I don't know how to start ... Maybe with the fact that he wasn't my first love, but he was the strongest so far. It all started as a joke, like a flirtation, but over time the emotions did not subside and our relationship developed into a love story, which for me was very pure and beautiful. He made me feel like the only one, like a princess because of his attitude towards me. A few months passed, but at one point I really felt like a princess. I began to be selfish, sometimes sharper with him. For example, it happened that we arranged an appointment, but it was canceled due to his commitment (he works all the time) and then I quarreled with him and I was angry that he did not please me, I accused him of not listening to me. The problems deepened even more than my jealousy, which grew into obsession. I didn't trust him for anything, and I listened to various friends and well-wishers who told me that he would definitely go with someone else, because there were a lot of beautiful women around him. So, half a month ago, we broke up after a violent scandal. I tried to explain to him, but the tension had escalated so much, I had made so many mistakes in recent months that he did not believe my words. After the scandal he got angry, he deleted me from everywhere, I tried to explain to him, he said he wanted me, but I was very disappointed ... I'm not saying that he was perfect. There are no perfect people. Of course, everyone makes mistakes, but his mistakes were not as serious and fatal as the ones I made. I'm sorry if the story sounds confusing and the thoughts are chaotic. But I write out of affect, I feel mentally crushed, apathetic, depressed .. I want to get it back, but I don't know how ..
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Such is life! There is two good news for you - you have obviously learned a lesson, which is very good for future relationships, but you have nothing to lose - if you still love this person, he is fighting for a last chance, but the decision is his. In the end, however, you benefit from your experience in this regard and with yourself, so as not to ruin one day, say, marriage and family with such behavior. However, it now depends on him whether he will give you one last chance - you can only ask for it. After all, if he doesn't agree, you're back to square one, so it's worth a try, but it's very important to correct your behavior in reality, not just in words. ж31
Thanks for the advice, g31! The really good thing is that I learned a lesson, but I don't know if he will let me in his life anymore, and I wanted to try again, but with him, not with another ... I'm just still in love with him and it hurts that he I lost ..
Author - well, tell me what you wrote above (or write it to him). Give him time to make a decision by asking him for one last chance. If he agrees, you will have one last chance, but if you do not, you are still in the starting position and you have nothing to lose. You just have to be brave and tell yourself exactly what you wrote. Accept, however, that in this case everything depends on him, and if he decides that he does not want to deal with you anymore, you should move on, but at least it is worth the experience.
And if he gives you a chance, will you change your behavior? Most likely, after a while you will show your horns again.
Thank you for your support! I tried to talk to him the day after the scandal and we supposedly understood each other, but there was no action, we didn't get together, he didn't show any desire ... I don't know if I should give him time or give up right now. .