Hello, A boy in love with a colleague writes to you. Ironically, however, no matter how much I am in love with her and desperate to dream of going out together, I am the one who always cuts her off. Although she did not suspect my feelings, she invited me with her company on December 8, but I refused. This week she invited me to a disco again with her company, but I refused again. There are two reasons for refusing - the first is that I am a very shy and closed person and I can not go out with people I do not know at all. The other reason is that I don't have a night life, I've never been to a disco and I don't have any experience. What should I do if she invites me again I would very much like to go out just the two of us, but I'm very afraid he won't refuse me. That would ruin me. And I think she's starting to get closer to another boy, which makes me feel even worse, because both I can't have it and I have to watch How someone else spends their time. What to do? Please tell me! Thanks in advance! Please edit the topic.
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You have to realize that with this behavior, no one will run after you. It is quite normal, after you cut it, to look for and receive attention elsewhere. You lose a lot of good moments and life experience from a fur coat. One day you will wake up without any opportunity to communicate with the opposite sex. It wouldn't be a problem if it didn't weigh you down, but obviously that's not the case ... The only way is to act quickly and sharply, like removing a sticker. Yes, you may fail, it may not go well. Big deal! Everyone has shameful and awkward situations from which they can learn a lesson. Offer her to go out together, you have nothing to lose. If he cuts you off, at least you'll know he doesn't want anything from you. If you don't try, you'll have to wonder for a long time what could have happened ... It's not worth bothering like that. If he invites you again, accept, drink a brandy beforehand and act. You are not asked who knows what miracles of courage - you go out, ihu-ahu, dancing and so on. You make it much more complicated than it actually is. And be prepared for any developments.
Dude, the much more common situation is that you like a woman and she cuts you. In your case, your lucky and similar chance happens rarely or at all ... a woman you like, she tries to get closer several times. However, with such behavior you do not deserve it!
Eeeee, enough, man! The girl invites you, you refuse her because you do not lead a night life! Looks like you'll have to wait for someone to invite you to crochet! Do not be silly! Just go out, behave naturally, talk to people, what's so scary?
Don't deal with colleagues. Go out only with chicks that you can easily break up with. It saves a lot of trouble. Even if you are looking for a serious relationship, you will not succeed at once. You will change a lot of chicks before things work out with one. So do not deal with those that are present in your daily life and then you will be sick of walking down the hallways.
Once you cut it, you will lose it. She has a dignity that you hurt by your refusals. Instead of being rude to her, do something - go to a club once to see what it is. Work on your shyness ...
She is right. Don't kick your luck. If you don't go to a disco, invite her somewhere. At the cinema cafe at the zoo or shopping in the mall to help you choose clothes. Don't hesitate and act until they steal it from you ... if you give up later you will swear.
Hello! If you don't do something, the only option is to lose it. In principle, the man is the one who takes the initiative, and she has invited you twice and you have refused, and for a woman this means that you almost do not show any interest in her and then even now have something to do with you. it will go out. That's why it's best to take risks, because after all, life is one and by doing so always, you ruin all your chances to be happy. If you are ashamed to invite her on a date from the very beginning, you can offer her to go for coffee together during the holidays so that you can reduce the distance between them. In this way you will start to communicate more and you will feel more relaxed and confident in her company.
Author: I wouldn't say she feels anything for me. Both times she invited me, she did not hold on to my presence. On December 8, he invited me just like that, because he knew I had nowhere else to go. But I definitely don't think so; that my feelings are shared. I think she just looks at me like a good colleague.
Don't be so pessimistic. You can't be absolutely sure that there is nothing wrong with you, and there can't be anything if you don't stop behaving like that.
For a start, you can congratulate her on the new year, then you ask the question how you are and of the sort, that is, you take a conversation or just offer to go somewhere, a place you like and think she will agree. Abe boy, act, there's no other way Bucha
Author: It's all over. She has already caught up with a boy she has only known for 3 months. In 3 months he managed to go with her, and I, the loser, did not even take her out for a year and a half. I feel unbearably bad, but hopefully time will heal my grief. Thanks to everyone though for the tips.