Hi ... I'll start with my story. I am 20 years old (girl). Ever since I entered puberty, I have had slight arguments with my parents. No matter what happened, I always restrained myself and did not give "freedom" to my emotions. After every argument or dispute, I was silent, silent, and so on until recently. I finished 12th grade with decent success, but I couldn't wait to buy a ticket and go somewhere to make it easier for me and my family. When I finished, I collected money, packed my bags and told our people that I had a flight in a few days. The reaction was definitely not good, but I told them a thousand times that I couldn't stand it, I was tired of their behavior, of criticism, etc .. And so our people came and sent me away. The truth is that it was a difficult "separation" for both me and them. I went up and have been working in a very developed country in the EU for more than a year now. I was glad that I am now more responsible, independent ... I have my own life and it seems to make me stronger. People here accepted me easily and over time I found a friend. He loves and supports me a lot, makes me feel great and I'm glad we're together. A few days ago, however, a very close friend of mine from Bulgaria wrote to me on Facebook, told me how things are here ... Then I looked at photos and I was very sad. From time to time this girl tells me that she admires me ... That I was young and I already have a job, I am responsible and I do not rely on anyone ... I wonder what kind of life is mine? !! Why did I leave my family and hurry to live this way?
My former classmates and people from the company go on trips, on vacations, live their lives and don't think about it at all, and I've been making plans since I was little, I think I think and what happened to me? I have achieved what I want, but why don't I feel as satisfied as I expected? Why did I "dream" of going far for so long and now I feel lost, alone ... even unable to continue ... I want to go back to my mother and father, to hug them and everything to be the same mu. Come to think of it, I'm still ... very young, my boyfriend is young, still a boy ... I have the character of a girl who now wants to get to know the world, to enjoy a carefree youth, etc., and I lead the life of a man who has already seen himself, lived and now has to work to earn a living. I really don't know how all this happened, how I led a quiet life and after a short conversation with my girlfriend I felt as if someone had slapped me and I came to my senses. I wonder what to do now. I don't seem to have many options, but there are things that keep me going. I have the feeling that if I come back, our people will start repeating to me that I failed, that I am very good at talking, but when the time comes to act ...
They are not like that, but they always want more from me and I am fear. I have a good and very well paid job here, I have made friends with a lot of decent and fun people, I love my boyfriend very much and I don't want to part with him. I'm really confused ... I don't know what to do iii ... I'll be happy for your opinions and advice. What would you choose? Thanks a lot in advance. but they always want more from me and I'm scared. I have a good and very well paid job here, I have made friends with a lot of decent and funny people, I love my boyfriend very much and I don't want to part with him. I'm really confused ... I don't know what to do iii ... I'll be happy for your opinions and advice. What would you choose? Thanks a lot in advance. but they always want more from me and I'm scared. I have a good and very well paid job here, I have made friends with a lot of decent and funny people, I love my boyfriend very much and I don't want to part with him. I'm really confused ... I don't know what to do iii ... I'll be happy for your opinions and advice. What would you choose? Thanks a lot in advance.
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Stay there, sweet girl, because things here are not rosy at all. I am a mother of two sons, one has not been able to find a job for more than a year, the other is a student. Don't ask me how I can handle them. My husband is also unemployed. Life here has become difficult for both adults and young people. My sons also dream of living and working abroad because they see that there is no future here. I guess nostalgia bothers you, that sometimes you want to throw everything away, but ... whatever we talk about ... there is no life without money. If you have the opportunity, come and see your parents and friends. But know that if you are well, they will be well. If you can help them, it's probably not easy for them. As a mother, it hurts me to give you such advice, to be away from your parents, but as a person I understand that everyone has the right to their own happiness and everyone goes their own way! I wish you a lot of success and smiles. Greetings from a mother!
