Hi, I want to share my story. 5 years ago I met her at school, she had impressed me the first time I saw her. I talked to her, she also had great sympathy for me and we soon became friends. Our relationship lasted half a year, then she had to go abroad with her mother, we kept in touch from a distance. She lasted exactly about 7 months there and she had come to see me for 2 weeks, but later she stayed with her sister who lived in the neighboring town so that we could see each other more often. During this time we did not breathe without each other, we constantly heard each other on the phone, now I was walking, now she was coming. During this time we had made plans on how we would live together, what we would work on ... That's what happened, we lived together, but we were in my parents' house, they accepted it in the best way, they later loved her as their daughter.
We started working, earning a decent income for 20-year-olds, we thought of separating, of being more independent. However, the work and the fact that we didn't pay enough attention bothered us more, we fought from time to time for nonsense, and that passed. Then they operated on me, I had broken a cruciate ligament, the operation was successful, but the recovery was quite slow in my case. From then on I changed a lot, I was quite nervous, dissatisfied with everything, and she was by my side all the time and helped me a lot. The quarrels increased, I had stopped work, we didn't go out ... we did almost nothing but watch movies. This period passed, I was fine, my parents then started to interfere a lot in our relationship, it made her very nervous, we were both fed up and decided to talk seriously and things got better. The time had come for us to stick to each other again and do what we liked. Last year I ran a lot to doctors, my heel was wearing out super fast and a bunch of other problems with the same foot. I had fallen into a hole again and the old problems started, she went to work and I didn't. She told me how to tighten up, to become more serious, she was right about everything, I didn't listen to her.
I didn't do anything with my life, I spent all day on the PC, playing games and that was ... I thought I was running away from the reality that way. I paid her almost no attention, and at one point she decided she was fed up and wanted to break up. I didn't realize what was happening to me, we broke up and after about two weeks she went to work with her friends at sea, then I realized how many mistakes I made during that time and how many times she made compromises, I miss her very much .. I can't breathe without her, I hadn't heard her since then, today I called her and I didn't know what to say to her, confused I'm ... I just know that I made terrible mistakes and I'm ready to show her that I love her very much, I want to win her again. She was a little aggressive on the phone and a little worried. She said she didn't want me to bother her, she had blocked my phone, to look ahead and not look for her in any way. I am very confused, I have a mess in my head ... I don't know what to do, please give me advice that I made terrible mistakes and I'm ready to show her that I love her very much, I want to win her again. She was a little aggressive on the phone and a little worried. She said she didn't want me to bother her, she had blocked my phone, to look ahead and not look for her in any way. I am very confused, I have a mess in my head ...
I don't know what to do, please give me advice that I made terrible mistakes and I'm ready to show her that I love her very much, I want to win her again. She was a little aggressive on the phone and a little worried. She said she didn't want me to bother her, she had blocked my phone, to look ahead and not look for her in any way. I am very confused, I have a mess in my head ... I don't know what to do, please give me advice
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How do you wear your heel like that, dude?
Sorry, brother. For the next to know.
From the author: Only one heel wears out, I tried with orthopedic insoles, shoes, pads and again nothing ... To number 2: Yes, that's right, I blame myself .. I acted very stupidly, I guess sooner or later I will pass .. I hope.
Your relationship is exhausted and the sooner you accept it, the better it will be for both you and her. If she wanted you to bother her, to try to get her back, she wouldn't block you or treat you like that after you contacted her. It is obvious that the story is over for her. And I completely understand her. Life is not just a series of good moments, but it is important how we go through the bad ones. And you left her alone to try to push and keep you from sinking more than once. Sorry, but it's not masculine. I advise you to close this page and not to make the same mistakes in the future.
Very unpleasant indeed. Man, I want to help you and I'll probably be able to give you some adequate advice on the right attitude, but at the same time I don't think it's right to do so. You have confused the man, you have found the master. Your lady was next to you, she was silent and she tried to be your support. The girl worked, improved, took into account your downfalls and tried to push you up somehow. We have all fallen into holes. In these conditions we need support and help, but not bear services. Screaming at you for motivation is much more helpful than doing your job or leaving you to suffer. It is clear to me that at that time your scandals were something terrible for you, but sometimes our relatives shout at us because it is really important to hear them. I'm not judging you. I understand you perfectly. You had physical problems and this affected your psyche. It is clear to me that you went through a version of hell and were not able to appreciate your girlfriend. Again, we've all been in a hole. I do not believe that there is a person who has never hurt relatives and has not trampled on one place. Alas, life meets you in such a way that now I stand and wonder what to write. As I was in your role, so I was in the role of the girl. I understand her perfectly. I know the feeling that you are after the computer in importance and your man is running away from reality, instead of facing it side by side with you. Your friend has reached her limit and has given up. She felt for herself that she could no longer handle your relationship. She decided it was time to move on. She moved, she started working, she blocked you and now she is standing somewhere and living her life. I'll tell you honestly what my philosophy was at the time when my friend was running away from reality. I didn't mind the period with the games, I didn't mind sleeping in the evening alone. These things are temporary. What really knocked me down was different. I realized that I was with a man whose option was to run away, hide, and wait for things to pass. It became clear to me that many times in the future we would be at a dead end and then I would be alone while he was distracted. I've seen him distract himself before, avoid the problem, and don't think about it at all, but his longer escape period made me realize that he was just a fugitive and wouldn't change fundamentally. At such a moment you start thinking about whether you can and want to cope alone in difficult moments. Can you let your partner run away from reality? Can you find the optimal option yourself? Do you want? Is there a chance that it is a single case with him or is this his primary reaction? I understand your girlfriend very well, when the scales were tilted in front of me, it was not easy at all. I advise you to clear your mind of negative thoughts, first. Stand up, find yourself again and feel whole enough. Then you can call her for a conversation. You take a bottle of wine, sit on the couch and speak frankly and in a low tone about the things that have divided you. You will share who thought and felt what. Then you will grow emotionally, you will be a little changed and you will make sense of the whole situation. Until these things happen, any of your experiences will be a waste of time. Your girlfriend needs her time right now because she's in trouble too, to think about. You have to work again, but first you have to grow up. And whatever the sword shows. If you are destined, you will meet in the most unexpected place and you will fall in love again. She, fate, knows her job. Now concentrate on yourself. You have a job to do and a person to fix. You will feel it when the time comes to talk to her.
Author, you sound like a hypochondriac, and maybe your hypochondria has pushed the girl next to you.
From the author to number 5 You can't imagine how much I appreciate the fact that you took so much time to give me adequate advice .. So I think I will do, I will not stop upgrading as a person and as a person, I want to step on my feet, to work on myself and to clear my mind. To number 6 Yes it is possible, and I will try to change that. thank you very much