I'll start with the fact that I'm 22 girls. The problem is that I feel like a sexless alien. I'm very sick. Already at 22, I still haven't had a boyfriend, I haven't even kissed a boy. I'm not mentally underdeveloped about these sex topics. Everything around me and the girls and boys talking to each other is just fixing. Colleagues talk freely on this topic when and how they made love with their boyfriend .. If I were in their place I would not talk so freely on these personal topics, even if it is more feminine. I was super naughty when a colleague and I talked personally, she asked me directly if I had ever had sex while she was explaining some nonsense about menstruation and her boyfriend. I felt underdeveloped for my age. Not that I haven't had sex, but that I'll probably never have a boyfriend. And my peers will perceive me as something without sex. She knows I didn't have a boyfriend because we shared with her. And something else she said, obviously my problem is there. I had a rigid demeanor. I had to relax. I guess she's right, but by rigid behavior it's not that I'm ashamed of boys or anything, I talk freely and behave freely with them. I'm even more with boys than you are with girls. I'm not worried about boys, and at least I don't look that way. I have no idea, he obviously meant rigid behavior in some situations, she even at university. I don't know where my problem is, they liked me, but I didn't like a boy. Sometimes I think that modesty and morality are too much for me. So far, I may have liked a real boy once in my life. And from then on I had some sympathies. Advice on whether you will give it to me. But at least I poured out my soul and was relieved. Let the moderators publish my story. I apologize for the illiterate writing, because I'm like that when I chat.
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A friend of mine, when she was only 24, caught a boyfriend for the first time, had sex with him for the first time and today they have been together for 6 years. I don't know, you need to go out more to meet more guys. There are people who find it harder to like anything - starting with clothes, things ... well, everything ... to boyfriends. Well, since you've only liked 1 boy so far, it's kind of logical to be a virgin. (most likely he didn't like you or something .. and so on) Now, someone can advise you to sleep with someone who wants to sleep with you, just not to be a virgin anymore, but in my opinion don't do that, it won't be cool (to put it mildly) to have sex by force. / you can also come up with the argument that one day you will not have to force yourself to have sex with someone, even though we like you if you want to get pregnant, but you don't have to care about that either, because there is an in vitro / abe, there is a possibility that you will get a lot of psycho-attacks in order to do it with someone who doesn't like you, but you don't care about them. Abstract yourself. Sex is done only if there is a desire, for no other reason, nor to prove yourself to colleagues, girlfriends, or anyone else. Just go out more with new and different people. Obviously you need a lot more variety than the average Bulgarian woman, but from this fact you should not be considered abnormal at all, wrong, dumb, lower, asexual as you said, etc. negatives various. Sex is not a measure of intelligence, nor how cool you are ... after all, braziers start having sex at the earliest ... do you consider them cooler? Don't worry, don't think so much and don't explain such personal things about yourself to various colleagues or other acquaintances there. You don't care at all how much you communicate with people, this colleague has felt the shyness in you and that's why she scanned you so easily that you didn't have sex, which as I say is not a problem and is not abnormal, it's just for many people strange, and this brings you extra film, and you need the exact opposite - not to care and not to think about it. Also, most likely, this colleague took advantage of scratching her ego - to pretend to be something 'more', because she did, and you are not, which is stupid of her, but the effect on your self-esteem is obvious. In general, do not share any weaknesses with other people, especially with women - you say yourself, that it's easier for you to communicate with boys than with women - maybe you already feel what I'm talking about ... If you have to go, give 50 leva to a good psychotherapist and tell yourself everything that bothers you there, but you will be guaranteed that you will receive a good and respectful attitude. ж30
Even at the first opportunity, change your job, because these colleagues can still make you a lot of film ... and totally depress you.
Abe was calm. You need a well-mannered boy. What can I say that I am 27 and I have not been with a girl for 5 years. I drive a second virgin hahaha. But if you can talk to boys, why don't you take them off? Be careful and don't give them sex because most of them want it
Calm down. For every train, there are passengers, people have said. I have an acquaintance who is about 35 years old and has only just got engaged. Her friend is a very decent person. It's just that sometimes things happen later. But my opinion is that it's better that way than to change 10 boys and end up with broken nerves, two children and alone. Because I know such cases. Great job, being the most liked girls, ending up without a normal man next to them.
Do you want to meet? I am a 20-year-old boy, I do not smoke, I do not drink, I do not take drugs. I play sports, write poetry, cook, do various and useful activities for me and others around me. I more or less understand you, even though I'm not exactly like you and I've had sex, but never love. The two women I loved, I didn't even get to kiss them, let alone anything more. Don't worry, you're not "defective." If you want, we can meet, as long as you live in Sofia.
This job requires two. If you don't give anyone a chance, things can't happen.
