Hello! I am a woman, 26 years old. It all started two years ago. Then I met a man I didn't like at first. I had no attraction to him. He was very stubborn and did not refuse to court me, despite my many refusals. It became interesting for me for a short time, because the time spent with him was fun and we got along. He lived in another city and returned there. We wrote to each other all the time. He became my best friend. I felt very close to him, but I still didn't want a relationship or any intimate relationship. As I mentioned, that didn't stop him. He came to my city, made romantic gestures to me. He bought me presents. We went on vacation. I felt very good with him. At one point I said to myself that maybe I should stop thinking that way and give myself to this person. He had won my trust and my heart. He often explained to me how much he cared about his health and how he visited a urologist regularly to make sure he had no problems. He had even told me where he was going and when his last checkup was. I trusted him and he managed to convince me to have sex without a condom. The problems started shortly after. I just wasn't on my own. It turned out to be a bacterial infection. Lots of doctors, pills, money and nerves. He helped and also treated himself, claiming that it could not be from him. I decided that it was possible that my ex had cheated on me and with what else I did not justify the situation. I continued to believe him. We were healed. I knew he used to take drugs regularly (cocaine, amphetamines, weed, ecstasy), he told me.
Explain to me how sorry he was for this period and how he hadn't taken it in a year. He said he didn't want to go back to that under any circumstances. I trusted him. I will not go into too much detail, I will just say that there has never been a period in which not to take. He is not a drug addict, but when he went out he did it systematically, under my nose. I accidentally understood him and made him confess. It took a long time and insistence on my part. We have been living together for several months. I recently found out that he lied to me about these things. I feel like a complete fool. He doesn't consider it something. There were also financial problems. I try to understand it, but things get slower with each passing day. Don't respect my birthday or Christmas. He always reproaches me for not understanding him and not appreciating anything. No more romantic gestures, no relationship, we're not going anywhere. Scandals are commonplace. I start them. I can't live with the fact that he pretended to be human, which is not real and has lied to me for so long. I no longer feel courted and loved. I don't feel like a woman. All the time she lived in another city, I was not with another man. I am monogamous and I was faithful to him. I waited for him to come to me. It turned out that I was waiting for some illusion. We used to laugh together, go out, party. Now we're just fighting.
You will wonder why I am still with him when it seems that I will not forgive him. I am a very loyal girl and I am extremely attached. Every separation is a real tragedy for me and I experience it very hard. I loved this man and imagined the future with him. I am currently betrayed, lied to and hurt. He risked my health and lost my trust. I made a lot of compromises to be with him. In return, I received lies.
Neither am I a flower nor is he a bad person. I am a difficult character and I know it. He has qualities that are not to be underestimated. He knows how to cook, he is hardworking, he is not lazy, he has a sense of humor, he is good-natured and not conflicted. When he had the opportunity, he always pleased me. My question is whether it is worth sitting in this relationship and waiting for it to change. Have you had similar experiences? Is this a period we have to go through or is it just the end? Would you forgive these lies? Is separation the solution in this case? It will be very difficult for me and I am afraid of that moment. Is it a must we go through or is it just the end? Would you forgive these lies? Is separation the solution in this case? It will be very difficult for me and I am afraid of that moment. Is it a must we go through or is it just the end? Would you forgive these lies? Is separation the solution in this case? It will be very difficult for me and I am afraid of that moment.
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give him more time, at least a few months. meanwhile he changed his difficult character
Honey, another delusion .. You want bad boys ... You bad boys ... Then this, that ...
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa, as long as you make up stories already! Don't you think someone won't recognize you?
He has not changed but has shown his true nature. This happens in all couples, with the small difference that in some cases the differences are insurmountable as in your case. I would not put up with such a liar and drug addict. You sound like a smart and responsible girl to me and you can't close your eyes to such serious facts. At the age of 26 it is no longer time to experiment because in giving chances and forgiveness every time there will come a time you will wake up at 30, the situation will be intolerable. You will need time to shake off and at 35 he is looking for a decent man without a family and children ...
