I Saw Him After 15 Years. And I Can't Stop Thinking About Him

   He loved her - She didn't love him! He dreamed of her - She did not dream of him! He was jealous of her - She was not! He forgot her - She didn't! SIR

   Author, I am a man and as a man, I will tell you - do not deal with this young man ... You have no right to dig into his wound ... Yes ... despite the years it is a wound .. To leave you your first love / whoever says the first love, the first real relationship is remembered / ... even though you haven't had sex with him ... At the moment you are confused, you are hurt by the fact that your marriage is not going well ... but this and another emotion and has nothing to do with feelings for that boy from 1999. / I judge because you have been writing for 15 years, and now we are 2014. / ... You don't even have the right to look for him and dig into his wound ... what do you expect from him ??? to come as a knight on a white horse and play the role of savior from your own confusion? From experience I can say that it hurts a lot when your first love breaks your heart ... The same thing happened to me, but at a later stage. There was also a parallel connection on her part ...

   Look, author, everyone makes mistakes, there are no perfect people. I join number 2 on completing an education if you don't have one and starting to develop. It will just be better for you and you will not depend on anyone. As for the other man, he probably forgot you a long time ago, 15 years is too long. Come on, he forgot hard, but he survived you. Something similar happened to me when I was 21. It wasn't my first love, but it was the strongest I've ever had. We liked each other a lot, but I was quite poor then, and she came from a wealthy family, with an even wealthier friend. I can't say she was a gold digger or anything. On the contrary, she is a wonderful person, smart and intelligent. He just can't take responsibility and loves life more. Exactly 10 years have passed since then, she married her boyfriend, and as much as I knew this was going to happen, I was devastated. It took me 3 years to survive it. It was especially hard for me at first. I thought about her every moment, I constantly dreamed of her, even from time to time I cried alone in the evening. Gradually, however, things calmed down, I overcame it and moved on. We keep in touch now, but only as friends. I'm even glad that nothing happened between us then. We really matched a lot, but over time I realized that we are quite different. that then nothing happened between us. We really matched a lot, but over time I realized that we are quite different. that then nothing happened between us. We really matched a lot, but over time I realized that we are quite different.

   Well, number two, if fate still decides to meet them again, then what ...? To turn his back on him again, to part like strangers?

   Women cannot behave with dignity. When you don't get along with your husband, when you don't have sex and don't understand each other, separate, not spit on him. You made a choice. He dumped him, he won't even pay attention to you, he can play with you, but he won't respect you, because obviously you were frivolous even then and that doesn't change over the years, he probably knows it.

   Number 2 said it to himself. I am far from your age and experience, but I have been and still am in a similar situation. I didn't want her that much, and she wanted me very much. After a while I realized that I had made a serious mistake and now I am sorry. But I choose not to interfere anymore. There is nothing more to do with your husband. Take the child and catch him somewhere. You are still young, you have time, but if you wait another 5-6 years it will be very difficult. You live a life, don't waste it! Good luck.

   Crazy work, obviously the first love doesn't rust ... And was it love with you? ...

   I think you're just tired of your current situation. This is not love.

   My girlfriend left me 2 months ago, for some reason like yours. If after 15 years he tells me that he regrets it and asks us to be together again. Beating this woman to kill her won't make me angry. Going back to your problem. I guess you are currently sorry for what you did 15 years ago and you think that if you had not done so in time you would have been happier with him, because the best seas are unpaved and the best roads are impassable, but no one he knows this, it could have been worse with him. You have fallen into this state because you are not doing well in life at the moment and you are looking for the problem in your previous decisions and the most important decision is this separation. What can be done after this hour. Mistakes, mistakes are made by man. You can see if he is bound in a facebook and add him and talk to him, but in order to be accepted, he must either be a very great man of God (a prophet) or a very fallen type (tramp). That after 15 years to get together and live happily is no longer in Indian movies. I tell you to add it because after another 15 years you can regret why you didn't add it :) It will be easier for you, but he will say to himself, eh, did you see I was right at the time, he shouldn't have left me now she came back to me again, but this time I'll dump her (I make it up). And to think about him all the time, I think, is because you have known him for a long time and you know what kind of person he is and you can trust him, and you are sure that you want to be with a man like him, especially if he has proven himself. the man has a good profession, a car. but in order to receive you, you must either be a very great man of God (a prophet) or a very fallen type (tramp). That after 15 years to get together and live happily is no longer in Indian movies. I tell you to add it because after another 15 years you can regret why you didn't add it :) It will be easier for you, but he will say to himself, eh, did you see I was right at the time, he shouldn't have left me now she came back to me again, but this time I'll dump her (I make it up). And to think about him all the time, I think, is because you have known him for a long time and you know what kind of person he is and you can trust him, and you are sure that you want to be with a man like him, especially if he has proven himself. the man has a good profession, a car. but in order to receive you, you must either be a very great man of God (a prophet) or a very fallen type (tramp). That after 15 years to get together and live happily is no longer in Indian movies. I tell you to add it because after another 15 years you can regret why you didn't add it :) It will be easier for you, but he will say to himself, eh, did you see I was right at the time, he shouldn't have left me now she came back to me again, but this time I'll dump her (I make it up). And to think about him all the time, I think, is because you have known him for a long time and you know what kind of person he is and you can trust him, and you are sure that you want to be with a man like him, especially if he has proven himself. the man has a good profession, a car. That in 15 years to get together and live happily is no longer in Indian movies. I tell you to add it because after another 15 years you can regret why you didn't add it :) It will be easier for you, but he will say to himself, eh, did you see I was right at the time, he shouldn't have left me now she came back to me again, but this time I'll dump her (I make it up). And to think about him all the time, I think, is because you have known him for a long time and you know what kind of person he is and you can trust him, and you are sure that you want to be with a man like him, especially if he has proven himself. the man has a good profession, a car. That after 15 years to get together and live happily is no longer in Indian movies. I tell you to add it because after another 15 years you can regret why you didn't add it :) It will be easier for you, but he will say to himself, eh, did you see I was right at the time, he shouldn't have left me now she came back to me again, but this time I'll dump her (I make it up). And to think about him all the time, I think, is because you have known him for a long time and you know what kind of person he is and you can trust him, and you are sure that you want to be with a man like him, especially if he has proven himself. the man has a good profession, a car. hem he will say eee if he saw I was right at the time he should not have left me now he came back to me again, but this time I will dump her (I think). And to think about him all the time, I think, is because you have known him for a long time and you know what kind of person he is and you can trust him, and you are sure that you want to be with a man like him, especially if he has proven himself. the man has a good profession, a car. hem he will say eee if he saw I was right at the time he should not have left me now he came back to me again, but this time I will dump her (I think). And to think about him all the time, I think, is because you have known him for a long time and you know what kind of person he is and you can trust him, and you are sure that you want to be with a man like him, especially if he has proven himself. the man has a good profession, a car.

