quickly and immediately go to the gym (there was a period of time in which I trained and kickboxing because I really wanted to), so if I'm not in the gym, I'm in kickboxing and after training I hurry to go to her , and my parents had imposed an evening class because I was not an adult until 22:30, 23: 00 at the latest and I have to take this into account. And so for months. However, if summer came and I went to sea with ours and for the whole vacation I didn't do much, because I enjoyed lying in bed because I don't remember when I last did it and I was happy, it was something divine for me. When I got home, I decided that she was too good a girl and I was not for her because I would slap things or I didn't want to hurt her. I told him too, but she was very hurt and my heart was breaking, but I gritted my teeth because I thought it would be better that way. A few days passed and I quickly forgot and went back to my previous life, pushing, reading, seeing some friends. I achieved great results in the gym and reached the national powerlifting competition, as for the first time I managed to pull 185 kg of deadlift and became 3rd. I also helped organize the event itself. I was very proud of myself and I felt wonderful. I also helped many acquaintances in the hall by pissing them off what I knew, sharing with them, outside the hall I was very motivated and supported my friends in every endeavor. So I motivated them as if they had reached into the socket and were charged with energy, I felt great. However, after that, my girlfriend started writing to me and they felt back, but stronger than ever. When we went out to see each other, I went crazy over her again, she was crazy about me and we got together again. Since then we have started to be together 24/7 and everywhere. My parents told me to stop playing with a family from such a young age and to give each other a break, personal space, but we didn't listen to them. I gave up training, reading and all things which I had intended to do. It's been almost a year. I promised myself to start again with the gym, but I feel crushed because I lost weight and lost a lot of weight. And the flame is always gone, I'm always tired, I have no motivation, no desire. Months ago, my girlfriend and I were constantly arguing because I hadn't talked to her, I hadn't done something right, and that squeezed me further. It's as if I have no desire for anything anymore, I feel like it's like life is over for me, and now it has to start ... People tell me what happened to you, it's not you. I'm used to this girl, we're fine together, the thrill is not like in the beginning now, but we still love each other. I'll stop there and I really tried not to write much, but obviously it didn't work out. because I lost weight and lost a lot of weight. And the flame is always gone, I'm always tired, I have no motivation, no desire. Months ago, my girlfriend and I were constantly arguing because I hadn't talked to her, I hadn't done something right, and that squeezed me further. It's as if I have no desire for anything anymore, I feel like it's like life is over for me, and now it has to start ... People tell me what happened to you, it's not you. I'm used to this girl, we're fine together, the thrill is not like in the beginning now, but we still love each other. I'll stop there and I really tried not to write much, but obviously it didn't work out. because I lost weight and lost a lot of weight. And the flame is always gone, I am always tired, I have no motivation, no desire. Months ago, my girlfriend and I were constantly arguing because I hadn't talked to her, I hadn't done something right, and that was squeezing me further. It's as if I have no desire for anything anymore, I feel like it's like life is over for me, and now it has to start ... People tell me what happened to you, it's not you. I'm used to this girl, we're fine together, the thrill is not like in the beginning now, but we still love each other. I'll stop there and I really tried not to write much, but obviously it didn't work out. I hadn't done something right and that was squeezing me further. It's as if I have no desire for anything anymore, I feel like it's like life is over for me, and now it has to start ... People tell me what happened to you, it's not you. I'm used to this girl, we're fine together, the thrill is not like in the beginning now, but we still love each other. I'll stop there and I really tried not to write much, but obviously it didn't work out. I hadn't done something right and that was squeezing me further. It's as if I have no desire for anything anymore, I feel like it's like life is over for me, and now it has to start ... People tell me what happened to you, it's not you. I'm used to this girl, we're fine together, the thrill is not like in the beginning now, but we still love each other. I'll stop there and I really tried not to write much, but obviously it didn't work out.
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Gradually start training again, talk to her not to be together all the time, that's where it all comes from. No matter how much you love each other, a person needs to do other things without his partner. Yours is an obsessive job, give it a break
I don't know what this girl is and what your relationship is exactly, but it seems like a toxic relationship to me once you've gotten there. Love must bring you happiness, happy trembling, desire for life, adrenaline. And with you it is exactly the opposite - it squeezes you, crushes you, you have abandoned your personal life and development, you have become a shadow ... Definitely for the good of both of you, you MUST separate. And you to return to yourself. At the age of 18, and already as a young old man, this relationship does not affect you well. You said little about your relationship, I don't know which of you is the provocateur of this toxic relationship or you are both. But yours is not a healthy relationship.
