I Met The Dream Man! And What Are We Doing??

   If he's so perfect, why is he alone at 40? These ideals marry at 19-25.

   Well, at first I thought you were boyfriends when I got carried away. Be careful, because as the man is a dream for you, so it is for dozens of others. If it has so many qualities, then it is in great demand. Strange why he hasn't married before. At best, he is very pretentious and has not stopped at any of them yet. But you don't know it, there may be flaws. I was in a similar situation soon. I met a perfect one, only he is not rich, but money is not my criteria. Do as I do. I took the initiative and talked to him, went by water, later I took fb. But then I was very careful not to bother him. If you go after him, it won't happen. At first he should not be aware that you are crazy about him, because he will run away. At the same time, if you wait for him to talk to you, he may do nothing. So take the initiative, but don't act like an old girl of 35, who is looking for a married man and wants children as soon as possible. If things work out for you, it can really happen and in a year you will be happily pregnant and married, but don't show it now!

   It's very nice to be true. Such an attractive man and bachelor to 40?

   By flirting and creating sexual tension?

   There is no way to make a man fall in love with you. Either he falls in love or he doesn't and it doesn't matter how hard you try or anything like that. At most you can seduce him to hit you with 2 sticks and that's it. And if he's 40 at a bachelor's, he's hardly that perfect. In fact, no one is, you just idealize it. You do not want him, but his image in your ideas and fantasies. Fantasy and reality are 2 different things. If you get to know him, he will hardly be so perfect.

   A late gold digger ... It won't happen, men around 40. that we have money and brains - We don't like older gold diggers, I'm sorry.

   This Man described it very well and I believe that there are such Men, but I have a question for you: do you have enough Intelligence to impress him with something at least. Do you have the abilities, qualities and high intellect to have a chance to get closer to him. You seem to overestimate yourself a lot. What qualities will make him fall in love with you? In addition to a woman's appearance, men are also looking for inner moral and intellectual qualities. Do you have any? He has met many like you. How do you think you are superior to the other women he has met? On the other hand, you are already 35 years old and you seem to be too late to make a man like the one you described fall in love with a second category woman. I also assume that you are divorced at least once, I guess you don't have children, and if you do, he wouldn't want to take care of other people's children. You probably can't or don't want to give birth anymore, well, then what are you going to capture such a Man with to make him fall in love with you. Whatever you think of a serious relationship with such a Man, you have no qualities.

   Think about why this 40-year-old man is alone and when was his last relationship. So many nice things, but alone. There are reasons and you will certainly not like them if you are interested.

   The words "rich" are not emphasized in fairy tales :) I hope he will be reasonable and will see things quickly.

   Apparently you are not the woman for him - a dream, otherwise you have drunk coffee by now. Why are you self-winding? !! And why should you fall in love with him when he may not even remember seeing you at all? !!

   What have the Bulgarians become ... let's see a "rich, handsome man" and let's immediately wonder how to take him ... It's just a rural story

   If you've seen him twice on business, how did you know he was the "dream man"? He may have accomplished a lot in his work and still be a complete jerk in his personal life. One does not always necessarily indicate the other. Everybody has something lame somewhere - you can never be sure what, where and why until you get to know them ... I don't think you get excited so fast, you don't know what he really is, and even if you're not his type there's nothing to make. Good luck

   I guarantee you that he is very perverted. There is no way it is normal. You will see and later remember my words. If he is so perfect, why is he alone? There is everything like that. But one doesn't have ... a normal brain. You'll hold your head but that will be later. First you have to get entangled in the net and then. I guarantee you will see

   Give this dream man's phone! If you miss the train, should we at least smear it? And now seriously - if he hasn't settled down yet by these years, he will hardly turn his life around because of you ... And in general - he is all that he is, maybe precisely because he has not dealt with women, family, children , and he looked after his work and only his work ... In his "old" years he will hardly deviate from the strictly followed path and lead him to success ...

   Of course he will be single ... why marry only one woman when he is liked and can be with many? It is those who marry who do it for fear of losing the woman next to them, because they do not know if they will be able to catch another.

