Why and how it happened, I do not know. In 2 days from Heaven I fell to the ground, but with such a crash that I still do not know where I am. We have been together for years, not months. I give everything he asked for on top. What they call a "toxic connection" is starting to happen, but according to everyone around me, it has been happening for a long time. It hurts me a lot, but I love it a lot ... Really a lot, and here's my problem. I'm just another person with him. Basically I have a big ego, I open my mouth, but with it it's just the opposite. I have endured very heavy words and actions to hear "I love you" or some kind words from him. And, ahem, I'm waiting to see for myself how far my own patience goes, because I'm nervous by nature. I think it's my strong love for him, I can't give it up no matter how hard I try. Is there a problem in me that every little thing makes me roar? I try not to be obsessed ... why I fell in love with someone who I don't even know if he loves me, but I fell in love I tell you, quickly and strongly, at first sight. He walks away from me for hours, not days. How can I fall out of love with him? I try to fix things, but they get worse ... I thought that if you give everything to one person, he will love you more, I'm obviously wrong ... that's how he repulses you. Dear ladies, break the cat's head and throw it to the ground in time, as they say. Give me some advice, please. I lose it, and it hurts. You say "dump it", I can't ... my strong affection and love don't even let me think about it. My days are so gray, only he puts color in them, but not lately. There is no joy, no emotion, just a boring everyday life, filled with anticipation of a different development of things ... empty love. why I fell in love with someone who I don't even know if he loves me, but I fell in love I tell you, quickly and strongly, at first sight. He walks away from me for hours, not days. How can I fall out of love with him? I try to fix things, but they get worse ... I thought that if you give everything to one person, he will love you more, I'm obviously wrong ... that's how he repulses you. Dear ladies, break the cat's head and throw it to the ground in time, as they say. Give me some advice, please. I lose it, and it hurts. You say "dump it", I can't ... my strong affection and love don't even let me think about it. My days are so gray, only he puts color in them, but not lately. There is no joy, no emotion, just a boring everyday life, filled with anticipation of a different development of things ... empty love. why I fell in love with someone who I don't even know if he loves me, but I fell in love I tell you, quickly and strongly, at first sight. He walks away from me for hours, not days. How can I fall out of love with him? I try to fix things, but they get worse ... I thought that if you give everything to one person, he will love you more, I'm obviously wrong ... that's how he repulses you. Dear ladies, break the cat's head and throw it to the ground in time, as they say. Give me some advice, please. I lose it, and it hurts. You say "dump it", I can't ... my strong affection and love don't even let me think about it. My days are so gray, only he puts color in them, but not lately. There is no joy, no emotion, just a boring everyday life, filled with anticipation of a different development of things ... empty love. at first glance. He walks away from me for hours, not days. How can I fall out of love with him? I try to fix things, but they get worse ... I thought that if you give everything to one person, he will love you more, I'm obviously wrong ... that's how he repulses you. Dear ladies, break the cat's head and throw it to the ground in time, as they say. Give me some advice, please. I lose it, and it hurts. You say "dump it", I can't ... my strong affection and love don't even let me think about it. My days are so gray, only he puts color in them, but not lately. There is no joy, no emotion, just a boring everyday life, filled with anticipation of a different development of things ... empty love. at first glance. He walks away from me for hours, not days. How can I fall out of love with him? I try to fix things, but they get worse ... I thought that if you give everything to one person, he will love you more, I'm obviously wrong ... that's how he repulses you. Dear ladies, break the cat's head and throw it to the ground in time, as they say. Give me some advice, please. I lose it, and it hurts. You say "dump it", I can't ... my strong affection and love don't even let me think about it. My days are so gray, only he puts color in them, but not lately. There is no joy, no emotion, just a boring everyday life, filled with anticipation of a different development of things ... empty love. I'm obviously wrong ... that's how it repulses you. Dear ladies, break the cat's head and throw it to the ground in time, as they say. Give me some advice, please. I lose it, and it hurts. You say "dump it", I can't ... my strong affection and love don't even let me think about it. My days are so gray, only he puts color in them, but not lately. There is no joy, no emotion, just a boring everyday life, filled with anticipation of a different development of things ... empty love. I'm obviously wrong ... that's how it repulses you. Dear ladies, break the cat's head and throw it to the ground in time, as they say. Give me some advice, please. I lose it, and it hurts. You say "dump it", I can't ... my strong affection and love don't even let me think about it. My days are so gray, only he puts color in them, but not lately. There is no joy, no emotion, just a boring everyday life, filled with anticipation of a different development of things ... empty love.
