We are both students. The boy is 27 and smokes weed, and I am 20. We met mutual friends at a disco. He wants us to meet rarely because he told me that otherwise he would be emotionally attached and he wasn't sure now was the right time to connect. He claims he likes me. When he wants to see me he is super nice or when he writes to me first. If I write to him first, he responds without caring at all. He said I was weird because I hadn't slept with anyone in a long time. When I ask him how he spent his day or something, he always says he didn't do anything - just smoke weed and play games. I'm looking for a serious relationship and I like him in spite of everything and I'm tormented that he wants to see us rarely, and in the evening. How do you think I should act in this situation ... try to change something or retire without hoping unnecessarily?
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You have nothing to do with a drug addict, and as you write, it is clear that he does nothing all day, that he has treated you badly. Zarezhigo, you will find a better one than him. Are and success :))))
Wake up, girl! You chase chimeras.
You better give it up. There is always something less pleasurable about these drug stories.
Get him out of here using you
In my opinion, the answer is obvious. He uses you without even bothering to cover it up. You can't change anything in such a person. He is just a nerd and will remain so.
I just read "The boy is 27 and smokes weed ..." and I stopped. Why the hell are you dealing with such people ??? I can't understand that. What do you expect to get from such a person? Love? Maybe protection? Girl, you have to change your worldview !!!
Hi, my advice is to forget about anything with this person and I'm sure you know inside that this is the right thing to do. It is quite obvious that he is not serious and cannot give you what you want and if you get involved with him, you will only regret it afterwards. I had a similar situation with the wrong person, hoping that he would change when we were together, but believe me, this never happens ... I experienced it for five months. Think about whether you want to spend so much of your life in questions, harassment and constant wonder and hope for such a person. In a word - run while you can! And be convinced that you will meet far more decent, raise the criteria a little. :) Ж21
What a boy! At 27 he is a young man! And still a student? And he smokes weed, he plays games all day, he doesn't have you for anything .... OK, you're 20, but don't be so naive! You better give it up while it's time ....
I don't understand how he uses you, and why do you still like him?
If you want one that you even ask what to do ... you're a very limited girl ...
He seems to be the only one who has paid attention to you, you feel lonely and you can't stand it anymore, you need sex, and we know that if a woman is sexually engaged to someone, she is also emotionally attached (unless does not change them constantly). That is why I say that when people are looking for something serious, they first get to know the person against them and decide if they want something more and if they want to have sex. Not the other way around! And what do you prefer now, some absolute parasite, just because you have sex over being free and having the chance to really meet someone who deserves it? Games, grass and at 27 still studying ... I have no words. If you do not have requirements for what kind of person will be your partner, you will not get it, also if you yourself do not want to develop in different directions so as to meet high requirements, and you prefer to sink like this man, what a boy, the choice is yours. And I'm sure that this one has claims to the sky, it must be considered great, but it's just a complex.
Run away! Not only does he use you looking for you when he's just bored and has no other fun, but he's not worth dealing with drug addicts. And do you want your life to fail? Don't you deserve the best?
you are obviously a good girl ... run away from this guy, otherwise you will suffer ...