I Raped Him

   Well, tell him everything you think about him. You say you don't have a sense of humor, so it's normal to be a little bored. Talk to him, give him time, diversify, try new poses, make romantic surprises, dinners, etc. . Try everything possible. If you need to take a break, do not see each other for a while or write to each other. If that doesn't help, then it's not your man.

   You're just a stupid sheep :)

   The problem is in your head, not in the person ... Look for mistakes in yourself, you are hardly perfect! F, 20

   Hello, you know yourself - "criteria". If you want to be well, you have to be with someone with whom you have electricity, nothing else. Otherwise, you can see for yourself that you are getting nowhere.

   I don't carve people you are with someone by force. Whatever the reason.

   Maybe he's just not the man for you. Precisely because you're 30, you should tell him it's over. They will not be better now that things are not going well in 2-3 years. See which criteria you can reduce-> I don't think appearance is the most important thing. I look good, but for me it's not important that the man next to me looks wow, but just that I like him. But I can't accept an unambitious man or a man I don't feel good with. Of course this in my personal opinion. See what you can improve in yourself - whether you can look better, whether you can go to new places, make more friends and meet more people and have more choice.

   In 30 years, haven't you realized that it's obviously not enough for him to be smart, handsome and fuck you hard? When I listen to you, you need a cheerful extrovert, and you stopped at a dry introvert. Arrange your criteria when choosing a man or stay alone, but do not waste your own and other people's time. And why the hell are you sitting with someone you don't like for 3 months now? !!

   You are almost 30! You know what you want and I don't understand why you waste valuable time and energy on a person who doesn't make you feel good in the beginning, what's left if you stay longer. Have dignity and tell him that things are not going the way you want. A relationship of just one stubbornness to keep someone by your side does not bring anything good. You're just torturing yourself!

   I just didn't understand if a gun was resting on your forehead? You will not die if you are left alone to find out what you want. If you are not good with someone, just be honest with them and with yourself. Do you need a connection in front of people, for what ?! If it's your status - engaged, married ... go. And then you will write how unhappy you are on the forums. But we have nothing to do.

   "Снощи ме изпрати и ми каза "И днес се разминах със секса". Идеята беше, че първо го поканих вкъщи, после отмених срещата вкъщи и предложих да е на заведение. Какво значи това? ! " - Това значи, че когато мъжа е млад има силно желание за интимност и проявява инициативност към жените. Те обаче проявяват глупашко поведение и се дърпат, отказват, играят игри и го карат да страда емоционално в следствие на което желанието му силно намалява или изчезва. Нали знаеш как се казва за малките момченца когато видят нещо и го искат, примерно нещо за хапване, казва се - не му отказвай, да не му стане нещо. Ето с глупашките си претенции, сравняване и т. н. много жени нарушават това правило и либидото на мъжете изчезва, на тях "нещо им става", става им това, че разочарованието от женското поведение води до това желанието за секс да изчезне, защото това желание в миналото е водило до разочарования и психологически дискомфорт а тялото е създадено да оцелява и ако някаква функция дори да е толкова първична като секса и създаването на поколение застрашава оцеляването на тялото то тя трябва да бъде потисната. Когато жените се държат по такъв елементарен начин, от себичност или да се чувстват важни и специални и си позволяват да разочароват мъже които са заинтересовани от тях те масово прецакват това което е природно заложено у мъжете - инстинкта за възпроизводство. После питат "Какво значи това? ! ". Ето това значи.

   May the train run over you! I do not wish such as you and my enemy ..