   You attacked the author very badly. Everyone has a different life and just because they are 40 and have no family doesn't mean anything. Things are not as simple as some people think. I, for example, am 35 and I also don't have a family and I haven't married, but not because I didn't want to or don't want to, but simply because that's how my life went. I come from a poor family and when I was a student and a teenager I had almost no money and therefore I was not interesting to girls. Then it took me a few years to develop professionally and start making good money. I am thankful to God for giving me wonderful opportunities for work and improvement. Money has long been a problem for me, but I have almost no contact with single women. In addition, it is important for me that a woman has purely human qualities and intellect. Holder type I can find it right away, but I don't want to. I also don't think that the author is a "second hand" woman, because she is 35. It would be much harder to impress a woman of 20, for example.

   A woman of 35 should already know how to attract the gaze of the man she liked, there is a separate issue that after the gaze you should attract his mind. At your age, you hardly have much time for flirtations and fights, and you hardly have much to lose in terms of love, at most you are his next and he is your next. In this line of thought, put your head in the bag and right in your eyes - find an occasion for another expert consultation, invite him to a "working" lunch, apply one of the worn-out female tricks with nausea or forgetting some trinket that he should give you return, or you can just pretend that your earrings are lost and ask him to check if it has fallen in the office (the earrings must be gold and be a precious memory from your grandmother). I read the comments before me (15 in number) - I agree with each of them, you just have to put the puzzle together, but in short, it is unlikely a woman of 35 (do not specify whether you are a girl, married, divorced, whatever yes) to "grab" a bachelor who has already learned the price. Even if you manage to impress him with something, get ready for overnight sex or a proposal for an "open" relationship.

   I would advise you, as number 2. And please do not pay attention to the complex posts here, about how you are a second category woman when you are 35, and how since he is not married at 40, it is not necessarily for a family or a serious connection. This is the typical oriental thinking characteristic of the East, which remains to this day in the petrified heads of some. Believe me and you are very likely to succeed.

   Hell, he may not really be the "dream man", but why, when he's 40, did most of you here think he had something? And why should he be married? !? Does the Bible say so? It is a terrible thing to always think that something is always fucked up somewhere or will be fucked up! And the fact that at the age of 35 the author was an old girl, a late second category woman, a gold digger ... Do you know her, have you seen her? And at 80, people are attracted to each other. Well, gati! Otherwise, if he is smart, then he will easily judge you as a person. The other is whether he likes you as an appearance. Flirt a little and you'll understand. The main thing is to spend more time together. You will gradually feel whether there is an attraction to you or not.

   Haha to № 1: The ideal married 19-25. What village are you from and what century do you live in? Bulgaria is the second country in Europe in the number of illegitimate children after France. Nowadays, I emphasize that it is not at all strange for a 40-year-old man to be single and unmarried. These ideals you are talking about obviously catch the first one you meet.

   Just because he's single and has no children doesn't mean he doesn't have a relationship. He may have a married mistress, or he may simply not want to advertise his relationship.

   I am female 30 and I support the opinions of number 5 and number 15. Let the author, also other women and men! with the aim of trapping someone in their nets to reread them 4 times, at least. Some people are just not relationship-oriented and by no means family-oriented, which I know is not a little oppressive to others and in general a lot of others in general, but for their good it will be to learn to accept that not everyone strives for commitment, let alone adoption.

   From a visit to his office for an expert consultation, you immediately realized that he was single and without children. How dare you ask him about his personal life is insolence on your part. I'm sure he didn't tell you his personal life voluntarily, or maybe he didn't tell you anything at all, and you just fantasized. And why don't you tell us if you're an old girl or if you're divorced and have children. If you have children, why should a person tow with your luggage. Say something about yourself to see if you have the qualities to attract him. When you write a story, it is human to answer our questions. Those of the commentators who say after he is so perfect why he is still alone. How do you know he's alone? He may have a girlfriend, but why should he tell everyone. But even if he's alone, why does he need some old complex girl to poison his life.

   And if, if he wasn't rich, you would like him and ask for so much - hardly. That you are looking for wisdom from many people how to fall in love with yourself faster. All you have to do is run to fortune tellers to do him love magic - I wouldn't be surprised by this mentality.

