Now I will tell you my story. When I was 20 I met a boy I fell in love with and we soon got married. A year later, our son was born. Everything was fine until he started drinking. He drank and beat me. Then, when he sobered up, he told me how much he loved me, how he could not live without me, etc. And I always forgave until the next time. This January I decided to go abroad to work, to separate from everything. I just wanted to start a new life. I worked as a bartender. I met a lot of men, talked to a lot and believe me I was more and more disappointed. Until one night a man entered the bar. He was strangely different from all the drunks I worked with. The first question I asked him when he ordered was 'What are you doing here' We talked about all sorts of things all night, and he told me he was from Switzerland and on vacation. After work he sent me to my quarters. I invited him, drank tea and kept talking. It was almost 6 in the morning when he left and hugged me at the door and said, "Be my friend." The next day he sent me flowers. And so began coffee meetings, walks, conversations. Until one night I decided I wanted to be with him. We had amazing sex. It all lasted very little. We almost didn't have time to get to know each other, because his vacation was over and he had to go home. Last night he told me he didn't know how, but he fell in love with me. The problem is that I too. For 10 years I lived in hell with beatings and fear, and now I met a man who treated me like a princess. But ... it didn't end there. We continued with text messages, photos, phone calls. We kept saying how much we loved each other, but I couldn't do it anymore. I hadn't told him that I am married, that I have a child. And one day I wrote him an email telling him my whole life. I wrote him that I had been waiting for only one word from him all along and that I was ready to divorce. In response to my letter, I received that he loves me endlessly, but since the age of 4 he has a girlfriend with whom he lives. That when he met me they were separated, but a month after he came back and gave a second chance, etc. I can't describe to you how I feel. I feel like screaming, pulling my hair out of grief. I love him like crazy. I can't think of anything else just for him and because I'm an honest person I told him everything. I told him how I felt, and that it didn't matter to me that he had a girlfriend. I returned to Bulgaria. My husband treats me like never before. He doesn't drink anymore, there are no scandals, but people don't have love. He killed her a long time ago. I know I have no future with my Swiss, but I can't stop loving him. This is my true love. The one that occurs once in a lifetime. I want to fight for him, but I can't because I'm very far away. Every day I prove to him how much I love him. I even dedicated verses to him. He is wonderful. He keeps writing me how much he misses me, how he thinks of me, how no one has made him feel as special as I do, but nothing. I'm starting to despair. I don't know if I should just stop writing to him and leave everything to fate or continue. I am not a small child. I am a mature woman of 31 years old, and I fell in love as a kid. And on top of that, my husband feels that I no longer love him and suffers. I see this and am further annoyed. Maybe some of you will reproach me. They will say I don't know what I want, but believe me I know very well. I want my Swiss. I'm not looking for advice, because I can't consult myself. I just need to share and be relieved, because all my life I've been alone and there was no one to talk to. God bless you all
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I think one of the most painful things is to have love that has obstacles and it can't thrive. In this case, it turns into hellish torture ... think ... can you separate them ... go to him ...
Hello you who wrote me this beautiful piece of advice. You can't imagine how much I want to do just that, but I can't just take my child, knock on his door, and say, Hello, honey, we're here. He has another woman he lives with. It's not easy at all. I am currently in a period to forget it. I do everything possible. During the day, when I'm busy with something, I succeed, but at night ... I turn around all night and I can't sleep, and when I fall asleep for a while, it's in my dreams.
And what will happen ... You will regret all your life that you missed the opportunity to live as we all want - with love! It's really not that simple, but it doesn't stop you from trying .. to live in the new place and share it with this dirty patch ... and tfa e..I don't know .. don't give up if you're sure, because this life will is angry and he is one, you can't go back and try again, to live fully ..
Sam, he told you he gave his girlfriend a second chance. I wonder if you will have the strength to give your husband a second chance? You share that he has changed and that he no longer drinks !? Try to fix your life so far, not look for new 'burns'. You know the Swiss in question only at the time of his death, which does not mean that he is wonderful for the rest of his life. Who knows what a bastard he is, but you just haven't had a chance to get to know him from all sides. Gather your thoughts and try to forgive the father of your child, there is nothing better than a healthy and close-knit family. Good luck!
Hello you, who ask me if I will have the strength to give my husband a chance? The answer is yes. I gave him. But do you think this is a chance for happiness? Do you think everything is fine now? I do not think. Yes, he doesn't drink or at least tries, but the question is until when? How long will it take to reach for the glass again? I'm on thorns every day when it will start again. Every time he tells me that he loves me, the insults he told me echo in my mind. Tell me how to make love to him when every time I close my eyes I see his face distorted by malice and alcohol. Every time he reaches out to caress me, I cringe in fear or withdraw. Is this a healthy and close-knit family, what do you think?
I hope I'm not too late. From what you shared, it became clear to me that you are a woman who is able to give all her strength to a love. And I don't blame you - you are in dire need of true love. I don't know how you endured all this harassment with your husband ... You must be a very strong woman! If you think it makes sense, fight for this love ... Even if he is not the right person, look for another! He's waiting for you somewhere. You deserve to be loved and valued, don't put up with "what you have". Your happiness is coming ... I wish you success from the bottom of my heart.
HELLO! I THINK YOU HAVE TO TAKE YOUR CHILD AND MOVE OUT. SEPARATE YOUR WIFE IF YOU DON'T LOVE HIM ANYMORE. AND AS FOR THE OTHER - TELL HIM THAT HE HAS TO DECIDE WHO HE WANTS TO BE WITH AND THAT YOU STILL CONTINUE TO LOVE HIM. AFTER THAT, LEAVE IT TO DECIDE FOR YOURSELF WHEN HE TELLS YOU, IT WILL BECOME MUCH EASIER FOR BOTH OF YOU AND YOU WILL KNOW WHAT TO DO. UNTIL THAT YOU WATCH A CHILD. GOOD LUCK!!!
I'm glad you found the love of your life. Many people have not yet found it. And I am one of them. But, as always, there is one but ... And by the way, why don't you dump your husband. Or simply because you have a child and you sit with him. Get rid of it and find your happiness. It can take a long time, but you have to learn to be patient. I wish you real happiness with your chosen one.
Your story is pretty nasty. But keep in mind that there are many worse things in this life. If I tell you what happened to me, you will just think that what you said is so small that it is not worth wasting your nerves. It is very difficult to live, but we have to live on everything and everyone.
Don't be with your husband if you don't love him. And don't feel guilty. Look for your way, your love, and when you recognize it, fight for it. Good luck.