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I think that this is not your love, darling, but a need, an addiction ... you must have emotional shortcomings and you think that he should fill them. Let him go, take a break, love yourself, alone, and only then look for a new partner. The man must conquer you, not you him. And love is when you are ok with someone and when you are ok without him ... it is too early for you. Good luck with the realization!
Love yourself first. Respect yourself. And don't give up. Having received everything from you, you are no longer interested in him. You repel him yourself with this behavior. I didn't understand this about the cat and it doesn't seem right to me, but you repel it with your servile behavior and sooner or later it will go to another woman. Tighten up and wake up.
Author I missed something Somehow only I make compromises. I live in big restrictions, they are not a problem for me ... as long as he responds to me with his love ... but since I wrote this, things have gotten worse and I don't know what to do. To fight, to leave him ... I'm really confused in my head is such a mess and to be honest I don't see the right solution to the problem. To talk and not to speak, it's like talking on a wall, everything is fine for him .. I'm mentally crushed, I don't eat, I don't sleep, my thought is only there and in some of my dreams and illusions Thank you in advance for the advice
I am more or less in the same situation and I was 6 years ago. The first time I suffered a lot and suffered a lot, I lost 15 kg in 1 month from grief and ignorance of how to deal with the situation and again things to be as before. To feel his warmth and to enjoy the moments when he shows tenderness. I fully understand how you feel and that this is day and night in your head, but nothing can be done. I did all kinds of fairs for a drop of attention from him, I even prayed to him not to leave me. Until one day we hadn't seen each other for months, because circumstances demanded it when he saw me so skinny and harassed, he felt sorry for us, we sat down and talked and ended our relationship. At that moment, I hated him because I lost 4 years of my life because of a lie and I broke my psyche in that regard, this guilt and the hysteria I was in changed me, ruined me. I asked him why he didn't tell me earlier so that the bad guy wouldn't come out and that he didn't keep his word and behaved badly because he wanted me to give him up. Otherwise he really loved me. Because of him, I hated men, I lost trust in everyone. and I trusted him a lot, I didn't trust anyone as much and I didn't feel as close as him. And he ruined me because of the cliché "male word". And since then I have not had a normal relationship. I still have the feeling that they are making fun of me, that they are making fun of my trust, of me. I don't know if everything they tell me is true or a disguised lie, I cling to the smallest thing as proof that I am the first. I'm at the same station now, but on another train, again the same agony, and I want to believe that this time it's not a lie. There is no salvation from this, but not to become like me, I advise you to talk to your man about the reason for your relationship at the moment and judge for yourself whether it is worth bothering. Good luck
Define "It hurts me a lot." I'm sorry, but that doesn't tell us readers anything. One hurts him infidelity, another and one word crooked to hurt. It was difficult for me to understand the story, after you speak only in the first person - I give everything, I am very much in love, I, I ... In reality, we do not have his point of view, and you can't help but talk about the topic (what exactly lame, how to fix it and so on). If I can guess from the little information you have given, the person simply no longer has feelings for you, you are not the one to make his day as colorful as yours. In your place, if I know for sure that this is the case, I will leave immediately. Because unfortunately this is something irreparable. It will hurt, you will feel lost, but all in good time - there is no person you can't get over, believe me.
