I Met The Love Of My Life, The Problem Is That He Is Married

   Yes, it is easiest to have a child, but how can a father feel, a real family, it will be very difficult for him to listen to other children talk about their fathers, and he will have nothing to say! It's not a joke a child's work! In my opinion, wait, maybe someone else will appear to give meaning to your life in a better environment.

   And you will leave your child without a father? What are you so reckless? Some pickles who play the second violin and not only are on call, but also break up families ...

   for 2.: And don't you think that if this man seeks "consolation" in another woman's arms, this family is ALREADY broken? It is very easy to blame others and blame them for something they are not the only ones to blame. And now on to the topic. And my husband was married. He divorced and we have been together for 8 years. In moments of recklessness and a lot of pain, I also thought like the author of the story. Namely, that I want a child, that I want to "perpetuate" my "greatest and only love". But at the same time I could not afford to act so selfishly and doom a child to grow up alone, without a father and to be pointed ... Like I could not hurt the man I loved and love so much. I decided then that love, no matter how great, has no power if it is not mutual. And I left things alone. The result ??? Well, we have been married for 3 years and we are expecting our first child. My husband has a son from his first marriage, and the fact that he is divorced from his mother does not make him a worse father than before, but more than any other father. Dear girl, there are, of course, men who want "both the wolf full and the lamb whole." The only thing you can do is find out if your lover is in this category of men. Does he love you as much as you love him. If so, you will be together and you will be able to have as many children as you want. But if he is not, do not act selfishly, do not do something that one day you will have to explain. It is the child you want so much. He will not like the explanation you give here. And you don't have that right! Think hard, I advise you. I wish you all the best for you! My husband has a son from his first marriage, and the fact that he is divorced from his mother does not make him a worse father than before, but more than any other father. Dear girl, there are, of course, men who want "both the wolf full and the lamb whole." The only thing you can do is find out if your lover is in this category of men. Does he love you as much as you love him. If so, you will be together and you will be able to have as many children as you want. But if not, don't be selfish, don't do something you will one day have to explain. It is the child you want so much. He will not like the explanation you give here. And you don't have that right! Think hard, I advise you. I wish you all the best for you! My husband has a son from his first marriage, and the fact that he is divorced from his mother does not make him a worse father than before, but more than any other father. Dear girl, there are, of course, men who want "both the wolf full and the lamb whole." The only thing you can do is find out if your lover is in this category of men. Does he love you as much as you love him. If so, you will be together and you will be able to have as many children as you want. But if he is not, do not act selfishly, do not do something that one day you will have to explain. It is the child you want so much. He will not like the explanation you give here. And you don't have that right! Think hard, I advise you. I wish you all the best for you! It is the child you want so much. He will not like the explanation you give here. And you don't have that right! Think hard, I advise you. I wish you all the best for you! It is the child you want so much. He will not like the explanation you give here. And you don't have that right! Think hard, I advise you. I wish you all the best for you!

   I am also in such a situation, but I realized something very important and that is ... family men just play with us, do not respect us as we deserve, do not love us as we do, do not appreciate us enough. Even if I love him to the point of pain, I realized that I am and will always be a toy in his hands, an escape from the hard everyday life, a small adventure, and nothing serious ... I give him what his wife can't or doesn't know how. .. and that's not enough for me ... but I don't know how to stop this vicious circle - if anyone knows how to write.

   Dear girls, do you think that you love the true nature of these men, they treat you in one way for 2-3 hours and in fact you do not even know what geeks can be. You dear girls are the adventure, because there is nothing better than a foreign woman, think about what exactly you love in them and whether if you live together you will really think that they are the love of your life!

   Honey, married men always know what to say to a single woman, they know how to turn the game around. The fact that you are not constantly together, but for a while - always in a hurry or looking around for someone not to see you, makes the adventure even sweeter. But there are very few men, not to mention almost none, who will leave their wives for this adventure. You better give him up, think of his child, and don't be so selfish. Everything I said is from personal experience. Good luck.

