Hello! I'm a little over 40, single, educated, with big kids, I look decent, I pretend to be a serious woman and a devoted mother, but lately I've been doing nonsense after nonsense. For a long time I had a friend, wonderful, faithful and dedicated, free / this is important to me, I am conservative and I do not intrude on foreign families /, with whom we quarreled and parted forever. After a while I met another man, an exceptional man, he fell in love with me without memory, and I thought it was the same with me until I met my previous friend and it became as if we had not separated. We met again, I said goodbye to my new friend and I thought I was done with him forever and I would soon forget him, and he would forget me. But it didn't happen to both of us, we think about each other, he doesn't give up on me, we write to each other, we hear each other and I'm infinitely unhappy, because they are both great, I can't cheat, but I think women could make a harem. I really don't know what I want and I supposedly chose the more suitable one, but I'm not sure that it is the more suitable one. One thing is for sure - I love them both and I want to explode. These great men do not deserve such treatment. Sometimes I think of abandoning them both, I hope my soul calms down. I laughed. But this situation is very ridiculous! And let it happen to me in my old age - horror! Give advice on how to save yourself! But this situation is very ridiculous! And let it happen to me in my old age - horror! Give advice on how to save yourself! But this situation is very ridiculous! And let it happen to me in my old age - horror! Give advice on how to save yourself!
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In my opinion, it is most reasonable to make a "private" harem - what is the problem ?! If the two gentlemen are balanced people, I think they will become friends, drink beer, watch matches, and fuck you in the evening! You take a bigger bedroom and live happily! I'm not kidding, I'm taking it very seriously! As long as they work together - everything will be fine! Well, so many people practice SWING, do threes and fours, and then break up! They will help you at home. In my opinion, this is the decision that will make you the happiest!
You talk nonsense number 1 and this is a pure mockery of what you write ... Really bad situation, it happened to me, but over time it came to a choice - either one or the other, or I lose them both. Except you just let time decide ... although once your feelings have returned to the first man's godfather, I guess he's your man ... you have to decide for yourself who to stay with, because you know the saying. " from the two chairs, and finally on the ground ... ". If they find out, I don't know ... so watch, judge ....
I have fallen into a similar situation, now I have two friends and somehow I hide, I live with my parents and I have two boyfriends for a year ..... do it like you
I think that if you choose to have two boyfriends at once, your life will turn into a never-ending game of cat and mouse! Don't do that be honest. I'm sure the choice is one, you just have to find it ... Think if you do that with them in what positions they can put you, such as both of them to propose marriage to you at the same time ... how will you feel then. .. You will be faced with a choice again, but this time you can't marry both of them, can you ?! However, in our republic there is a law for this ... Think seriously about who would give you more in life and by "life" I do not mean only love and care, dedication ...;)
I can't be with both at the same time, it's not for me, it's mean. Although one / where I abandoned him / agrees to such an option as the final one, however, the other / with whom I am / if he finds out what nonsense I have in my head will immediately pull the crap out of me, and if he catches me in infidelity - he will shoot me / in the literal meaning /. He seems to be more serious than the two. And he is terribly caring and dedicated, but his character is horrible. Sometimes I find it hard to endure. He doesn't let me get on his head, and I'm dying for it. And he wants to marry me. Yes, he allowed dumping, and I had climbed on his head and harassed him sometimes. And it's cooler in appearance and in general, but I think that's why I left it, I don't know, and when I asked him for help - nothing, no help, happened. And life is cruel and it is good to have a real companion with you, not someone for decoration. Thank you for your patience to read my nonsense, I'm just thinking because I have no one to share it with and it eats me inside. Give more tips and comments, please !!
Hello! I'm number one, in the literal and literal sense of the word, but, that's another topic! I did not mock or joke at all when I made this proposal, moreover, that this is exactly how you will not be mean, but you will be clear and precise, but, obviously, it is unlikely to happen, given the second "male", who is obviously also quite jealous! I don't seem to know what else to say, given that you women are rather strange creatures and, as a rule, illogical, but ... that's how it was, and I think it will stay that way! You know that you are on the principle: "If it is with a hat - why is it with a hat, and if it is without a hat - why is it without a hat"! When a man holds you "short", you get angry, and when he treats you humanely - you grumble that he was not "male"! Or keep them both, being careful not to confuse images and names when knocking, that one is unlikely, but the other will slap you, so the world will bend, or choose one of them and part with the other, but, to know from me that you will certainly make the wrong choice and you will be wrong !! It will be justified by one of Murphy's Laws: "When you drop a slice of bread smeared with butter, it will necessarily fall with the butter down, and if it accidentally falls with the butter up - then it is smeared back"! I think so. Write what happened that makes it interesting!
I'm sure of the wrong choice, and I've read Murphy's laws, they really are laws, and I really don't know what I want. However, the more appropriate one, figuratively speaking, has great suspicions and only questions me. And he's a big jealous man, he won't slap me, he can shoot me with his personal weapon in a fit of rage like nothing, then he can go to jail for a whore. My infidelity is in my thoughts, for now. However, it is infidelity. The good thing is that such infidelity does not catch sexually transmitted diseases. And we will meet the more inappropriate one soon and I don't know what will happen. Indeed, to make a fool of a person does not matter age and education. Because all three of us are middle-aged, with 2 higher educations and a good upbringing.
Your language for education. Grab a gigolo without education so that it is always at hand. I have a wife and two lovers and all three have a cycle at the same time. Abe, live your life at your age. If you want to fall in love and you will suffer. Everyone suffers.
Come on darling !! :) As long as and for how long :) Good luck and don't suffer too much for either one :)
Number 9, thanks for the advice, I really liked it. We are terribly at odds with the "right one". For stupid reasons. We don't talk and I sleep in my own home. And I shared the "inappropriate" one, at least you can talk to him normally. He really wants to see me, but I can't decide. I'm afraid I'll go back to him. I have never met such a kind and gentle, handsome and neat man.
Dear people, I will be with the "Inappropriate", I love him more, only he is in my mind. We broke up with the "right one" and I don't feel sorry for him. Apparently after the daily quarrels I fell out of love with him somehow.
I just freaked out, the wrong one didn't make me a New Year's present and forgot to wish me a happy birthday. The fit one has not forgotten these things. Nothing that we fight over nonsense. And he caught me in this spiritual infidelity, and forgave me. I will be with him, thanks for the advice. Apparently I made the right choice.
Pff ... And you, like most of you, don't know what you want, so that they are not your toys, so you can play with them as you choose! Or they are some clothes - today I am with this, tomorrow I am with the other. And in a relationship, if there are no disputes / quarrels from time to time, it means something is lame and at least one of them suffers, sooner or later the glass overflows. It is normal to have disputes and it is good when an agreement is finally reached.