Look, I'm 20 and I'm wondering how to get out of this country. I can't find a job, and without work there is no money, and without money there is no entertainment. You are confused. Do not come back. In a few days you can. But not for more. You'll be very sorry, I'm sure. You have achieved what I aspire to. Please give advice on how to go and where as no one I know. Please help me in some way
You will always miss your relatives and friends, but life has other requirements. All my friends have been abroad for years with their families / I am one of the few who came home / and they still want to go home, but when they come on vacation they usually feel the first days with relatives and memories and so on. Seeing the reality, usually after the first week their aspirations evaporate and take over - these people, English, Spanish, Germans, etc. will not get up, sooner or later they will go home, but unfortunately this will not happen to their children - they will not to come. There are quite a few who returned with money and a desire to start something here - alas, I do not know who succeeded, usually the money sinks and there is a return and start again, but the years of work are lost forever. Congratulations on your independence and will, if you have the opportunity, come for a week or two, look around and then decide - now you are pressed by nostalgia, with these qualities you will be fine here, but you know best. Otherwise, I fully support number 1. Winnie the Pooh
One day my curtain fell and I was already at the airport with a ticket in hand. In the beginning it was many. hard, now I make good honest and clean money! I am constantly making plans when I return to Bulgaria to buy something. Where will I go and what will I do. I can't wait for the day to come when I will pack all my luggage and go back to BG. I will try to invest my savings. I will be closer to my parents, they will not be alive for another 100 years. I will look for a job, I will try. If it doesn't, the road is paved, I know where. Success!
It is very easy to give advice, but do not ask an old man, but a patillo! Do you realize that immigrants are people who sell their health for money? !! Most people are on plantations, all day in the rain, sun, cold and wind, others wash kenefs, cleaners, builders, others in dangerous constructions, risk their lives! And all the time deprived of the warmth of home, the caress of mom and a kind talk with relatives? These people live with another 7-10 like and use 1 to 2 baths, waiting to warm their food. The bathroom has a schedule. These people have almost no social life, no Bulgarian books, no newspapers. These people do not live differently from prisoners, the difference is that they are imprisoned in a country. At the age of 20, a slave abroad, is that what you advise her to do?
I want to write to you, I'm in the same situation and I'm terribly confused! I will be happy to talk to someone about this completely anonymously. I leave an e-mail: sadbina_ @ abv. success
I support the people who spoke before me. I live in Bulgaria, I have two higher educations, and I have no job, I am constantly looking, I have a good appearance, qualities, I am intelligent. But when I submit documents somewhere, they tell me that they will call me and things stop there. They keep whispering to me that everything happens only with connections. Until then ... I worked for 300 leva, they treated me without a drop of respect, although I was superior to my bosses in education ... My advice is to stay in a good position where you are now. To be close to your friend, to see what we cannot see here in our poor homeland - comfort, good work and good attitude, connection with the whole world. You know that the homeland is where your home and your heart are. You made your choice and you didn't make a mistake, you succeeded! Why throw everything away lightly, because of the words of my friend ... She wouldn't let me be in your place, but you don't feel it ... I would give everything to go abroad, but I don't have the necessary funds, and life goes on, I want while I'm young to see the world and achieve something. I wish you to find mental balance and not to make hasty decisions. It should not happen that after the initial euphoria of your return to Bulgaria the problems with work start, you will start from scratch, you will regret a lot ... Rejoice in what you have achieved, enjoy every moment of your life and not sorry for nothing! Write how you feel and what you think! Greetings - Galya! I want to see the world and achieve something when I am young. I wish you to find mental balance and not to make hasty decisions. It should not happen that after the initial euphoria of your return to Bulgaria the problems with work start, you will start from scratch, you will regret a lot ... Rejoice in what you have achieved, enjoy every moment of your life and not sorry for nothing! Write how you feel and what you think! Greetings - Galya! I want to see the world and achieve something when I am young. I wish you to find mental balance and not to make hasty decisions. It should not happen that after the initial euphoria of your return to Bulgaria the problems with work start, you will start from scratch, you will regret a lot ... Rejoice in what you have achieved, enjoy every moment of your life and not sorry for nothing! Write how you feel and what you think! Greetings - Galya!