   If everything is as you describe it, then he definitely has other candidates. I do not underestimate you with this, but I note it to you. He is obviously in your contingent (although at this stage you practically do not know him), the question now is whether you are in his contingent, which is in principle quite possible. What to do? Think of an occasion to look for him - to thank him for the consultation and / or ask him something else in this regard, offering him to go to a restaurant on the case and discuss the case there, so that you can at the same time "repay" for his useful professional involvement. It will be clear to everyone what is happening, but still play it casually and even if you are looking for an occasion, think things through so that everything you say and / or ask is sincere. This is mandatory! Mandatory! And then it will show. Act! And good luck! But remember that no matter what happens, life goes on. ;) Be happy! F31

   Hmmm .... And I'm more or less in the same situation, I met a similar man. Well, look what, as you describe it and based on my personal observations, such a man can be a bachelor for two reasons: 1) He is too demanding and is looking for the "perfect" woman. 2) A womanizer who takes advantage of the fact that he has a lot of money and is attractive to be able to have all (or almost all) women he likes. He doesn't want to commit. In my opinion, you hastily rate him as a "perfect man". You barely know him. There are no perfect people. He may be handsome, rich, intelligent, likeable, but he must have flaws like everyone else. He who knows what mania or vices he has, is a man, not a god. I advise you not to hurry, but to give yourself time to get to know him as a person. Do you have common interests, what are his views and values ​​in life, etc. And then make an account of whether it suits you as a partner or not. In any case, be discreet. Don't be in a hurry to obsess over him. Behave like a friend, but don't openly flirt or push him. He certainly does not need a woman to offer himself sexually. Whichever bar he goes to, 20 chicks are sure to stick to him. Well, be different. Men with money are tired of women who are interested in their money and when they meet a new one, they do not know if she is interested because of themselves or because of their wealth. Ultimately, they either stay alone or marry someone as rich as them. But no one will be pleased to appreciate him only because of the material goods he has at his disposal. Good luck. Behave like a friend, but don't openly flirt or push him. He certainly does not need a woman to offer himself sexually. Whichever bar he goes to, 20 chicks are sure to stick to him. Well, be different. Men with money are tired of women who are interested in their money and when they meet a new one, they do not know if she is interested because of themselves or because of their wealth. Ultimately, they either stay alone or marry someone as rich as them. But no one will be pleased to appreciate him only because of the material goods he has at his disposal. Good luck. Behave like a friend, but don't openly flirt or push him. He certainly does not need a woman to offer himself sexually. Whichever bar he goes to, 20 chicks are sure to stick to him. Well, be different. Men with money are tired of women who are interested in their money and when they meet a new one, they do not know if she is interested because of themselves or because of their wealth. Ultimately, they either stay alone or marry someone as rich as them. But no one will be pleased to appreciate him only because of the material goods he has at his disposal. Good luck. Men with money are tired of women who are interested in their money and when they meet a new one, they do not know if she is interested because of themselves or because of their wealth. Ultimately, they either stay alone or marry someone as rich as them. But no one will be pleased to appreciate him only because of the material goods he has at his disposal. Good luck. Men with money are tired of women who are interested in their money and when they meet a new one, they do not know whether she is interested because of themselves or because of their wealth. Ultimately, they either stay alone or marry someone as rich as them. But no one will be pleased to appreciate him only because of the material goods he has at his disposal. Good luck.

   You ate it with the rags, the author, that she was old - an elderly grandmother / girl / at 35 /?! /, That he was almost gay and crazy, since he was unmarried at 40 ... Aloooooooo, is there a pilot on the plane? They are two free people who for one reason or another are alone / don't you know people alone ?!), he is 40, she is 35, not the other way around, right. And if he was tied up, would it be more normal! She is also interested in him because he is suitable - single, and you - he was crazy. Author, invite him to a working lunch, be beautiful, charming ... further - he will either initiate more meetings or has no interest. Success!

   There is no such thing as a perfect man. I'm 33, I have a longtime girlfriend, and I've been told that I'm terribly stable, that she's hit the jackpot and things like that. The truth is, I better not be in your house. :) My thought is that you better control your sighs at such dream men, because they just aren't perfect. :)

   I am the author. Thanks to everyone for the helpful comments! To those who allowed themselves to spit on me without knowing me, I will only say: hey, men, you have practically admitted to everyone here that at 40 you like some girls 20 years younger (in principle, there is no bad), possibly disoriented in life, for which, on top of that, you would not marry, because, as you claim, why should you marry?!?! This is so telling that it does not deserve comment at all. And it's good that there are exceptions with other (normal!) Thinking. And now for me: no, I'm not married / divorced, I don't have children. I am not an old girl either, because so far I have twice come across men who betray my trust and whom I could not rely on - not financially, but as moral and life support. Men I abandoned, because I've always been aware of what I wanted out of life, and they turned out to be just immature boys. Number 26 and everyone else above who took the time to give me meaningful and sincere advice - thank you again, in fact, that's exactly what I was thinking of doing, to maintain some "official" communication with him, and let's see where they will kill things :)

   I'm sorry, but people who have money know that money is not the most important thing in the world and they are looking for the spiritual, not a revalued commodity like you. People who don't have money still don't know it and are looking for it. Such is the cycle of life - there is no complete happiness, because, ironically - love runs away from money.

