? Hi. I'm an 11-grade schoolgirl. From the beginning of my secondary education I firmly stated to myself that I want to develop abroad. I'm studying in a prestigious high school in my hometown. I met my current friend half a year ago. Our relationship is strong and consider a real future together. He's serious about our relationship. There are future plans for a common home. He needs to end his education over time and start work, which he will later take a diploma related to the craft he is dealing with. He is intelligent, sensible, loving, dedicated. Everything a woman would need. He's responsible. Circumspect. The question rests with me., I want to go to Germany to start and finish my higher education, I am ambitious in my goals and the steps I have walked to get here have been difficult. The development of man as a person for me stands far ahead. And if he's gone next year, this relationship is terminated. I don't want to lose this good man who so much loved. My family likes it, too. He has a job, wants a life together with me, it costs a lot of effort and opportunity to build a home, and he does it to keep me. In no way does he want to interfere with my decision. But wherever I look, I see him as one. And what better to live with someone you love. I'm 17 years old. I have a choice next year. I need advice Advice from someone who has experienced such a thing.
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You're too young for such a serious commitment. It's a tough dilemma. Whoever tells you the decision must be yours, otherwise you'il regret it all your life. I'm going to give you some food for thought, I hope it helps. You don't say how old he is, but the writing is probably a lot bigger than you are (at least 7-8). You're just getting into life, you're forming a personality. Now you may be super, but in time there will be differences. If he loves you, he'il find a way to come to you. Keeping you with a house (unbuilt) is a typical Balkan mentality. On the other hand, Germany is not what most Bulgarians think. No one is waiting for us with open arms there. We assume you're a smart girl and you end up with no problems studying there. And then? Discrimination has it. They're just more concealed than we are. They are arrogant towards foreigners, especially the Eastern Europeans. Do not think that by going to Germany your path will be paved and a bright future awaits you. Talk to your friend. Think about where you see yourself in five. Now that he's building a house, maybe in five. See her and a baby. And you? What do you want for yourself? I understand that you don't want to hurt him, but if you're totally into someone else, you're going to hurt yourself. You're very much in love right now, but no one can give you a guarantee that you won't regret a choice taken under the influence of emotions. Think about what's best for you. Take the right decision for you. No one said it would be easy and it wouldn't hurt.
I'd advise you to choose Love. A career can be built anywhere, but a soul mate is not easily found. Have you discussed the option of leaving and developing in Germany together? I live here because I married a German. With me it was the opposite-I had the opportunity of realization in the field of online journalism in Bulgaria, which I do not have in Germany, because it must be German as your mother tongue, but still I chose to follow love. The quarry's not going to warm you up in the evening, with the quarry you won't have kids and it won't make your weekends and holidays fun. Not everything is work and money-do not become like the typical German.
From the author to comment 1 My friend is my set. The boy is 17 years old. I would not say that the decision to stay here in Bulgaria would be a kind to comply with it. I'd do it exactly if I really wanted to. I desire to be with this man in connection with the construction of the house, the material base is not something that warms me. Where I sleep at night, I have the fact that he is devoted to me infinitely, infinitely and his attitude towards me is precisely the attitude I want to get from my partner to myself in the future.
And what are the typical German-work and money?! Where do you see these German guys? And I'm married to a German. I've been here 20 years. The German girls are different-and all women in the world. Some make a career, others stay at home and watch their children. People are different. Number two, Germans don't discriminate against foreigners. I've never felt discriminated against. I graduated master's degree in Sofia, I work in the specialty and I successfully combine family and work. Dear Girl, follow your dreams-in Germany you will have many more chances. Maybe you both go. Success!
I would advise you to choose your development. Nothing lasts forever. Love disappears after years. You're too young and your life is in front of you. In Germany it will be difficult, but if you can finish you will see that your life will turn to 180 g. You'il meet new people from all over the world.
From number 2 to number 4 My husband, at first, told me that he did not like the Germans, because most of them were big career-men and for many years had not found a woman to create a family. She wanted and purposefully searched for a foreigner for a woman. I've heard such tales from other Germans, which has something to say. The fact is that here many men and women are career oriented and late (or never) find time for family and children. Where did I say someone discriminated me? If you mean the profession-it is very clear that I can not work in my specialty here, because to write in the media you have to be fluent in the language you use. And that's not going to happen if your tongue wasn't born, even if you reached level C1. I work as a Freeman from home and I am pleased with the development of things. For me the creation of a family and cozy home has always stood out in the first place. Jobs and bosses change, but the man is always there for you, and the children stay behind you.
Someone 17 years (he) thought of a home... Don't be ridiculous. Go to Germany, and he wants to be with you to come and work there. If he can't or doesn't want to wait here.
Does your friend not consider the option of coming with you? For me this is the most sensible development of things. You're going to be able to grow up, if he's got a trade, he can do it too. If your parents are okay to be at a lodge, not a dorm, everything seems fine to me as if you were leaving together.
I went through it. I chose Germany. I never met a better man. I have a nice life, I took my diploma, a job sweetheart for good money, a relaxed country, I married, a child. You can't say my life has stopped. Goals are achieved. But I know that with him, with that man, I'd be a better person and maybe happier. More real and more full of content. I'm not complaining, I'm just sharing.