Hello! I have a friend who is 10 years older than me. We have been together for 7 months. In a month, two goes on business trips abroad for 30 days. But for these 7 months he walks only once. Takes good money. BUT still nothing gave me not that there is no time or money, I just do not know. I constantly give him gifts and surprises. I save, I deprive myself of many things just to make him happy, and he does nothing. He spends only on his car. He told me that he gave a lot of things to his exes, he indulged them. And nothing to me. He says he loves me very much, he would do anything for me. He doesn't pay much attention to me. I'm not for the presents, but it's always about his exes and he keeps telling me how he went out with them, went everywhere with them, bought them everything! However, none of the above did as he tells me. When I like something and he is with me, he doesn't buy it for me, even if it's a flower or a trinket. When my friends tell me what gifts they received, I feel uncomfortable. I feel somehow out of place! Even when he insults me and I cry he pretends that nothing happened. I'm confused if I mean anything to him. I know that love is not expressed in gifts, but in the actions of the other person, but how can I believe that he loves me when he has done nothing for me. I do not know what to do? Please give me advice! and with the actions of the other person, but how can I believe that he loves me as he has done nothing for me. I do not know what to do? Please give me advice! and with the actions of the other person, but how can I believe that he loves me as he has done nothing for me. I do not know what to do? Please give me advice!
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Leave it. Love is also in the small gestures.
most likely this person realized that when he gave a lot for others he was not appreciated .. maybe he even felt used .. quite often we put up barriers after we have been injured and we say to ourselves that in our next relationship there is no be like the previous ones ... also more and more men are prejudiced that women are material and just want .. be patient .. but also open .. things have to be called by real names .. talk directly to him about these things
Drop it. Who is the one to deal with your ex? It may have happened to me that someone mentioned an ex only if there is a specific reason - for example, if we meet her on the street. But let me tell you all the time about my exes and what kind of party he had with them ... Get up and leave. This person is not yours. You have found your man - where everyone can talk about you. Success!
Well, I used to give my ex-boyfriend a constant gift, even gold, at the very beginning of the relationship. I just thought I was in love then. Then it all went to hell and I realized how much I lied and how much she didn't deserve it. It hurt me because I realized how stupid I was to give it to her. Then I met the great love, we have been together for 9 years. But I have always associated gifts with pain. And only now I recently relaxed and shook myself and gave her a golden heart with the words "I know you have a golden heart, but accept my golden heart". Until now, I had given her almost nothing. But now, after 9 years, I realized that she meant much more than all the former ones, and I didn't give her a present. I just realized it wasn't fair to her. But I didn't realize it all the time. Why did I realize it only now? Well, I realized that 9 years is enough time, for which we have proved more than once that our love is real and this relaxed me and allowed me to break. It's just that the pain has said its word over the years without me realizing it. And if you ask me if I love her, the answer is more than clear. So don't make the wrong conclusion that you are not loved. Love is not bought with gifts. There are many more real things that speak of love. For example, support in difficult times, trust, respect and more. Judge his love by the real things, not by the gifts. There are many more real things that speak of love. For example, support in difficult times, trust, respect and more. Judge his love by the real things, not by the gifts. There are many more real things that speak of love. For example, support in difficult times, trust, respect and more. Judge his love by the real things, not by the gifts.
He tests you. And it will continue for a long time. He sees in you something different from the previous ones and feels you very strongly.
He had tested her ... Come on, with these tests and exams, the "examiner" usually insults himself because he is supposed to be very "clairvoyant". Girl, it's obvious you're not getting what you need as attention and attitude. You obviously don't feel happy with this man. From where to where I will blink non-stop for my ex or it will not calm you down when it hurts you in some way. Talk to him about these issues, see how he will react and whether it will have any effect. If not, you better leave it and not suffer like that!