   God, how many stupid and meaningless comments I read. Some people have not learned that since there is nothing meaningful to say, it is better to remain silent. Or when they need to vent their anger and complexes, it is better to work on themselves and their dissatisfaction than to spit on anyone and everything. The author was an old, overpriced commodity, the man was out of order because he was alone at 40. How did you know if you were a medium or something? The decent ones got married at 19-20. God, God. To the author. First, do not listen to any complexes, but do what you think is right. If you have meetings with this man, show him interest, but don't intrude. However, it is not really known if he is alone, if he wants to be alone. If he has an interest, let him take the initiative, if not, do not force yourself unnecessarily. My remark to you is, that you judge a little superficially whether it is perfect without knowing it. Because appearance, financial status, etc. are external signs. However, if you get to know him, you don't know if you will like them at all as views and understandings about life. You may both be ok, but you just don't like it. That's why it's good to get to know each other first, if you start going out and then draw conclusions about it. Otherwise, to generally claim that someone was almost a psychiatrist because he was alone at 40 is ridiculous. For example, I know 2-3 of these years who are ok, decent and respectable people, but for example one of his work involves a lot of travel and there is no way to keep in touch at this stage. And I can say that he is much more aware than a 25-year-old who goes to bars every other day and wonders which one to throw. To others who say that the decent ones got married early. I know more than one or two people who got married early because they were strangled like stranglers for the only woman who paid attention to them, not because they were in high demand. That is, out of despair. One I don't wish you had anything to do with such a "decent" and married young man. I just really don't wish it on you. The bottom line is that people are very narrow-minded, they judge in a very limited and superficial way, and they can't imagine that some people live very differently from them and therefore can't understand them. So author, do not listen to those who want to complex you, they do it because they themselves are a walking complex, be smart and do what you think is right, but do not fall into unnecessary delusions without knowing who this man is. Because there are no perfect ones in principle, everyone has some things that are not ok with him or he himself does not feel ok with them. The important thing is to find a person with whom you will have a real understanding, even if he is not so perfect by some generally accepted standards.

   If it is a "revalued commodity" at 35, what is it at 40?

   Understand that it is a pity, disgusting and repulsive for a woman to push herself into a man's "paws". If he shows interest, he will show it to you, you don't need to lie! - It is repulsive, even more so for a man who has a CHOICE! As such a man, I tell you.

   Understand that it is a pity, disgusting and repulsive for a woman to push herself into a man's "paws". If he shows interest, he will show it to you, you don't need to lie! - It is repulsive, even more so for a man who has a CHOICE! As such a man, I tell you.

   33, you're lying insolently because he's rich, I see that. What if he's gay or asexual? Or do you just not like it? Or, like the Bulgarians abroad, instead of waiting for him to take you down, will you give him a pan because he is rich? All Bulgarian women married to foreigners catch them to get them out of the swamp.

   With your pretensions and self-overestimation you will remain unmarried, old, a girl without children. How can you say that you are not an old girl of 35 and what you are then. Just because you abandoned two men (and if there were only two) does that take you out of the category of old maids. If this man wanted two children and you were that old, would you try to have them! You wanted moral and life support, but you mention his wealth. Come on, stop with your female pretense. You do not say what qualities you have. What he will appreciate in you. What do you offer him?

   Number 42, you use the term "old maid" without knowing what it means, obviously. Also, you obviously don't understand what I wrote at all, you don't understand the meaning of the problem at all. I could have three children with the right man. And when you insist so much, I will tell you: I have two degrees - real, not bought, I know 4 languages, I get a salary, which you probably can't even imagine as a number, I move abroad twice and I come back again - from stupid patriotism. Is that enough for you or should I continue? I forgot to add that I am beautiful enough - not in my opinion, but in the opinion of a significant number of men. Do I need someone to support me, do you think? The level of my problem is quite different from the level at which you think.

