Here I am divorced! Over 40 with a child almost on his way. I dreamed of a family, I had it. I loved my husband very much. But it did not work. Two years and nothing. I notice attention from men, but I do not meet what I miss, I do not meet a man who ignites the spark. The one that will warm you and make you want more. I wonder if that was it ?? From now on, will it be just sex and superficial relationships. Is it time to furnish with cats :) I know I shouldn't focus on the shortcomings. And I try to live life to the fullest. But I can't escape from this and replace it with something else ... it was a hobby, etc. How do you do it?
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Why did you split? There doesn't seem to be an ideal man, a relationship, it seems to be just a movie, not everyone has such love. And I want attention, love and roses. If we don't want much, you have to be happy with yourself.
Yep, you're right with the cats! To think in time! From here to old age - you will still be alone ...
Why did we break up? Because he changed. I could no longer rely on him and trust him - a large amount of wasted money and infidelity. I'm not looking for an ideal man :) I'm not perfect either. Who is he? To 2. What does it mean to think in time? I am not alone. I have a child, I have a family, I have friends. However, when I meet a man who will attract my attention, I run away. I can't trust myself, I think of reasons why it won't work.
The only thing women like you can do is write a book. A message to future generations of girls. To know what to expect and where and how to look. Because all of you single mothers are a spectacular failure for society and you don't even realize why.
Eh, if they don't blame you here, there's no way! Now they will blame you for being divorced ... But I have been for 9 years and I will tell you about my experience. It is not positive. Wishing only for non-committal sex. This is damn boring and annoying. I got used to it alone, that is, without a man. The children are with me and I am happy. I can't cause myself lies and a broken heart again. I don't trust men in general and I don't expect anything from them. That's it. I hope you're lucky, but I doubt it. Bulgarian men do not like to take responsibility in recent years - it is understandable, life is not easy. But they are brought up that way. For the Bulgarian man, the divorced woman is a slut, bad, whore, etc. and deserves to be treated like a rag. Well, no, thanks. And without men you live well. Thank you for being alive and healthy, because that is true wealth and happiness.
H 5 - what attitude do you expect? Why are you in a broken marriage? We men are not Martians, we can't guess what it's all about. Or do you think that we have grown up in very literate families, where the mother is the Virgin Mary ... What kind of attitude are you talking about, are you talking to us? She wanted love .... Only two things come to her husband's mind - sex and a fight. Guess why only the first thing happens to you? Because there are laws and we are brought up !!! And again the dissatisfied bird. Well there is no pleasure in you! NO!
Cats are very nice and affectionate animals, eat less than a man and want less care. For sex candidates a lot, you will not be dry. You can reunite with someone in your situation with or without children or an old bachelor, but I advise you not to complicate your life. There are many more enjoyable things in this world than family boredom and homemade cake.
/ to number 2 and the like / And the old bachelors where you are angry here, you will not be alone! Neither a child nor a kitten went to insult the woman ... And you - unwanted all your life. Because you are the most beautiful, aren't you.
n.6 Why - because my husband left me with two small children to marry his mistress. The little one was a year old. I loved him, I was faithful to him, I took care of him and I got a knife in the back. I will not explain to you what I went through. But I must be guilty, of course. If you say. Yes, I'm guilty because I'm divorced ... You love throwing stones in someone else's garden and I blame you. That's why I already hated men.
5, and if it occurred to you that they may have divorced because he is a drunkard or beats her, or he dumped her for another woman, etc., etc. Why, if they are divorced, then the woman does not get up and is the problem in it? And if we say he dumped her because she gained weight after giving birth (because there was such a topic here) alone with two children, then she has no right to be with another man, because she is divorced and so it does not happen automatically? As for logic, I just don't have words, and alas, it's probably the same for most men. If so, author, perhaps better alone than with someone like that.
I think you have a chance for a serious relationship, author. You are still young at 40, and since your child has grown up and you do not have constant commitments with him ... Yes, it is true that our men do not like to watch other people's children, read here on the site, they say it in plain text. In my opinion, you have seen your problem - namely, that it is difficult for you to trust a man. And that's more than normal after what happened to you. Try to overcome it. Don't deal with men who want casual sex. Don't think of getting involved with a married man - you'll do more stupid things. Don't rush things to happen to you right away - and they will definitely happen. I wish you luck.
Thanks, girls for the answers, and for including the man with answer 11. I don't expect something I expected and dreamed of at 18 years old. I don't necessarily want to live with a man, I can't even imagine him at the moment. It's weird that I don't know how a relationship develops at the moment. You meet someone, you talk nice, but .. from there to dad @ How do you trust @ Who will tolerate @ At least until now I do not meet such. Not to mention that I meet men who are ... I don't know what word to use. In the beginning - smart, kind, intriguing, and as you continue to keep your distance at some point they become rude. The fact is that I have not encountered such relationships in my youth! And here, hidden behind their anonymity, they appeared! To you with anonymous and rude answers: I know why I gave up my marriage! I know how to give and what relationships mean! I do not accumulate malice, because they betrayed me! Despite the hurt pride and the situation in which they put me, I will continue normal contact with my ex-husband, because of our child! But I would not allow myself to put all men under a common denominator!