   That is, according to number 11, women should not deny any man, so as not to fuck his instinct to procreate. Clever! How could I not have imagined that humanity would perish if I did not respond to the aspirations of my drunken neighbor, who breathed sweat, barrels and dirty linen? !! What troubles have I caused by refusing to sleep with my dumbest fellow student? And how did I "disappoint" the poor rich boy, who disgusted me with his consumerist thinking that he deserved everything? And so on ... Men are good at scattering seeds everywhere, but we are the ones who choose "mat'ryala", if you understand me, 11. It is natural to have claims, to compare, to reject or approve. What are you, is it all you who will become the mother of your children? Or so as not to disappoint her and, you see, to lose her libido and ability to give birth, will you go to bed with the ugliest idiot in your environment? Don't bother answering, the questions are rhetorical. To the author now. My girl, I see myself in you 18 years ago. Then our first meetings with my ex-husband began. Boredom, boredom, boredom, I tell you, sister! Sex - if this rocking back and forth could be called sex - only if I take the initiative. And always the same scenario: kisses on the couch, then a timid unbuttoning of the bra, then in bed, the missionary, and finally, if you will believe me, he called me "Your Thanksgiving." Tragedy! Otherwise tall, well-built, representative, highly educated, computer specialist, earns well ... What's more - all my mothers, grandmothers, uncles and cousins ​​were jealous - can you want it, ma? !! And I married him. 10 years of boredom and 10 years - no sex. After I said yes in the civil, my husband decided that sex was no longer needed. We don't have children, as you can guess. We ended all social life. At the end of our marriage, there was no one to invite to my birthday. After I thought that my hymen had healed and I had lost all my friends, my second husband appeared and quickly reminded me how a man should actually behave with a woman. I divorced without hesitation, married my lover and never regretted it. Yes, I don't have that standard (if that word is used to denote money, cars and five-star vacations), but I don't need it, because by "standard" I mean the degree of life satisfaction, for which a lot of money is often even interfere. We live wonderfully and wonderfully with my second husband. His hand is constantly under my skirt - I don't know how many years anymore (for us time has simply stopped). We expose ourselves in public places because, as usual, he strokes my ass in front of people. There is almost no day when we do not make love. I thought I would be happy for a few years and then we would become a "normal" family. There is no such movie! He is becoming more and more inventive, but the important thing is different. Namely: when there is passion between the two, a strong emotional connection, a powerful erotic potential - this is the energy that drives all other aspects of their lives. We have become more successful in our professions, we have started to achieve goals we never dreamed of, we have grown as individuals, we have become more motivated, more balanced and tolerant of others. Happiness attracts. People are happy to communicate with us, our home is full of friends, especially in the winter almost every night we are either at the theater, or at a concert or dinner with company. So, author, my advice to you is from personal experience - look for yourself! If you do not recognize your own emotionality and soul in the person on the other side, he is not the man for you. Your chosen one must be your mirror - if you look at it, to see yourself: the reflection of your own desires, thoughts, dreams and hopes; if you touch it, its warmth will penetrate to your heart, and your knees will soften. Believe me, the rest will work out like a magic wand. I wish you happiness! If you do not recognize your own emotionality and soul in the person on the other side, he is not the man for you. Your chosen one must be your mirror - if you look at it, to see yourself: the reflection of your own desires, thoughts, dreams and hopes; if you touch it, its warmth will penetrate to your heart, and your knees will soften. Believe me, the rest will work out like a magic wand. I wish you happiness! If you do not recognize your own emotionality and soul in the person on the other side, he is not the man for you. Your chosen one must be your mirror - if you look at it, to see yourself: the reflection of your own desires, thoughts, dreams and hopes; if you touch it, its warmth will penetrate to your heart, and your knees will soften. Believe me, the rest will work out like a magic wand. I wish you happiness!

   Number 11, cruel comment, I was overjoyed!

   You're just not in love. That's it. And such relationships don't end well, they may not end, you just won't be happy in the full sense of the word, even now. For me, such a connection is meaningless. Staring at physical beauty speaks ill of you. First, that you are very excited, that is, character, mind, etc. the person does not care much, the important thing is to be with the handsome man around (and after 10 years there may be nothing beautiful in him, aging is a matter of gene ), interests, values, etc. of the same person remain in second place (definitely showed that they are excited about physics). Sex-well, darling, the lady on the spot will not want a sexual athlete, but she will challenge the handsome man to give the best of himself ... So think about it ... This is done by two, not one, you you are not with a gigolo after all, but with a loved one. Did I say love? That's your problem. that he is not a favorite. That's where all your reproaches come from. If you are smart, leave him and wait for the one who will excite your heart. Love is not an account - so tall, so beautiful, so smart ... and here - I like it. You don't even know what love is.

   There is no attraction ... stop this farce and know that there are terrible matchmakers around you and you pass them. And these things with education are formality paper with printing, they are not the important thing.

   For you is the book "Marry Him" ​​by Lori Gottlieb. Read it! It is also available for free download on the Internet, it is also available on paper. Run a Google search. Success!

   I'm number 11, number 13 - The idea is not to go to bed with everyone. The important thing is to have a human attitude, expressed sympathy for men and not your typical selfish behavior. If you do not want to behave properly then I do not want to listen or read complaints about how you feel unwanted, rejected, offended, etc. because the man you are with has no desire to have sex with you. He has no desire because he has suffered in the past. You do not value sex, love until you lose them, you take them for granted. If you've played any games, if you've intentionally hurt someone, if you've been rude and that has given you pleasure and so boosted your self-esteem, then I don't want to listen to you when it's time to pay to complain.

   Yes, number 16 is right for the matchmakers. I was wasting my time for a whole two years, and I doubted a boy who had great sex, and I could have found out a year ago, but I found out three months ago. Sometimes we spend too much time on the wrong people, and I'm sure you've recently cut off someone with whom you would probably have stronger experiences than now.