Thank you for your answers, for the sincere advice and .. abe for everything written :) To number 2: Darling, the main things you need are money to rent accommodation for the first month, to have something to eat for travel. The other two things are determination and languages! And I was looking for a job after I graduated and in a few months I collected the money I needed. It is not difficult if you are looking for a job as a waitress.
My love for the country I was going to strengthened me. I believed that right there I would be happy, successful and ... yes. It depends on which country you want to go to and how many languages you know. I speak 3 foreign languages and am currently studying French ... Languages have opened their doors for me. I like my job, it's nice, and the pay is good. Galya, thanks for the advice. I feel ... very strange, I'm still confused. I just suddenly had a feeling of ... lack, sadness. It is good that there is someone to support me at this moment, otherwise I will already be in Bulgaria. My friend did nothing wrong. For years I shared with her "dreams" to leave, how we will write to each other, we will send each other photos and everyone will tell each other what she has experienced. The most innocent thoughts and dreams that seemed simple. What is different for me is that in the beginning I was very angry and happy to be among new people, a new culture. I understand that the situation in the homeland is not rosy at all, but I have the feeling that if I continue like this, it will collapse ... I guess I will spend another night thinking and remembering. Thanks again to everyone who wrote, greetings and good luck! by the author * I just suddenly had a feeling of ... lack, sadness. It is good that there is someone to support me at this moment, otherwise I will already be in Bulgaria. My friend did nothing wrong. For years I shared with her "dreams" to leave, how we will write to each other, we will send each other photos and everyone will tell each other what she has experienced.
The most innocent thoughts and dreams that seemed simple. What is different for me is that in the beginning, I was very angry and happy to be among new people, a new culture. I understand that the situation in the homeland is not rosy at all, but I have the feeling that if I continue like this, it will collapse ... I guess I will spend another night thinking and remembering. Thanks again to everyone who wrote, greetings and good luck! by the author * I just suddenly had a feeling of ... lack, sadness. It is good that there is someone to support me at this moment, otherwise I will already be in Bulgaria. My friend did nothing wrong. For years I shared with her my "dreams" to leave, how we will write to each other, send each other photos and everyone will tell each other what she has experienced. The most innocent thoughts and dreams that seemed simple. What is different for me is that in the beginning I was very angry and happy to be among new people, a new culture. I understand that the situation in the homeland is not rosy at all, but I have the feeling that if I continue like this, it will collapse ... I guess I will spend another night thinking and remembering. Thanks again to everyone who wrote, greetings and good luck! by the author * My friend did nothing wrong. For years I shared with her my "dreams" to leave, how we will write to each other, send each other photos and everyone will tell each other what she has experienced. The most innocent thoughts and dreams that seemed simple. What is different for me is that in the beginning I was very angry and happy to be among new people, a new culture. I understand that the situation in the homeland is not rosy at all, but I have the feeling that if I continue like this, it will collapse ...
I guess I will spend another night thinking and remembering. Thanks again to everyone who wrote, greetings and good luck! by the author * My friend did nothing wrong. For years I shared with her "dreams" to leave, how we will write to each other, we will send each other photos and everyone will tell each other what she has experienced. The most innocent thoughts and dreams that seemed simple. What is different for me is that in the beginning, I was very angry and happy to be among new people, a new culture. I understand that the situation in the homeland is not rosy at all, but I have the feeling that if I continue like this, it will collapse ... I guess I will spend another night thinking and remembering. Thanks again to everyone who wrote, greetings and good luck! by the author * that I am among new people, a new culture. I understand that the situation in the homeland is not rosy at all, but I have the feeling that if I continue like this, it will collapse ... I guess I will spend another night thinking and remembering. Thanks again to everyone who wrote, greetings and good luck! by the author * that I am among new people, a new culture. I understand that the situation in the homeland is not rosy at all, but I have the feeling that if I continue like this, it will collapse ... I guess I will spend another night thinking and remembering. Thanks again to everyone who wrote, greetings and good luck! by the author *