I have a relationship that is coming to an end because of my parents ... My friend is much older than me, he has two children, he does not live with the woman from whom he has children. They are even in different cities. The reason he is not with his family is the mother of his children. My parents do not approve of him because of these facts and insist on parting with him. They also set a condition for me - they or he! I love him terribly much, I just can't live without him ... For a week now there have been all kinds of struggles and I have fallen into inhuman depression. I don't know what to do, I don't want to hurt anyone - not my family, not the person I really love. To me - fuck ... I've always thought more about others than about me .. now it's like that again. My friend fights with me, with him, with the people around me, he proves to me in every way that he loves me and that he wants us to be together. All these quarrels and problems have exhausted us terribly and we both suffer too much! One day I told my mother that I had broken up with him - the next night she went with the bottle and the salad to her relatives to drink, that I had parted with the "big one" ... This finished me and now I don't know if to he turned his back mostly on his mother so that I could be happy with my love, or to leave me, him, our love, our dreams in the background, so that my mother could be (mostly) happy and calm. Please at least give a comment! Thanks in advance. This finished me and now I don't know whether to turn my back mostly on my mother to be happy with my love, or to leave in the background me, him, our love, our dreams so that my mother (most already) to be content and calm. Please at least give a comment! Thanks in advance. This finished me and now I don't know whether to turn my back mostly on my mother to be happy with my love, or to leave in the background me, him, our love, our dreams so that my mother (most already) to be content and calm. Please at least give a comment! Thanks in advance.
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Honey, unfortunately you didn't write how old you are. If you are an adult, dependent only on yourself, do not hesitate to listen to your heart, we should not give up our love because of the misunderstanding of our loved ones, and even make mistakes. I think everything will be forgiven in a year or two, you know that things change with each passing day, don't despair like that. I advise you to realize if you are a mature person and if you are ready for such a deep and serious relationship, if you support yourself, and very importantly, if you will be ready to meet his children one day, because believe me and it will happen. If you answer the questions in the affirmative, be calm, you should be happy, but before that you should be ready. Talk to your mother about these issues, and also ask the dilemma - do you accept us or I leave you. Good luck.
Hello dear, I understand you very well because I have been in the same situation for about a year and I do not know what to do. I have not yet decided who to be with my friend I love or my family. I hope the advice you will receive will help me as well.
Mothers have that sixth sense that their children do not have. You will understand what it is about when you become a mother. And as for the circumstances around you - do not cut your path to the better. Divorced with two children, and an older one, is not the best thing you deserve. Run away from this man, you will fall victim to his family quarrels. He is an irresponsible type. Whatever his attitude towards his first wife will be towards you. Wait for them to live together, for the basic problems of family life to arise, and you will think of your mother and the frantic ones and try to separate you from this person. Now in love, and after the euphoria of this feeling passes? The smart girl!
I'm sorry, but I can't figure out who these parents are ... and they're not just yours. I know an awful lot of people whose parents get confused and set the tone in life when they are no longer 18 years old. My mother and father, never, but never, if they were the eldest and with ten children behind them, would say a word of separation to me, given that they see me as happy. That's how it should be! One day, if I have a child, the only thing that will be important to me will be for him to be happy, alive and healthy. This is the most important thing for a parent. The fact that they give you ultimatums to choose between him and them is the highest degree of simplicity.
I knew a girl who had a similar story. Whether she is happy now - I can not judge. All I know is that her life is very difficult. There was a boy her age who was crying at her wedding to a much older man divorced with two children. Her mother was adamant. He broke up with his mother and went from the big city to the village - to his mother-in-law. He radically changed his life. It is natural for her husband's children to be hers when necessary. He now earns his living by farming. Her husband suffered a stroke and is almost disabled. Her only joy in life is her daughter. Her mother is angry, angry, and now she is her biggest support. The child grew up and moved to the city with his grandmother. This is life - everyone is happy in their own way.
Well, in my opinion ... Go to the man you love ...
Hello lovely girl. I don't know if I can give you the most appropriate advice, but I will share my point of view. I think your mother's behavior is normal to one degree. Every mother wants her daughter to be the happiest and with the most suitable man for her. But on the other hand, making you choose between him and your family is just too much. It is understandable to worry about you, but it is unacceptable to impose in your life. Everyone has the right to choose and to live their own life. I think it should leave you happy. Even if this is a mistake and it ever ends, that's why parents should lend you a hand, and in this way a person builds himself as a person. If you leave him, you will hate them and you will be in a long war, but if you are with him you risk being turned your back on. Think carefully about what you prefer and act boldly. And don't forget that no matter how angry parents are, sooner or later they always reconcile and calm down. So sweet girl be smart, brave and happy. I sincerely wish you to find the right solution soon.
Be with him ...
After all, your life is yours and your mother can't tell you "NO, it's not for you" and "YES, I like this man, go ahead." Yes, she is your mother, but that does not give her the right to choose the companion in your life. Personally, I am only 20 years old, but we have been living with my boyfriend for a year now, we even went abroad ... My mother was adamant that she does not give such "freevils", but now she is dying for me and my friend, because she felt that we really love each other and that he is a man we can count on. My advice - stomp your foot in front of your mother. Tell her that giving birth to you does not give her the right to give you direction in life and to command you what and how to do.