Hello, writes an 18-year-old girl with a serious friend of 2 and a half years. My friend is my first love, there is no such decent boy. Of course, we have our pulls, but we think about a common future, even children eventually. The problem is that I recently met again a boy from my past that I liked, but we were small and it all ended before it started. The boy is amazing in appearance, very nice, he is quite playful with me, he has no girlfriend. We wrote to each other and there were hints, but I always justified them with a sense of humor. We meet rarely, always by chance. But my problem is that I'm so attracted to him that I'm numb. My stomach shrinks just at the thought of him, when I see him I don't know where I am. But then I meet my boyfriend and I get really pissed. He knows we've seen each other, but nothing more. I don't want answers from people who can't get into my situation, because I've read several such stories and the hatred was unimaginable. I'm not looking for an answer, just advice from people with more life experience than mine. I'm still young, but the boy next to me is amazing. Our relationship is not boring, on the contrary. I feel ashamed of myself, because every time the second young man in question melts me with just a glance, let's put aside all the compliments, because he rarely makes them in principle. He has commented several times on how he wants to be able to flirt with me more than he can afford at the moment, and even when I write about it, my stomach fills with butterflies because of the attraction we have. It's like a magnet, I'm sure he feels it too. What to do because I read several such stories and the hatred was unimaginable. I'm not looking for an answer, just advice from people with more life experience than mine. I'm still young, but the boy next to me is amazing. Our relationship is not boring, on the contrary. I feel ashamed of myself, because every time the second young man in question melts me with just a glance, let's put aside all the compliments, because he rarely makes them in principle. He has commented several times on how he wants to be able to flirt with me more than he can afford at the moment, and even when I write about it, my stomach fills with butterflies because of the attraction we have. It's like a magnet, I'm sure he feels it too. What to do? because I read several such stories and the hatred was unimaginable. I'm not looking for an answer, just advice from people with more life experience than mine. I'm still young, but the boy next to me is amazing. Our relationship is not boring, on the contrary. I feel ashamed of myself, because every time the second young man in question melts me with just a glance, let's put aside all the compliments, because he rarely makes them in principle. He has commented several times on how he wants to be able to flirt with me more than he can afford at the moment, and even when I write about it, my stomach fills with butterflies because of the attraction we have. It's like a magnet, I'm sure he feels it too. What to do? I feel ashamed of myself, because every time the second young man in question melts me with just a glance, let's put aside all the compliments, because he rarely makes them in principle. He has commented several times on how he wants to be able to flirt with me more than he can afford at the moment, and even when I write about it, my stomach fills with butterflies because of the attraction we have. It's like a magnet, I'm sure he feels it too. What to do? I feel ashamed of myself, because every time the second young man in question melts me with just a glance, let's put aside all the compliments, because he rarely makes them in principle. He has commented several times on how he wants to be able to flirt with me more than he can afford at the moment, and even when I write about it, my stomach fills with butterflies because of the attraction we have. It's like a magnet, I'm sure he feels it too. What to do? I'm sure he's experiencing it too. What to do? I'm sure he's experiencing it too. What to do?
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Finally to meet a girl who is attracted to a boy only sexually. I know this feeling very well, just a person to attract you and excite you, but ... that's it. My advice - fuck him, tell him clearly and precisely that it's just sex. Try not to do it more than three times, because it will become a problem - I guarantee. You are still 18 years old, now is the time to do nonsense. Do it and don't tell absolutely anyone. Then you will have a good memory. Don't stop loving your friend. P. P If you decide to do it with him, try not to become attached, do not look for yourself after that, do not write, do not hear until your next meeting. Merry Christmas, girl! Male, 22 years old
Make your choice. Who to decide for you. But still, don't forget that it's one thing to have someone take you down, it's quite another to have a happy relationship with him. Being so cool, do you think that you are his only option and do you think that he really only has a dump with you.
Author, you are one of the people without principles and value system, despite your age. Why are you causing yourself pain that you would not endure? Why do you hurt the person next to you? Do you care so much what he does for you? About his feelings? I don't want to sound like an aggressor who puts people with your behavior / thinking under a common denominator, but it is people like you who cause malice in a person. Remember that what you sow you will reap. The day will come when they will do the same to you. Do you want this? Brick Squad 1017
And it sounds a lot like a strong sexual attraction to me. And don't confuse the chemistry between you with feelings - sometimes it's hard for us girls to tell one from the other. Before you do anything, answer the following questions: 1. Can you imagine a stable relationship and a wonderful relationship with the second boy that you already have with your boyfriend? 2. How would you feel if your boyfriend cheated on you? I don't want to be a bad prophet, but your story reminds me a lot of something we've all seen to madness - a boy and a girl are happy together, a third person appears and the girl of strong attraction and weak angels puts the two on the scales because of the bad habit of getting attached quickly to "just sex" and "this time for the last time" things turn into feelings, the girl dumps her boyfriend for the other boy and finally she is dumped because she is obviously mistaken, that the person on the other side has more serious feelings than just pure physical attraction. You decide.
It is normal what happens to you. Few relationships started at the age of 15 and a half survive. You are still growing, changing as a person. Now you know yourself and the world. The same thing happens with your boyfriend. Do you think he doesn't want to try another girl? I don't know what advice to give you. Decide for yourself. This is the eternal dilemma of whether to choose the safe or take the risk.
It is wrong to be with a person you supposedly love, but to feel desires for another. It's not fair to the boy next to you. You are not attracted to your boyfriend, what do you do together? I would ask this question to anyone in this situation. I understand your situation perfectly and I tell you calmly that everything between you is either exhausted or not quite real and will end soon.
You have a choice in front of you. I keep thinking that we all have one person from the past who makes us tremble like a piece of paper. This is a kind of strong attraction, the interesting thing is that it is often about a past unexperienced story. I had a similar situation, I just stopped all contact with the past, we talked, we understood each other and we decided not to interfere with the present and the future. If you love your friend and feel good about him, if you really think he's your man, just stop looking back. Say hello to the other boy, but don't talk to him. It is easier in words than in practice, but it is not impossible, it requires will and security. The question I asked myself was, what would my life be like if I broke up with my boyfriend, I by no means wanted to leave him so that the very idea of kissing another person, even though he was attracted to me because of our history, I was just taken aback by the idea of it really happening. I didn't want to hurt my friend in any way, the choice was easy, there was just a thrill I had to give up consciously. It's like giving up cigarettes, just making the decision and overcoming the weaknesses. If you still have a great desire to experience the thrill, at least let it not be in the form of infidelity. He who sows pain usually reaps it.
The decision is yours. Now, whatever you decide will always be a valuable experience and it is repairable in view of the fact that you are young and unencumbered by anything. This is the eternal problem of you young girls. The choice is always full of drama, nonsense, tears and always someone is badly hurt. The important thing is not to start building a life together and a family with someone, if you are not completely sure that he is your man and they will not fly butterflies from somewhere.
Dear, you are almost a child, only 18. If your current friend does not make you feel such feelings, why should you live a lifetime forcibly for the sake of one security! Talk to him, you decide what to tell him. But suppressing it for the rest of your life is not good because when you turn 30, someone else will appear who will shake you like that, and then what? Take the other boy and time will tell, and he is in front of you. Good luck.
Carpe Diem! When, if not now? When you get married and have children? If you don't, then you will regret it for the rest of your life!