Get rid of it! F31
"He has qualities that should not be underestimated. He can cook, hardworking, not lazy, has a sense of humor, is good-natured and not conflicted." "Now we just fight." If you're going to compose, at least make sure it's consistent. the story. But if we accept that this is true, the qualities are to be underestimated. If you are not a mother's light, then cooking and work are the duties of all adults. I have met few people without humor, again nothing special. You will also say that I change my underwear sometimes. The public standard is not for envy, but for fulfillment. It's like praising his intellect because he can read. So after you drop it (will), it will be really right to tidy up your character. You did not refuse adequately or anything. You have reconciled and now you have a parasite - literally and figuratively. It infects you, irritates you, will soon begin and loans to ask (guess what). And no, he's not good-natured - you're naive. Good-natured people don't give you an STD, they don't hide drugs from you. And yes, it's conflicted, so you fight. Your life is yours, rape it as you wish. If you really hate yourself, stay with the parasite.
Yeah Al that sounds pretty crap to me, Looks like BT aint for me either. Keep it there, the "loyal one".
N. 3 And your eyes were opened who writes fictional stories. And to recognize her is of no use until the site decides and stops publishing her nonsense. Hopefully more commentators will realize and finally see who is the false author of so much nonsense. Moderators, why should I always remind you to post my comment, and to this author you publish all her topics.
"I no longer feel courted and loved. I don't feel like a woman." - You mean here - "She doesn't take me on vacations anymore and there are no presents ...
From the author: I don't know who I'm reminding you of, but you're wrong. It took me a long time and courage to admit my naivety first to myself and then here, so please, no offense. As for the people who comment that I wanted a bad boy, and now I'm whining. Folks, he never gave a clue to a bad boy or a bully. It's not some inflated selandur that feels like a 90's mutter, if that's how you imagine it. Number 4, you set out and described very accurately my fears and worries. It's like quoting my thoughts. Thanks for the comments, even to those who confuse me with a "writer". I say again - I have not written anything. I have even saved some facts, mostly for fear of being read by someone close to me or by the person himself and recognizing me. I expect more comments.
The author: Out of pure curiosity, could you tell me who you confuse me with? Is there a story on the site that looks like mine? If so, it may be useful for me to read it and see comments and advice there as well. Please, those who think that my story is fake, tell me the titles of the other stories that I think I wrote. Thanks in advance!
9, they had uploaded another of her fictional stories and I wrote a comment: "Are you again?" And so they deleted my comment and published her fictions. You must recognize her in her other "stories" lost in so much time. A person with free time or fantasies.
No man goes to a urologist prophylactically.
Until N. 12 the author. Why do you pretend to be so innocent and ask, "Is there a story on the site that looks like mine?" Now I will show you which stories are yours. In "Love and Infidelity" the last 4 stories are yours, namely: "He is unclean and a mother's son" "He became angry and was constantly dissatisfied and criticized me" "The misogynistic topics" "I lived in a lie and the bubble burst" "Men are terrible "" Was I sexually abused "in" Sex and Intimacy "In all these topics you spit on men and blame them for everything. You are the biggest male hater on this site. You have a sick brain. In your topic: "Women's hatred topics" you again accuse men of hatred of women. It's you, you blame the men for everything. "Why is it great to be an atheist" in " Should I add 10-15 more of your topics, Grandma. Here everyone needs to know who publishes the most perverted topics. Moderators, please post my comment. Should I add 10-15 more of your topics, Grandma. Here everyone needs to know who publishes the most perverted topics. Moderators, please post my comment.
From the author: To number 15 and others who accuse me: None of the listed topics were written by me. I do not constantly hang on this site, nor am I interested in such things as the ones listed. My only regret is that I was constantly waiting for comments to be useful to me, and I came across some vicious people accusing me of something. Obviously, even anonymously on the Internet, one cannot receive normal advice and support. I wasted my time hoping that the people on this site would help me make a decision. Please, if anyone really has something to tell me on the subject, do it. I have nothing else to say to the others. I am disappointed with this reaction. I sought advice anonymously, and I was accused and insulted for no reason. I really hope to comment on people who can advise me something, because every time I see