Hello! My story is very long but I will try to recreate it briefly. I was 15 years old when I met a wonderful boy. With which in the beginning we were just friends, then things got worse and I really liked it and I felt wanted. I was just in love. I hadn't finished yet and we decided to get engaged, after which we lived together, we understood each other a lot and we couldn't do without each other. 2005 he went on a mission to Bosnia then I suffered a lot. I was constantly on the phone and talking to him, we wrote letters and text messages and repeated to each other how we can't do without each other and how much we love each other. I had lost a lot of weight, I just missed it. He kept saying when I got home we would do a WEDDING and I was very happy. He came back and we got married, a few months later I got pregnant and the most beautiful child in the world was born. He is now 2 years old and very smart and handsome. It is a complete copy of his father. It seems to all of you that this is a wonderful tale. Right Yes, it was a fairy tale, but now it's a nightmare I can't get out of no matter how hard I try. I have no desire to live. Five months ago my husband crashed a motorcycle and for two months he was in a coma, I was constantly in the hospital, but they rarely let me see him, I say through tears that my husband is no longer with us, the loss was huge, I do not stop him I love and I will probably never be able to stop. Our beautiful child was left without his father, who loved him very much and did not let a hair fall from his head. Now I live in ADA, here on earth without any desire to live. But I can't leave this sunshine, I'll just be the biggest fool if I do. I get nervous crises, I get nervous at the slightest thing and I'm very confused, I don't know how to deal with my life. And I don't know what awaits me in the future. It's very hard for me, if anyone can help me please let me know. THANKS!
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Hello, I am a 21-year-old man. I sincerely sympathize with you, condolences for your husband! I know how hard it is to lose great love (even if I haven't lost it your way). You are right about one thing ... the stupidest thing to do is to leave the child alone ... I know it's hard, but tighten up, you have to be a male girl, not only your future depends on it, but also your son's future. I will not advise you to look for another man, although you are still young and this is not excluded, but here only sadbadata will say a word and I do not believe that at the moment you are right next to other men. Think of good things, watch as little as possible to be alone. Invite friends, relatives to guests, make sure you are busy with something. Do things that will make you happy or at least distract you. I wish you success!!! And the smart one :) only the little one is allowed to do mischief :)
Honey, life goes on! Live for your child, do what your husband would like! He would kill you and make you happy!
It's so ... hard to say the least, that whatever I say will be small. Head up and live for your child.
What happened to your husband is very bad. You want advice, but advice is easy to give, but hard to follow. The only thing I can tell you is the old maxim that time heals with a strong medicine for such cases. Give yourself to your child and fight for his happiness. And the rest will adjust slowly and takes a long time of patience and will to overcome it.
I shudder at your story! This is the true love you have! Take some medication for the nerves. Life goes on! everything is in your hands! He will rejoice and watch you from above! Don't worry! I know, it's easy in words! COURAGE! Calm down, panic will not benefit you or the child. Avoid crying in front of him, I know you do it often! Go to a psychologist! I don't like to give advice, but I want you to be strong and to know that he is by your side and loves you!
I don't think anyone here can comfort you or stop your tears ... You've been through the worst thing, your boss's life seems terrible, but look at your child - he needs you, your lover would prefer you to be strong for your son. At such moments I say to myself - how fucking life is - when everything is fine, the worst happens. I don't know if God tempers us, but it hurts like hell. As trivial as it may be ... time will heal the pain, though not completely .... I was very moved by your confession and I write a little incoherently.
I feel for you. I probably don't even have a glimpse of what's wrong with you. I'm 100% sure of one thing in this world - Time fixes a lot of things. I am sure that in time everything will be fine, no matter how unpleasant it may seem at the moment. I don't know if this is the case with all people, but for me the pain passes faster after I give myself to it and not when I fight it. Hopefully this unpleasant period of your life will pass quickly and the next one will be long, calm and full of love. Success!
There is no such thing as the Love of Your Life in the 21st century! You will realize it soon! :)
My eyes teared up! I will say that after every pain comes a little happiness. It's just how life is set up, I don't know who made it like that, but it's horrible and beautiful, then the two extremes change again and it's just a fucking cycle. Be strong for your son.
I'm so sorry darling, really! I know that whatever each of us writes will not erase the pain from your heart, it will not make it easier, but look at your child and he will give you the answer, the thought of your life. He fights, if not for himself, for the little cutie. I'm sure your husband doesn't want to give up either! He will never die, he will continue to live in your heart, on you and the little one.
I completely understand you, I also lost my husband, but in a car accident, he was 28 years old, we have a 5-year-old son. It is really hard and it hurts a lot, but my strength comes from the little SUN, which needs me more than ever. Be strong!
I lost my great love at the age of 13 I am very sorry but no boy will help me forget my first big love I will cherish it for a long time I LOVE IT
I'm sorry and I sympathize with you ... for the experience. Live for the child. Believe me. I will pray for you. God loves you.....
You can also talk to a psychologist, it will be very easy for you and it will work very well for you :))))
Honey, it will never work for you. I have been without the love of my life for four years now. I miss him so much that it hurts. Does not pass! And at number 8 I will say: There is a love of life. I have loved this man for 25 years, and I will love him as I breathe! And one more thing - I prefer it to hurt, but I don't want to forget it. I'm afraid I'll forget it!
15, this is not your love, but (emotional) dependence. Love is a universal and irrevocable category, like gravity, and is a basic property of Consciousness. It has nothing to do with a particular person or our illusions about her. You have no idea how much you harm your development with this film you got into, but in fact the choice and life are yours. If you want - keep pouring oil on the fire, and at the same time stay away from life. For some, the whirlpool of the fall is much more "comfortable" than the spiral of development - there you just have to relax, which is not difficult at all, given that before someone else has thought about all yours ... See what advises №14 such as you. Ray
Number 15: Ray, with all due respect to you, I will say: who are you to characterize me. You don't know me, but you went to put in the column "whirlpool of the fall." For your information, I have not lived with this person in the last 15 years. I have a life full of ups and downs. I also have a new family. I am a mentally stable and vital woman. However, this does not stop me from loving. It doesn't bother me to have this feeling and this pain somewhere deep, and sometimes to dig into it. Have you ever thought that this is what can keep me sober. It is this pain that makes me remember that I have hurt, that I have been hurt, that I am a HUMAN! And I'd rather have a fire burning in me than just have coals left! For this I will pour oil on the fire! Maybe now you will give me some other diagnosis ?!
darling, life is in front of you. The best thing on earth is in front of you. Think of your child lost, she is already a parent, customs, I can't imagine how you feel, but the head above has something to live for. .He may have left this world but he left you something so innocent don't leave him and you fight you are not alone
Hello, I am a 28-year-old man from a medium-sized Bulgarian city, I lost my love three times ... The first case was in high school, with my teenage love, with whom we were together for 3 years (IX, X & XI grade), but he committed suicide because of problems with them because of our relationship. At the beginning of the university I met another girl, and after a while I fell in love with him. Fortunately, it turned out that our feelings were mutual. We were together for almost 5 years, and the last 3 of them even lived together before he died in a car accident, when we were only 24 ... About a year later I met the last girl in my life. We made plans for family and children. About 2 years ago, however, she was diagnosed with the most terrible diagnosis - CANCER ... I was with her until the end. He died a few months ago. At least for now, frankly,