Hello! I have a friend with whom we have been together for 4 years, and during this period we had several sections for several months and I was with two other men with whom I slept, but ... I never finished when I had sex, I feel pleasure at the beginning, but after the tenth minute it seems like it's all over and I don't feel any pleasure. I tried to satisfy myself, but still the same job. I'm afraid to talk to my boyfriend about it because he says he likes having sex with me a lot, if I tell him I haven't had so much fun I'll probably hurt his masculine dignity, that he's a man and can't satisfy your girlfriend. Apparently I have a problem, I'm supposed to relax and I don't understand why things don't work out for me. Please for any advice :(.
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Horror ... the men you were with seemed to be big trees, it can't just melt the pepper there.
Don't you even reach orgasm from French?
You are not the only one. There are many such women. Including me.
And my wife is like that. However, I understood it only after 16 years. Find an asexual man.
Breathe calmly! Buy a jade egg and start kegel exercises and you will see a huge change in your sensitivity and pleasure. For us women, pleasure requires a little effort. Everything will be alright.
And do you feel any pleasure from the love game and the act in general? Are you turned on? If he stimulates you with his hand on the clitoris, how do you feel?
Apparently you've come across sticks like, "poke peppers in beans", then sex is a science, you can do it, not crawling on a wooden plank, do you understand? Try someone who knows what it's about, otherwise ... so you will stay!
If you have not had an orgasm with masturbation, it will be very difficult to get during sex. And the explanation is simple, you yourself do not know what exactly gives you pleasure. Therefore, there is no way to show a man exactly what makes you cum, and he is not a fortune teller. The solution is simple, buy a vibrator. You can also order online. And start experimenting. Don't expect a result the first time. Just enjoy the moment and it will happen. Maybe the first time, maybe the twentieth. The safest orgasm is the one that occurs after clitoral stimulation. Few women reach orgasm with vaginal stimulation alone.
Tips - I can only give one - experiments ... Poses, techniques, toys ... possibly try to get a vibrator type "rabbit", at least as far as I know from users - it works flawlessly. Experiment in bed with techniques and postures ... Some people find it harder than others. I had a partner who, when having sex with a man, could only have an orgasm from anal sex in a "rider" position - she claimed that nothing else worked for her and even this method was discovered at the age of 30 ... And I know such that you can just touch it and it is "ready" ... So - it is strictly individual. But with trial and error you can also find a technique that works.