   Um, it's stupid to think you've met your biggest and "only" love in this man's face. And having a child from him is even more stupid. You will gain a lot if you give up these stupid ideas.

   to 3: I can only tell you that not always when he breaks is because something is wrong in his family, but just for sports or because of such muffins that are offered even though they know that the person is bound. It is a big mistake to think that a man is cheating because something is wrong at home.

   to 8: Since you don't know the whole story, don't be in a hurry to comment like "... muffins that are offered .." The story is quite different, but you immediately start with the insults ... because that's how it seems easier than putting yourself on the other side. by the Author

   to 8: I have experienced a similar situation and I guarantee you that nothing was wrong with my husband's ex-family. This does not mean that there are no men who cheat on sports. But you can't know what's wrong with everyone. So don't insult and jump to conclusions! comment 3. And as for the author - do not pay attention to comments that not only do not help you, but they make you feel even more confused. I wish you success once again!

   How about sports? When he comes home and looks you in the eye and lies to you that he was with friends ?! Is this a sport? I think it's a little nasty. To the author: If he really loves you, he will divorce and you will look after your children together. Otherwise you will not be able to explain to your child one day why he grew up without a father. Be very careful if this man is for you. It is one thing to see each other for two hours every day, and quite another to live together. Is he ready to leave his family for you? You better ask him and if he can't answer you, draw your own conclusions. P.S. Burn your mind. Good luck from me !!!!

   I have a married friend who rolls muffins so skillfully that I feel sorry for them. It makes them crazy. Each one is crazy about him. In love, she will divorce ..... And he ... He is like any man with opportunities. Does he know what will make him divorce? Nothing. And the other thing ... the biggest nonsense I've read is about the child. Just the fact that you thought about it makes me think you're not 20. You can't, you shouldn't ... subject a child to this. If not yours, then his. Think with your heads, not with ....

   Hi. from me too! I am painfully familiar with the situation you are in. I also have a relationship with a married man, and like you, I can't let anyone else in, because I know for sure that this is him - the man I would live with. The problem is that we have a difference of 15 years. and that stops me a little? But my advice is: fight for your love, no matter what it costs you, the important thing is to be happy, because it's better for people in the mouth than in the feet! Good luck!!!

   Forbidden love is stronger than anything and sweeter than anything, this is the most beautiful love.

   Dear girl, fight with all your might for your happiness! If you love this man and do everything possible to be yours, you will be neither the first nor the last woman to kidnap a "foreign" man ... and who knows what you are stealing from, who is not on your little finger. for nothing! Remember that the end justifies the means ... always! You should not have any scruples, but act boldly forward! And for the child do not hurry, you must first have the father, of course. Every real mother must provide her child with a legal name! Good luck, darling!

   DO NOT GO WITH MARRIED, DO NOT BE A COMFORTABLE PRIZE!

   Listen, my girl, you've obviously come across a middle-aged man in crisis who's been looking for a relationship outside of his family. It all started as a joke, and then things developed to the point where you think you're in love. He probably also experiences things emotionally. Remember one thing, he needs you while you give him tenderness, love, sex, without pretensions, without tears, without commitments and difficulties. If you ask for a child, he will run away. He already has a wife, a child and a home, he doesn't need two. He needs a mistress. He wants unbridled love and stormy sex from nothing, he had to make financial commitments. If he hasn't divorced yet, he will never divorce. It seems that his wife is not one of those who can't step on your little finger, she is probably a woman with good self-confidence. If she hasn't filed for divorce yet, she is obviously much bigger than you and knows this game much better than you. And he, he has a past with her. During this adventure, he learned something else about his wife ... that he had her support, that she was the only woman who would forgive him, support him, and give him a second chance. A chance without babies, building a new home, taking on new responsibilities at an age when these things are not so easy and desirable. Darling, you are obviously a really young and sensitive girl. Find the right company from your peers and don't be fooled, don't waste your time. Only in 1-2 years you will meet him on the street and you will wonder what you liked in him at all! Good luck, little one! which will forgive him, support him and give him a second chance. A chance without babies, building a new home, taking on new responsibilities at an age when these things are not so easy and desirable. Darling, you are obviously a really young and sensitive girl. Find the right company from your peers and don't be fooled, don't waste your time. Only in 1-2 years you will meet him on the street and you will wonder what you liked in him at all! Good luck, little one! which will forgive him, support him and give him a second chance. A chance without babies, building a new home, taking on new responsibilities at an age when these things are not so easy and desirable. Darling, you are obviously a really young and sensitive girl. Find the right company from your peers and don't be fooled, don't waste your time. Only in 1-2 years you will meet him on the street and you will wonder what you liked in him at all! Good luck, little one!

