Hello, I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years and I have the following problem. Lately (half a year) I pay for everything when we go out and generally whatever we do. Every day there are restaurants, bars, taxis, shopping for home ... and I can't think of taking out 5 leva, but we have absolutely the same income and it is clear that my money is running out. I spend everything to the penny and when we decide to buy something bigger or go on a trip, she has savings, and I wasted everything. She is a very good girl, we love each other very much, but before that we paid once, I once, because she told me that she felt the best ... Now she just stands and looks distracted when the bill comes. How can I explain to her without being offended that not all expenses can be borne by me? If I had more, it wouldn't be a problem - even with pleasure, but I'm starting to run out of money. I can't tell her directly "give me half the money". I look forward to your suggestions.
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You sit down and talk to her, for example, that you can take turns. If you pay for the movie, she'll take the popcorn and the car. You pay this time, she pays next time for the coffee. Explain that it is difficult for you to spend your money on yourself when you give half for it and that yes, you will pay sometimes, but when you can and not always.
Well, you have to tell her exactly. If you are afraid that he will be offended, he will turn you around as he pleases. You're a man, you have to keep control. As for the specific situation, this is not ok. And it's strange that she suddenly totally changed her habits. Ask her why. G30
Dude bad! I'm not a specialist at all, but I think you don't communicate enough first and secondly he uses you. Sorry in advance.
Hello, author! What is this dragon for you? Every day in restaurants and so on! Why don't you tell her you're not Rockefeller? I don't know what you do, that you're with her every day! That your money leaves in a flash! If I'm on you, I'll break up with her instantly! One time, another time ... on the third to pack your bags and goodbye!
You accidentally forget your money or you don't go to places that require money. If he wants somewhere, you say that you don't have the opportunity at the moment. You can just pay for your expenses, it's a little dumb, but you won't be hungry for it. Maybe save for something. Talk about it.
The truth is that for most couples I know, the man bears all the expenses and pays the bills. But since this is a problem for you, you may not be able to afford it. Then it is best to have an honest conversation with your girlfriend. In fact, most men would not feel good if their girlfriends paid even part of the bill. But lately, there are a lot of emancipated women who want to pay on an equal footing with men. Maybe you need a woman like that.
Only by talking to her directly can you solve this problem. Once you are together, the costs you have should be shared equally. There is nothing to offend her if she told you some time ago that she also feels better, as she sometimes pays. :) М. 32г.
Hello Author! First of all, I want to say thank you, because for these 27 years I have never met a man who would fully cover my expenses. I don't even know nowadays it seems like a lot of men are lying on their women's backs. What you are doing is right for a man, but it is not normal for her to be careless. How come he won't pay. I understand looking after your child and taking care of the home, but only when you both work. Talk to her if she's sulking, etc. Everything is clear, but maybe she's giving them to someone else or someone. And if he can't tell you if I know relatives, I won't tell you about clothes for worse things. I tell you from experience.