Number 7, the past can be erased or sick for some but not for others. The painful experience of love leads to insecurity, to the fear of falling in love again. I've fallen in love with relationships exactly twice, and I have no desire to hope, to wait, to look, I'll just keep them to myself and that's how it will be. When there are no feelings on the other side, there are none ... just as they can't make me fall in love with someone, so it must be the same with another person. Someone had said in another thread that you can't keep a man having sex, then there should be no cause for concern.
Author Number 7, I try to give as much information as possible, but I'm afraid the person will not know .. I have a blunder and at the first opportunity I am told about this blunder. He has more, I'm just afraid to open my mouth because there are scandals and in the end I'm guilty of everything again. If I talk, it's like I'm talking to myself about these things, everything is fine for him. As I said, I live in limitations ... he's very jealous, I don't go anywhere, my male friends are blocked on Facebook and I can't say , hurts me with his indifference to me. Somehow I'm not interested in him anymore, I don't know where his mind is, I've done circuses ... I've kept calm ... Nothing Thank you very much for the advice so far
Author Ugh I forgot something again, I apologize for cutting the answers so He doesn't let me go ..., once he even went to us to commit suicide .. he doesn't let me go and I don't see the logic, last time I left he became him again such, failed, and my heart sank
I think it's just in your head and you're causing it yourself. Maybe obsessive unreasonable jealousy ... give more info ... you say almost nothing .. Only that he withdrew from you - how he hurts you / according to you / Seek a psychotherapist!
Despite the lack of specific information from him or her, he may have a good reason for doing so. Give more info?
I'm also in a toxic relationship, but mine is kind of sexual, but with a little more engagement. The problem is that in the beginning he was great. I had never felt so wanted and loved. We heard each other and saw each other every day. In the morning I got a good morning and in the evening we finished talking late. It was as if he couldn't get enough of me, and I couldn't get enough of him. I received all his attention every day. This lasted 1 year. The following year, however, he changed. Our conversations have diminished. The nice text messages stopped. There are even days now - up to 1-2, in which he doesn't remember me. He arranges appointments for me, which he cancels at the last minute. He no longer tells me I love you. He doesn't address me with nice names. He started taking down women in front of me. And I continue to love him and justify him for his behavior and to come to terms with the little I get from him. Knowing that I have to leave him, but I can't. I can't even physically survive without him. I made at least 10 attempts to dump him, but he wouldn't let me. When he senses that I am moving away, he becomes kind again and says that he loves me and so on until I return to him and then the same thing. He becomes cold and indifferent again. He constantly changes his mood and floods me with hot and cold showers. I can no longer stand this uncertainty and ask myself every day - does he love me. I'm tired of looking for love in his smallest gestures to me to get my dose of happiness. I'm just addicted. So I completely understand you. Unfortunately, I can't give you advice, because I don't know how to handle it myself. I want to find a way to communicate with him, but for that I have to work on myself and my own self-confidence. On the other hand, I know that I am not to blame for his attitude towards me and I cannot change him and make him respect and love me. No matter how I think about it, I actually know that the only way out of this addiction is to end it. This is my advice to you - get away from it. And if you can't, then stop telling him I love you, to comply with him, to sympathize with him, become colder but kind and see his reaction. I think that way he will feel that he is losing control of you and will become more considerate and kind. If you start this game, however, you should not stop it, because it will crush you again. If you play games - try. But I don't think you'll be happy with this man. Good luck darling! This is my advice to you - get away from it. And if you can't, then stop telling him I love you, to comply with him, to sympathize with him, become colder but kind and see his reaction. I think that way he will feel that he is losing control of you and will become more considerate and kind. If you start this game, however, you should not stop it, because it will crush you again. If you play games - try. But I don't think you'll be happy with this man. Good luck darling! This is my advice to you - get away from it. And if you can't, then stop telling him I love you, to comply with him, to sympathize with him, become colder but kind and see his reaction. I think that way he will feel that he is losing control of you and will become more considerate and kind. If you start this game, however, you should not stop it, because it will crush you again. If you play games - try. But I don't think you'll be happy with this man. Good luck darling! that you will not be happy with this person. Good luck darling! that you will not be happy with this person. Good luck darling!