   Once he has cheated, be sure that he will cheat on you in time. My husband has been cheating on me for 15 years, but he hasn't divorced me. It's good for both of us. We also have a child who makes us happy. My advice: DON'T EXPECT ANYTHING GOOD. Get your life in order while it's time. SUCCESS!

   If he really loves you, he would divorce and live with you ...

   Get it out of your head! Because of people like you, thousands of families break up and thousands of children are left with one parent!

   D I completely sympathize with you because the same thing happened to me there is no salvation the love of my life is he but why did this love come so late

   Dear advice, don't believe it, if it really is the love of your life, there is no forgetting, with the thought of it you will go to bed and wake up, and the feeling of not being able to experience your love will eat you like a bleeding wound. The pain is cruel but you have to learn to live with her and for the child I support you completely, there is no cure for this pain, and to know that time will not cure you, on the contrary you will get even worse!

   There is no love, everything is interest! If you don't dump him, he will do it!

   There is a Judge for all of us - to live our lives, there are no sinless ones - inaction is probably the worst ...

   Hi, I want to help you with advice, but I don't know how, like myself, I'm in exactly the same situation. I have times when I strongly believe that he will divorce, and sometimes I think he will never do it. The problem is that he loves his child very much, because he has already lost one, and his wife's parents, as well as his, are divorced and he doesn't want his child to be with divorced parents, so I don't know ... Sometimes I want to die, everyone thinks it's very easy to leave him and everyone blames me ... but in fact I don't know whose it is and why this whole situation is, it probably makes sense maybe or someday there will be ...

   Enough with this nonsense about the child without a father, do not listen to them, he will feel very loved with you, as if if there is a father, a simpleton and a drunkard, this is not talked about, for example, these are clichés and prejudices. Give birth to a child and don't listen to people's opinions, good luck :)

   I also go with a married man I love him I don't know how to divorce

   hello, your stories are familiar to me to the point of pain. I am also in such a situation, we have been together for a year and a half, he claims that he cannot divorce because of the child. we love each other a lot, but so what. I also want a child from him, so that I have a part of him and if it happens I will give birth, so my dear if you have a way to look after him give birth to your child and look after him, because even if you meet another you are not insured that he will not to separate and still be alone with a child, but at least you will know that this child is the fruit of your love.

   You seem to choose the men with a competition and it is a mandatory condition that they are married ... I just wonder how you push yourself and agree to play the second violin, because most, let me say almost 100% of these men will NEVER leave your wives for you. Aren't there free men left ?? Doriana

   Doriana, and I find it strange how someone cracks such nonsense as you in a topic from almost 4 years ago ... aaa and one clarification: No normal man will leave his official partner for the sake of his mistress. But he will leave him precisely because of this same partner, and if he has a mistress, he may or may not go to her after the divorce ... This is never very annoying in capital letters, bye-bye! Abe, in general, everyone should look after their own life, because he will live it and do what his heart tells him ... and time will decide the rest. You take these sermons very seriously and you will NEVER eat what you are ... Calm down a bit! you will feel sick! And whoever has decided to be a lover has his head on his shoulders, knows what to do and what he wants to do, what he wants to experience, etc. who has decided to cheat, he knows for himself why he does it, how to do it and what he expects. Every wife, who has decided to put up with the fact that the one who goes home in the evening, looking for love and understanding outside, probably also knows what he wants and what he doesn't. At least today, here and now, reserving the right to change my decisions ... Don't take yourself so seriously! Yes, they are chosen through a competition. they walk down the street and only those who have a ring want him to break up families, so it's a perverted hobby .. let's think a little next time you write such cracks .. but what a job! Flame Yes, they are chosen through a competition. they walk down the street and only those who have a ring want him to break up families, so it's a perverted hobby .. let's think a little next time you write such cracks .. but what a job! Flame Yes, they are chosen through a competition. they walk down the street and only those who have a ring want him to break up families, so it's a perverted hobby .. let's think a little next time you write such cracks .. but what a job! Flame

   I have nothing to say about the married man, so I will not comment. However, think about the possible pregnancy. Think about whether you won't feel lonely if he can't come with you for tests, an ultrasound, if you feel bad in the evening, if you can call him to take you to the doctor, if you want girlfriends to take you to the maternity hospital. and to discharge you with the baby alone, without the father greeting you. Believe me, if you now think that love for your baby will support you when you need him and he can't respond, you will be very sad. D.