So, now I will share with you some of my thoughts. Misunderstood by most and strange, but I personally do not care. Whether you have a boyfriend, whether you have kissed, whether you have had sex is your personal business and no one should ask you about it or tell them yourself. You have, you don't - it's your job. Where are the pros of things if you tell them the truth? Yes honesty, morality with them. But is it worth it? Apparently No! They will not understand such a thing. I drive my life on priorities - study, work, child, family. First I graduated from high school, I went to university, I got a bachelor's degree, now I got a master's degree. I started working in parallel. Then my idea is to have a child, before 30. Probably in a clinic and without a father. But I will do it. And then I will only look for a comrade. But even if I don't have anyone by my side, I will know that I have achieved something. This is simple, strange and alien compared to previous generations, but that's how I see it. And I live by making it come true. Live without shame. Girl (Woman) at 24
I think you have some unresolved conflict with your father. I wish you to understand what it is and work it out. During this time, do not force yourself to be with someone just like that. But to have liked a single boy in your life sounds very strange to me. I have been engaged for 5 years and in 2 months I fall in love with someone new. Everything remains in the realm of fantasy, of course, but I definitely have an interest in it. Give sympathy a chance. They can grow into something more;)
I am three years older than you and I am in your position. Otherwise, I have candidates, one of them is wonderful, very learned, but I have not yet taken life into my own hands and somehow withdraw, maybe I'm afraid he will be disappointed, I do not know, I missed my chance, and time imperceptibly passes, I close myself even more and so on.
Well, I guess if you like a boy, but you have to go to parties and by including stable doses of alcohol, rubbing, pushing, etc., exchanging phones, continuing in the same spirit, things should happen. With rigid behavior, ice queens, women who look at you as if you did something to them and the like, nothing can happen, because they have a repulsive, cold attitude from which you want to get rid of as quickly as possible and not steam to them anymore. .
From the Author: Number 1: Thank you for such a long and soothing advice. She just stabbed me, analyzing my colleague just through my words. And I think she thinks exactly the way she said. In principle, I think like you. The other day, I just blew up and fell spiritually from something like that, from some primal thoughts of village sticks, I just don't think there are people left who think like me. It's not even me, my university is worse than school. And for the psychologist you are absolutely right and I thought so. Number 8. And I live on this principle, I try to do the tasks I have set for myself. I am glad that there are more and more people like me and you do not frame people and do not look at them as inferior, because they are not according to some stereotype. You have the soul to accept people as they are according to their beliefs and worldview. Number 9. I have no unresolved conflict with my father. My father is OK. Number 2. You're absolutely right, but in this case I'm at university. Otherwise, such people can completely oppress and degrade you. : D And to everyone else, I'm reassured that I'm no exception and there are people like me, and that there are still people with some morals. Number 6. Thanks for the invitation, but let's stay anonymous. Number 3. Well, when I take these guys off, they think I'm playing with them or I'm a carpet. I have colleagues who run away like girls and I don't even know if they can talk to me calmly hahaha. And elsewhere they only go to parties, where there are chicks or some girlfriends: D I reassure myself that I am no exception and there are people like me, and that there are still people with some morals left. Number 6. Thanks for the invitation, but let's stay anonymous. Number 3. Well, when I take these guys off, they think I'm playing with them or I'm a carpet. I have colleagues who run away like girls and I don't even know if they can talk to me calmly hahaha. And elsewhere they only go to parties, where there are chicks or some girlfriends: D I reassure myself that I am no exception and there are people like me, and that there are still people with some morals left. Number 6. Thanks for the invitation, but let's stay anonymous. Number 3. Well, when I take these guys off, they think I'm playing with them or I'm a carpet. I have colleagues who run away like girls and I don't even know if they can talk to me calmly hahaha. And elsewhere they only go to parties, where there are chicks or some girlfriends: D
They correctly wrote to you that your colleagues will oppress you even more. They themselves have some complexes. At the age of 22, I caught my first boyfriend, with whom we are already engaged. I've never lacked male attention, but I just didn't want to have a relationship with anyone because I'm 18 and I just have to have a boyfriend, or I won't fit in. I wanted something real and it came. I'm worried about the story you've written so much that you've despaired so much and that you now think you'll never make a friend. Bullshit. You are young, life is in front of you. One piece of advice - sometimes in order for something good to happen in your life, you need to more or less break your own rules and frameworks that you have created. :)
That why should he go to parties to find? Casual acquaintances are strongest as the beginning of a long-term relationship, whether friendly or something more
Because number 15 (I'm 11) parties are events where people have fun, relax, see new people and can make contacts. These are social events for fun and togetherness. Exactly an environment for starting something intimate, when we add alcohol which lowers the inhibitions, then we have an environment for something to happen. In everyday life, people are tense, rigid, restrained, cautious, suspicious, do not allow easy access to their personal space, etc. In everyday life, even if someone tries something in 99% of cases will be repelled and after two or three such cases will stop. In everyday life, even if someone feels lonely, there will be no one to approach him / her. Therefore, parties are a good opportunity for people to socialize as long as they are open to opportunities and use them, but if they are closed there, too cautious,