Hello, I've been reading the site for a long time and finally I was afraid to share my problem ... I live outside the country and I have several roommates. One day one of them invited one of the boys downstairs (who are students like us) and we really liked it. It can even be said that as soon as I saw him, I experienced something ... After that he came relatively often, we became even closer, but as friends. But the problem is that although I liked him, I didn't do anything, because unfortunately I don't usually show my sympathy directly ... A few days ago I found out that he invited one of my roommates to a meeting (the one who invited him), and that she is also experiencing something and I guess maybe they will start a relationship. I definitely don't want to interfere with her happiness because she's my friend, but if I have to be honest with myself, every time I see them together,
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Bad situation!
Even if you hadn't kept quiet, you have no guarantee that he would have invited you. My advice is not to interfere anymore ... especially if your girlfriend has feelings for him. Find another boy for yourself. But you can ask her how she is feeling and depending on her answer you can make a decision. If she doesn't have real feelings ... and if she was a real friend of mine - maybe I would share it with you in your place about how I feel about not endangering our friendship. But if things between them are profound - no. It's best to move on. Try not to spend time with him so that you can forget him.
Accept that it was never yours and never will be. And he turned his attention to something else.
From the author: Maybe you're right, I'm trying to focus on something else, I hope it works. As for my girlfriend - I think she has some feelings, but nothing serious. Some time ago, when I met the boy in question, she was going on dates with someone else, it seems that she had feelings for him, but things never got worse, everything ended with him and I realized that she fell in love with this boy. But I think that in this case it is really better to stand aside ... The situation is complicated enough, because I forgot to mention that we often meet at parties, etc. with his ex-girlfriend ... The bad thing is that I feel more and more awkward, and in fact I can't do anything about it, because she is my roommate and we live in an apartment. I try to be distracted by other things, to go out somewhere, but it doesn't always work out. Mostly because, we often gather all my roommates and a few other people friendly company in the living room and I can not split just because he is there. It's awkward, it's unpleasant, but I will try to stay away and not deepen the situation.