   Hello, I am married but for 3 years my marriage is not what it was, it is not related to infidelity, but time passed and I fell in love with my client without knowing it, I don't know how it happened, I'm not a young man but I really don't know how to happened, we have been together for a long time, I love him very much, he also says that he loves me, our relationship is a bit strange, we don't see each other every day, maybe the mistake is mine, because some time ago he asked me if I would marry again , and I hurried to say NO without thinking, he replied that he can't live with someone without marriage, probably that's why our relationship is strange, with everything he shows me that he loves me very much but maybe I lost my chance I don't know, we we are both with our families, it is very difficult, I don't wish it on anyone, no matter how old you are, and he is younger than me, everyone seems to get what he has tracked down,good luck to all the girls, may love be a verse

   What does it mean "I know I won't have it and that's why I want a child from him" !!! ??? Why can't everyone look after their family? Why, when you know that a man has a wife and a child, do you deal with him? !? Not that he's not guilty, but what do you want? !! Don't you think that can happen to you too? !! And most importantly - HE HAS A FAMILY !!! Not a girlfriend, not a boyfriend, not lovers! A FAMILY! That's why I don't want to live in God! Because here people have no values ​​!!!

   I vomit from such men who cheat on their wives! And I also vomit from such frivolous babes who think that the meaning of life is only in married men! Abe, are you crazy - are the men who are alone, lonely and without commitments, who are waiting for you with open arms, so you rushed like crazy to deal with family people, and even to ruin their families! Isn't that your advice? I hate both men and women. Poor children ...

   34, forget to throw up on women who cheat on their husbands and on those frivolous wives who do not pay attention to their family partner. Otherwise, why do we deal with bound? Well, we don't deal with them, they deal with us - they chase us, call us, divorce us. What do you think, a man who is looking for a mistress and subsequently a new wife is not one foot in the divorce anyway. Understand at last that you and only you are to blame for your failed marriages. A second wife

   The love of life happens when both partners are completely devoted to each other ... there are no others ... otherwise it is unshared ... illusory.

   Don't listen to them, dear villain, and they shudder at the thought that it could be their husband :)) I was personally born without a father or, more precisely, my father did not want to recognize me and what kind of woman I am currently successful at. Mom and her parents raised me and gave me a lot of themselves, for which I thank them heartily !!! And I'm in a situation similar to yours. I'm in love with a married man, but you know I don't care about anything, I know that even if he doesn't want to live with me or the child I can possibly give birth to, he'll only regret it. Live as you wish, not as others wish !!! You will encounter many reproaches, but pass them with a smile, the important thing is what you feel and say !!! Live for yourself, not for the opinion of others !!!

   N. 37 - years have passed since what the author wrote, but I became interested in your story. How come your father didn't recognize you like that? By the way, I, like you, was a mistress for 7 years ... I was his patient companion. In the end, he decided for himself - he divorced and we have been a family for 3 years. Do not lose hope, give love, do not demand and do not harass. Let the man decide - believe me, in the end everyone chooses love and happiness!

   Until N 38, well done to you, 7 years to endure, was this sacrifice worth it

   39, to be worth it. Today we are happy together. We know each other much better than other married couples, we are expecting a child. It was worth it!

   Okay, I'm glad, because the end isn't always happy, but you're obviously happy,

   Every woman, if she puts her hand on her heart, would admit that she prefers to be a mistress rather than a wife. So who would prefer to wash socks and iron shirts and pants, to cook, clean, look after the children, and look at the man and pass through it like an inanimate object. Not to be noticed in bed, and when that happens to be just a need, routine, monotonous and somehow obligatory. On the other hand, to be a mistress means to be loved, desired, eagerly awaited. In what a completely different way this man looks at you - thirsty, insatiable. Every thought about you is connected only with pleasant sensations. She can't wait to see you, she reluctantly parted with you. When you are a mistress and you are different - you pay attention to lingerie, clothes, hairstyle, your eyes shine, your lips tremble. You have nothing to do with the bored and nervous housewife with sheep, a long-extinguished look. Each of us, regardless of whether we are a man or a woman, is in both roles - the grumbling bored husband / passionate lover or the filthy eternally sulking wife / woman incinerated and incinerated with passion. Let's not limit ourselves to just one role in life, let's give ourselves a little personal happiness. Long live infidelity.

