Hello, once again I am writing on the site, hoping that someone will help me ... We have been in the same class with a girl for 4 years (now she and I are 18), she is my closest friend, I love her ... but from 1 week I started to feel something more than friendly feelings, over time I got to know her more and more and now I reached the border between friendship and love ... She had a serious friend with whom they constantly parted because he and he cheated and hurt her ... I was by her side all the time and supported her when it was difficult ... At the moment I am very confused and I don't know what to do, I'm afraid to tell her, I'm afraid of the answer and ... I just want her to be happy, I want her to be my girl and to do everything to make her smile and really happy ... Give me some advice, what to do, how to approach the situation,because I don't know if she feels the same way about me ...
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Girl, this is disgusting, I know these are things from life, but you can hardly experience these feelings !! ..: / In my opinion you just love her as a person, but you can't think of anything more, she is against your human nature! .. There should be no such anomalies, try to go out with boys, do not leave your girlfriend, but briefly move away from her to crush the snake's head while it is small, I think it will be very difficult for you later. . :) These feelings are unfounded .. -my opinion- Avant-garde
What kind of boys was he, №1, do you want to make the boy gay?
Well, the story was written by a boy! Elayla
Number 1 the author is a boy !!!
To number one: A boy writes the question, not a girl ... unless "confused" is a feminine adjective! Dear boy, nothing will happen if you don't try. He may reject you, want you to be just friends, but it will not weigh on your conscience and ask yourself "What if I said? ..". I know it's easy in words, but you have to gather courage and ask her if she shares your feelings. If she agrees, you make sure she didn't do it to make the ex (the current one) jealous. That way neither of you will be happy! Talk openly with her, after all you wrote that she is your friend! Come on, good luck and write how it went. The Dice
From the author: I am a boy!
If you don't try, you can't understand :) My advice is to talk to her as soon as she is close to you => share, just tell her how you feel .. most such friendships end in love :) Good luck
As far as I understand, the author is a boy and is in love with his best friend. Some time ago I was in such a situation, I loved him very much and he loved me. We were afraid that the other was feeling the same, and we were never together. We didn't want to lose at least our friendship, but our paths parted because he wanted to. Not that I didn't want to own it, he was happy (when he became a student), but then he told me it didn't make sense. He was depressed and missed everyone, and he suffered greatly. Then he explained to me how much he had changed from becoming a terribly cold man.
Wait now are you a boy or a girl?
From the author: On March 8, my friend forgot to congratulate her, I bought a bouquet of roses, waited for her before school and gave them as a gift. But then I did it only in a friendly way, while now I want something more ... I want her to be my girl ... we have some good friends in common with whom I shared how I feel and they told me that I can win her, but the problem is her friend ... it's like she's obsessed with him ... I watch him cheat on her ... he hurts her ... he lies to her ... and she's with him again, I keep asking myself "Why"? I know her well, even too well, and she doesn't like direct things, but she likes certain things. Recently something happened - she was a little drunk and we were walking down the street, she started hugging my arm, then she took my hand, just like hold the couples ... but she said she caught me so she wouldn't fall (which I doubt).
It is extremely difficult not to cross the line between friendship and love, I would even say that it is impossible. If she's already broken up with her boyfriend why not give it a try. Just admit your feelings. I don't see anything wrong with admitting how you feel about someone. If you decide that then, if she does not respond to your feelings, you will quarrel and the relationship will no longer be the same, you better not tell her that you like her. You know her better than we do. Listen to your heart. Good luck and write what happened.
OMG !!! A boy is also a point on the subject. The author himself wrote that he was a BOY !!! To the author: Assess what is more important to you, your friendship or feelings for her. Aren't you close ??? Secrets can only keep you away. I think you have to admit it to her, but you judge, you know her. Assess how he will react in all cases. As they said above, if you don't admit it, it will weigh on your conscience.
Hi, I'm a GIRL :), I'm also 18 and I'll tell you part of my story (I hope it helps you) I also had a best friend, a year older than me. One day, he decided to confess his feelings to me. I said to myself, what, I'll try it, it can work. We went for 3 months (without sex). Well what can I tell you, I loved him, but only as a friend. I wanted to love him, as something more, but it didn't work out. We broke up. We didn't keep in touch for a while, but then we started talking again. So, after a while, I realized that I was in love with him and that I loved him more than anything. Now we are still together (for a year and a half). :) If you admit your feelings, you risk your friendship, but if she also has feelings, I think that your relationship will be quite strong. You decide :) Just think carefully about what to do:
Be brave!! Just say it, don't wait!
My advice is to first think about whether you are really in love with her or just a hobby. If you are really in love and you can't do without her, as you say and admit your feelings. If she responds to your feelings, it's great, but if she doesn't feel the same, you risk ruining your friendship. If you can find out if she has any feelings, it will be best. Good luck :)
From the author: Well, that's exactly it, I want to make sure she has feelings too, but I don't know how, and I don't want to ask her directly because she doesn't like direct things ... And yes, I think I'm in love because every day when I don't see her, I miss her and ... every smile of hers impresses me ...
From the author: Hello ... Yesterday I gathered a little courage in the big break and told about my feelings for her and that I want to be more than friends ... and she told me that we are the two opposites, that I know her well and I know how is with the boys ... he told me that we are from the same class and if we quarrel, then we will not be able to see each other ... and as a finale he told me directly NO ... and since then we have not said a word :( Give me some advice on what to do, because I realized that I can't do without it ... I don't want to give up, but I don't know how to continue :(
Same here. But it turned out that she also has feelings for me (Party) Ask her if she can also have feelings for you ")
Fight for her, if you pull, dump her and live your life. It's not worth it, you will show her the purest intentions, and she will run after that garbage. I had a boyfriend from my class, I was happy (I don't know about him), he dumped me, we haven't spoken for 2 years, I'm completely indifferent to him (I don't feel feelings). If it wasn't so easy, I would renew my friendship with him. But you are 18 and you will be a student, what is the problem, you will no longer be in 1st grade. So that she doesn't justify yours with yours.