I broke up with my husband 2 years ago. I lived in a dormitory, looked after the child, worked ... just when I was desperate to be alone for the rest of my life, He appeared. We met on the internet, after a while he asked for my phone .... then he asked to see me ... when he came to my city to see me, I was captivated by his eyes ... Nobody had looked at me the way who was watching me ... I went to visit him, then he came .... and after a while he asked me to live with him. That's when I had a violent argument with my father. We had already decided on what date he would come to pick us up with the child so that we could live together, but the story with my father accelerated things. So he came and picked us up earlier. So I left everything - accommodation, work, friends, relatives ... that was 4 months ago. In the beginning everything was great .... about a month ago, he worked in construction, took 3 sites and invested all available money in materials. He started coming back late, running from one object to another ... and then everything changed. He no longer hugs me, doesn't tell me he loves me, goes out early in the morning, comes home late in the evening, stays at the computer, has dinner and goes to bed. He pays me almost no attention. We quarrel over this issue several times, after which he is silent for days. Last time he told me there was no point in living together. We said terrible things to ourselves that we don't really think about. And now he has been silent for 3 days. I don't know what to do, I have nowhere to go, no job, no money, and I'm in a foreign city where I don't know anyone. I tried to talk to him, but he just said he had decided. Only at night, when he thinks I'm asleep, he hugs me, but when he feels I'm awake, he lets me go. I know that in his own way, he loves me, but he's a hell of a lot stubborn. I don't know how to fix things, I don't know what to do. I want to be a family, I don't want to separate ....
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In my opinion, if you show / show that you care about him, you surround him with attention (unobtrusively) and you do not want constant attention, things will get better. You just have to be more persistent, understand that he is under a lot of pressure at the moment because of the job, and not give up if he doesn't respond the way you treat him. I think he still loves you and you don't have to worry about that, just under the pressure he's obviously sour. It will pass in a few months. Everyone has difficult periods and then a person seeks only understanding from others, which sometimes we do not give .... Men are like that .... we try to be free and always go back to women who give us to be free ... male 27y.o.
Darling, I agree with 1. I will quote the words from a song by Mihail Belchev. We can have many women, but one will truly love us - the one who will not blame us when we are enchanted by another's love - the one who will say "Get up!" When we kneel when we are measured in our foreheads, - the one who will not forgive us when we turn our dreams into money .... If you can't be this woman for him, then be sure that the "real" man for you is somewhere lonely and waiting for you. And he hasn't found his real wife yet.
Honey, I fully understand you. My husband and I have been a family for 17 years and when we quarrel he is silent for months, not days but months. I don't know if he's stubborn, if he's proud of him, but I feel terrible during that time. I blame myself for what happened, even if I don't have the slightest guilt. It is good if the partners can talk, find a common language and understand each other at the moment, there is no need to accumulate unnecessary nerves. Find a way and talk to him dear, it is not fair to punish you this way. Because for me it was a kind of punishment. Good luck.
To number 2: This song is for the mother! Not for wives and lovers.