Hi, I had a wonderful relationship with a really nice and good girl. Over time, I made a few mistakes about her, which I unfortunately realized late, and she left. It was all my fault. They were not unforgivable mistakes of the kind of infidelity, but were lack of time, less attention and similar things (which are not insignificant). I tried to talk to her anyway, but she flatly refused and I was blocked everywhere - phone, social networks, etc. I just didn't have any chance to even talk to her. I accepted that I had lost it and closed this page in my life. I didn't expect it, but I got depressed when I couldn't eat, I couldn't work, I couldn't sleep. The struggle was hard. It's been 4-5 months since the separation and I started getting on the rails and decided to see other women with the idea of continuing my life. It turned out, however, that going out with another I can't stop thinking about her. It's all over, but I just don't have eyes for another. Last night I went out with a very nice and nice girl, we went for a walk, drank coffee, the meeting went great and she said she wanted to see me again. I took her to them and the only thing I thought was how I could leave faster ... I know that I lost her and that she will never come back to me, I accepted him, but my heart is obviously gone.
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How long were you together? Can't you find it not through social networks but live? Explain to her that you will get better and really prove to her that you got better if she agrees to try again. Try. And good luck :)
Do not force yourself to enter into a new relationship immediately, give yourself time to forget the previous one and take stock so as not to repeat the previous mistakes. If you stay alone for a while it won't hurt you.
You can look at things from another angle - you didn't lose her, she lost you. What you describe as the reason for the separation are the trivial female excuses, especially when a more attractive suitor has appeared on the horizon. I do not want to prophesy, but very soon the one in question will "bloom" with countless excuses and excuses, especially if he sees you in the company of another woman - think about this moment and do not make the mistake of giving her a second chance. Now I will not go into details and I will not comment on what will happen if you let her in again - you will write yourself in a month or two.
"I tried to talk to her anyway, but she flatly refused, as I was blocked everywhere separately - phone, social networks, etc." - This tells me that you got rid of it a little, yes? If she is a narcissist who cannot compromise, to forgive, to make an effort for your relationship so that it works and expects you to be perfect and to fit into some of her imaginary standards, then it is not worth it. and it is better for you to be away from her. This type of women are selfish egotists who do not see you as a man but as a means to fill some of their needs and if you deviate from the "right behavior" just run away and they leave. Then, of course, they complain that they are in a bad situation and that men do not want a "serious relationship." Why don't they want to? Maybe because they themselves are not serious but run away at the first problem?
Enough roaring for this sheep (the previous one). If she doesn't want to see you because you didn't pay enough attention to her - and she doesn't give a chance to talk, then she's a cocky duck. Toss the next one and in 2 months you will wonder what you were shaking for nothing. You got rid of it on time.
People who get into a new relationship right away don't really realize how wrong they are with this step. You are doing the right thing, not committing at the moment. Suffer the separation and then with a pure heart give yourself carte blanche to fall in love again as you should, not halfway. I have many acquaintances who do not and 2-3 days after the separation find new women, start to take down their stars in public just to make winners in their separation, to get better, and then roar on my shoulder that Someone they brutally miss, but they don't want to dump the current girl because she's good and tolerates them. You don't need such a crazy relationship. Either do your best to get it back or give yourself time to get hurt and heal from your pain. There is a lot of literature for self help on the topic on the net, search :)
Fight for her.
I experienced something similar. Haha it's like you wrote it for me :). For the same reason, I parted with him the distance. Before we broke up 1 month did not call me and I ended, and then he thought of me. It is not easy, but you will experience it. I won't lie sometimes I still think about it, but it's much rarer now. Distract yourself, find a hobby. Always try to do something so that you don't think about her.
there is no collection option, I tried, the connection is in the past forever
Well, it would be hard for you to have thought in time. You took it for granted and now it's your turn to suffer as she suffered. Everything returns to this world.
I understand you completely. What you should not do is not blame yourself. We are all wrong. Only one person is never to blame for the failure of a relationship / marriage. But sometimes coincidences lead to this, we make mistakes and we allow things to get there. Many people do not realize that a relationship is not just flowers and roses, there are crises and there is a certain "fatigue". And at such a moment, one decides to cross everything out. Wish you all the best. Will you overcome it - how long? -Everyone is different. But don't start a new relationship to forget the old one. Do it when you decide that the storm in you is over.
Don't start a relationship until you heal your wounds ... whether it's 5 months or a year, there's no time for these things. Everything takes time. Don't deceive yourself or any other girl, you will only lose. After loving her so much, are you sure you did your best to bring her back, is she fighting for her (not on Facebook) ?? Make one last attempt, find her! If it doesn't, at least you'll know you've tried everything. Give yourself time and when you are ready to open your heart again you will feel it. Do not rush!
Look now, dude, you go too far with your guilt. If after a while you hypothetically have 2 children, a mortgage and countless worries, you have to work hard to pay everything, you have to pay attention to the children and a bunch of other obligations, do you think that then you will have enough time to pay attention to her and don't you ignore her? These are the cheapest female tricks she used to try to wash her conscience and shift the blame to you, so stop torturing yourself. Your chick just got tired of your relationship and looked for a new thrill. Be more of a man, instead of roaring and fucking and moving on. Women don't like roars, they like tough men who will behave like men. Block it and you everywhere and forget it, I know it's hard, but everyone has been through it. I'm sure in time she'll be looking for you, but you have to be the biggest bastard if you tie up again. Come on up and good luck
If I were you, I would be alone for a day or two and ask myself the following questions - do I really love him, do I imagine life with him, do I feel like the person for me, do my parents approve of him, etc. If I answered YES to everything, I would make a few more attempts to meet him, I would travel the world, if necessary, to try and not regret one day and just be calm and know that everything that was up to me I did. You approached in the easy way, making almost no effort, and immediately jumped in search of a new woman. Is this your love? Me
You are guilty, but not in front of her, but in front of yourself. That you spoiled her in one way or another, and she made shapes for you and played you. It really is a sheep. Siktera, and live your life. Don't waste a moment, what are these 6 months to experience it !!! What is this nonsense, well, what is this miracle? With the new chance that has opened up to you, you have acted extremely carelessly. This may be your luck and you missed the right person for you. Don't think about that duck at all. If she left you so lightly, then she has too high an opinion of herself, and she will harass you for the rest of her life. Be glad she freed you from her pretentious person.
Write to and e-mail from another and e-mail, apologize for your behavior. I guess she told you many times, but you took it for granted. Ask for a meeting and conversation, say that you love her and that you miss her. to refuse, and if he accepts he really recovers.