You fall from one extreme to another. Stop and start doing many things at once. Congratulations on helping your parents. But - do so - one night go to the gym. Maybe the girl will come with you. He dedicated the next evening to her. Then with the girl again. And the fourth night again at the gym. For example, he goes to the gym two nights, four nights with her. And one night you were left alone.
From the author: I agree with your advice. Regarding the relationship, we started spending whole days together from the very beginning. It was cool at first, but it's not like that anymore, and she recently said that she feels like it's become a daily routine. She even wants us to eat together all the time. And now in the last days since I started trying to have more time for my things and for myself, she thinks I have something, she behaves differently. She doesn't want to go to the gym, she didn't like it. It irritates me that I always want to talk, when we are together it has happened that he is silent and does not say a word. When I ask her why you kept silent, she answers: Because you are silent. I always tell her all sorts of things, even nonsense and laughter I try to do to have some conversation, but then she starts you talking only nonsense. I noticed that I will ask her how the day went, how she is, or any other questions related to her, and she will take to answer me in 1, 2 words. And she didn't ask me how your day went, I'm terribly crazy about cars and she won't ask me anything about them, let's talk about it, and I always try to say, even a little about the things she loves though to be my dark india. Because he plays the guitar, I even tried to teach me a few times, but after that I only get criticism. We listen to her songs and I have no pretensions, but we will rarely listen to the ones I like and I will hear what these crazy songs are, off. Or if she plays such music, there is no reaction from her. It has happened that even while we eat he wants to kiss, it is good we will eat or we will kiss. And she sulks if I don't give her a kiss .... and she will take to answer me in 1, 2 words. And she didn't ask me how your day went, I'm terribly crazy about cars and she won't ask me anything about them, let's talk about it, and I always try to say, even a little about the things she loves though to be my dark india. Because he plays the guitar, I even tried to teach me a few times, but after that I only get criticism. We listen to her songs and I have no pretensions, but we will rarely listen to the ones I like and I will hear what these crazy songs are, off. Or if she plays such music, there is no reaction from her. It has happened that even while we eat he wants to kiss, it is good we will eat or we will kiss. And she sulks if I don't give her a kiss .... and she will take to answer me in 1, 2 words. And she didn't ask me how your day went, I'm terribly crazy about cars and she won't ask me anything about them, let's talk about it, and I always try to say, even a little about the things she loves though to be my dark india. Because he plays the guitar, I even tried to teach me a few times, but after that I only get criticism. We listen to her songs and I have no pretensions, but we will rarely listen to the ones I like and I will hear what these crazy songs are, off. Or if she plays such music, there is no reaction from her. It has happened that even while we eat he wants to kiss, it is good we will eat or we will kiss. And she sulks if I don't give her a kiss .... and I always try to say, even a little, about the things he loves even though they are my dark india. Because he plays the guitar, I even tried to teach me a few times, but after that I only get criticism. We listen to her songs and I have no pretensions, but we will rarely listen to the ones I like and I will hear what these crazy songs are, off. Or if she plays such music, there is no reaction from her. It has happened that even while we eat he wants to kiss, it is good we will eat or we will kiss. And she sulks if I don't give her a kiss .... and I always try to say, even a little about the things he loves even though they are my dark india. Because he plays the guitar, I even tried to teach me a few times, but after that I only get criticism. We listen to her songs and I have no pretensions, but we will rarely listen to the ones I like and I will hear what these crazy songs are, off. Or if she plays such music, there is no reaction from her. It has happened that even while we are eating, he wants to kiss, it is good that we will eat or we will kiss. And she sulks if I don't give her a kiss .... however, we will rarely listen to the ones I like and hear what these crazy songs are, off. Or if she plays such music, there is no reaction from her. It has happened that even while we eat he wants to kiss, it is good we will eat or we will kiss. And she sulks if I don't give her a kiss .... however, we will rarely listen to the ones I like and hear what these crazy songs are, off. Or if she plays such music, there is no reaction from her. It has happened that even while we eat he wants to kiss, it is good we will eat or we will kiss. And she sulks if I don't give her a kiss ....