   Until # 44, you were very affected by # 42 ...;) What is the definition of an old girl, please explain as a graduate? Does having 4 graduates make you smart and intelligent ?! We all have a standard for beauty, the fact that some have told you that you are beautiful, do not think that others will think like them, and by the way there are no ugly women. The fact that almost everyone is united in their comments, and you continue to adore him, to have hope and so on, means that you are naive and stupid. Men even at the age of 50 can have children, but women have a limit, I don't think you will have 3 children, considering that you haven't found the person for you yet, you don't know when you will find him. A person who is not interested in the opinion of a stranger will by no means "self-talk" and explain as much as you. :) Good night!

   Author, don't bother to answer people who are below your level. They cannot understand what you mean due to the fact that their thinking is elementary. As soon as I read your story, I realized that you were looking for your equivalent, and I didn't even think for a second that you just wanted to get a full pocket. However, this cannot be understood by a person who has probably not achieved anything in his life, or at most has achieved a family in which things are not going well, and for this reason he pours out his malice online. Such a person will never understand that you are looking for a person next to you with certain qualities, and that it is better for you to be alone than to be badly accompanied. Not everything is a schedule - a 20-year-old mother, a 40-year-old grandmother and all cases that are an exception to these norms are something abnormal.

   In general, I am not interested in this author, but when I read something like - 'a man can be 50' .. he can succeed at 60 and 70, 80 and, what? His child will be ridiculed by other children for years: 'Gosho, was that your grandfather, oleha haha'. To all the children, their young fathers will kick a ball with them, ride a bike with them and do other sports in general. While this old man will only suffocate after max, but at the age of 20 he will start to get sick, because those who even have children at the age of 50 usually have not led a healthy life at all. The child will have to go through a funeral much earlier than the table of their peers, whose fathers will be fresh for many years and will even enjoy their grandchildren. That's why it's good for uncles to think twice and not be so selfish. Having not made a child when they were fresh, now it is right for them to abstain - to swallow their ego and not to create people who will experience pain in their souls all their lives because of their senile selfishness. It is even best to have a vasectomy, even if they do not have an intention for children, just in case ...

   47, you better not say it. And I wonder about people who have children at the age of 50. Yes, everyone is responsible for themselves, but here the victim becomes a third person who is not to blame, namely the child. Of course, there is never a guarantee that you will not die at 40, but this is a clear disrespect for the personality of the future child. It is not very difficult to remember that when you have a child aged 50-60, it is very likely that you will leave him an orphan just when he will need you the most and cripple his future. Or worse, to make him a caregiver in his teens. Apparently some people think they will be in good health by 90.

   32, what do you mean by "I'd better not be in your house"? Do you touch your character so much (I ask out of curiosity)? To the author: I follow the topic from the very beginning and join a little later. I will say something that will probably affect you, and that is that by adding the word "rich" to the term "perfect man", you create the impression that you want this man not so much because of his qualities, but because of his money. I don't define you as a gold digger, nor do I want to be picky, I'm just saying what it looks like from the side. For this man to be alone at this age, there really is a reason, and it doesn't have to be unpleasant. He may just be a "lone wolf" and be well on his own, he may be dedicated to his career and not want a family, he may have experienced unrequited love or severe betrayal, and he may have decided that he does not believe in love or does not want a woman next to him, because he knows what women will attract his financial situation, namely gold diggers. It could be MGTOW. There is no way to force him to fall in love with you, but you can show him that you like him in an unobtrusive way and from there - whatever happens. Black Sabbath

   Author, do not pay attention to malicious and narrow-minded comments. I am, so to speak, in the position of the man you are describing, so I will try to give you advice. Just say a kind word to him, show concern, kind of show him that you exist without being intrusive, completely at ease. It has often happened to me not to pay attention to a woman at all until literally one of her words or gestures "wakes me up".

   And what's wrong with a quality man being 40 and alone? What's suspicious? He may be immersed in a career, a job, no time to go out. He may not be attracted to bars, drunken circles, etc. In fact, he may not have free time to wander and want to make money. In fact ... in Western Europe and the United States, men are just like that. Only here is the model of a pishman Casanova with a lot of free time, great self-confidence ... and a low patch in his pocket. It's just that this man is a western type and that's why it seems very strange to you, you are used to cafes, lounging, bars ... well, from time to time you can work if necessary. Laugh

   The ideal ones get married at 19-25? Abe, galfon, you're up to 25 in universities and stuff. Where money for a wedding, where for housing?

   People, stop! In several posts I read the definition of "revalued product"! Are you okay !? A 35-year-old woman is still young and good-looking, and even if she isn't, what makes her overrated? Each person is valuable in itself, not overestimated !!!