   Up to N 38, I was also interested in your case. Tell me how did you manage to keep your relationship for 7 years? Usually such a relationship either breaks up quickly or develops quickly, because hiding you do not have the opportunity for a lot of variety in your meetings, in the things you do together. How did you keep your feelings for 7 years of secret meetings?

   Up to 38 - I envy you nobly :)

   Hello, I see that the topic is old, but it is of interest to me as well. I have also been seeing a committed man for almost 2 years. He is not married and has no children. It all started in a trivial way, we were colleagues. I was also committed, everything was a joke, but accompanied by great passion. My partner learned and we broke up. Then the meetings with the other person became more frequent, longer. Some time ago we talked about a possible connection between us, but he is not sure whether I will leave him free or I will try to impose control on him. He is also very jealous at times, in other cases he provokes me to look for another one ... These relationships are complicated, never clear and the worst thing is that even if a person wants to end it, it is very difficult to succeed, because there is always hope that maybe will choose you ...

   I am in the same situation and I fully understand you. I raised two children without a father I never loved, I gave birth to them for other reasons. Now I love a married man madly and I want a child made with love by him. I know I will never love another man. This is him and what a child without a father. I also grew up without a father and I am very strong. I haven't even seen his eyes. Where is the problem?

   He is married, don't ruin his happiness! Rejoice for him! Does the fact that he is married prevent you from being friends? :-)

   46, the problem is that you need a psychiatrist. "For other reasons" you gave birth to 2 children and you are very strong that you did not have a father? I sympathize with you, really, and please think seriously about the idea of ​​seeking help from a professional. You look after 2 children, after all, and now you want more for new reasons. You have a desperate need for love that you never obviously had. Everyone wants love, but that's not the way, and it's not love at all.

   To number 15 How can you be such an egoist ??? This man has a wife and a child ... leave the woman, she will somehow get back on her feet, but the CHILD ... God, I have no words !!! The same thing happened to me, but I was a child, do you have any idea how disgusting it is for a child to be left without a father because of some woman there ??? ONLY children ONLY suffer from such situations ... hard candyXx

   To the author !!! Hello ... a 19-year-old little girl wrote to you, who grew up without a father and experienced a relationship with a married man. I can tell you that I see myself in your words. When I read what you wrote, it's as if I wrote it ... Like you, I fell in love with a married man. It was like a fairy tale ... I, like you, suffered and loved him. And I had this thought ... I want to be his wife and I to look after his child, to have a child from him ... something from him that is for me and only for me. We saw each other secretly ... and for a while .... In the beginning it was beautiful and clean. I was happy and I felt good. But there comes a time when it will hurt. The moment you start thinking ... every time he leaves .. he goes home to his wife and children ... he's fine with you, he must be in love too .. there's a thrill, there's need something like that in your life ... But there is pain for you ... a lot of pain ... And yet you can't stop this ... you don't want to stop it. At any time when it hurts, you still prefer it to be so than to be without it. The downside of such relationships is that they are difficult to end. I drove like that for almost two years. Every time he left he left only emptiness and emptiness ... But also every time he saw him, when he was with me .. I saw him like the sun ... shining on my days ....:) But I decided, that I am a young girl and with this man we can never be more than what we are ... and I said to myself that I will experience this .. And here I am today ... the girl's story is over, the truth has come. Another person just came into my life who distracted me and made me overcome this delusion with the married man. Although the married man and I are friends, we keep in touch by phone, but that's all. The pain is gone and I realize I was just wrong. Then, at that moment, he meant a lot to me. I was in love, I was thinking about someone, there was meaning in my life and I don't regret anything I experienced, anything! That's why you don't, do like me - experience your love, experience it! It will pass :))) and when it passes, you will be very happy, you will be alive :)))) You will cross the tape and you will not look back. You will be new, pure ... You will be, but you will be reborn again. :))))) Are you ready :)))) )))) You will cross the bar and will not look back. You will be new, pure ... You will be, but you will be reborn again. :))))) Are you ready :)))) )))) You will cross the bar and will not look back. You will be new, pure ... You will be, but you will be reborn again. :))))) Are you ready :))))