   Thanks to everyone for the opinions, I'm not looking for understanding ... I can't understand it! Number 2 you described me very correctly, it's really just for me Just to say - I have an education (more than I needed), it's my mania. I have a university degree plus 2 more master's degrees and a 3rd degree. I have always studied languages! My work is quite good for our native Bulgaria (and as a payment is not bad), but with 1200-1400 BGN I do not think I can support myself and the child rent, bills, heating, loan and running costs, Yes, I had opportunity for a better paid job, but it does not suit me to see my child once every 2-3 days and to be rotten, and if we are alone working hours will be very important to me .. I do not know if I cared then, we were so young I was interested, I wanted to try new things, I couldn't end my life with him, but somehow subconsciously I always knew he was the best boy in my life. Then 15 years ago, He gave me something (no value to emphasize !! not more than 4-5 BGN, say), which I have always kept, to this day, without which I did not take the exam, I did not go to an important meeting ( I talk at work), it became my mascot (no matter how much I don't believe in it) and so on until now. So from there comes my question (to myself) why exactly how it happened, and then I received many other gifts, expensive, stylish ... the author as a talisman (no matter how much I don't believe it) and so on until now. So from there comes my question (to myself) why exactly how it happened, and then I received many other gifts, expensive, stylish ... the author as a talisman (no matter how much I don't believe it) and so on until now. So from there comes my question (to myself) why exactly how it happened, and then I received many other gifts, expensive, stylish ... the author

   Author, I am №2 ....... I am a man of 30 years ... Despite the whole crisis of your marriage ... FOR GOD: TRY AT LEAST TO GIVE YOURSELF A SECOND CHANCE with YOUR HUSBAND ... HE IS father of your child .... You didn't care how he treated the child? Is he caring? Does he love you does he respect you at least? Ask him directly about the reasons he does not want you .... This is not normal ... Apparently he has a mistress .... Have you not cheated on him in the past? Is he angry with you? ask him directly about how he feels about you at all. Do you want to split up? ask the question about the lack of sex in your marriage .... Try at least as much as it depends on you to give a second chance to your marriage ... It will be easiest for you to cheat on him .... But in this situation, this it will break your marriage rather than strengthen it ... Especially if your husband finds out? I'm asking you again did you cheat on him? Isn't that the reason for him to stay away from you ... To kind of punish you by demonstrating indifference .... You don't say how and why this situation came about? how old is your child If you have relatives nearby / grandparents / leave the child for one day or another and try to have a serious conversation with your husband. this knot ... but try something, not give up ... Give yourself a chance .... With a new man you have no guarantee that it will be better ... find out what is bothering your husband and why he does not want you as woman ... even though I'm a man I advise you to ask him directly that this way he can no longer deprive you of sex ... that in this situation you will look for sex outside, with a third person, with another man, you will find lover ..... Tell him, because at least he gives you an explanation, why he does it and why he avoids you ..... this is not normal ... A healthy, straight man up to 40 years of age should have a normal libido / have sex at least twice a day - the morning erection and in the evening when you regurgitate after you put the child to sleep / .... are your problems financial? Try a family counselor ... don't immediately get divorced .... Should you look for a lover ??? I don't know whether to give such advice .... I don't know how your communication in the family is ..... in general I HATE DISAPPOINTMENT! This is a betrayal and a hoax .... But you have some kind of marriage disorder..you don't write anything, why how did it happen ... Do you have any doubts if your husband is cheating? In many cases, female infidelity / unless of course you make the mistake of falling in love with your lover /, in such situations the lack of sex will lead to the healing of the lbraka ... your husband will feel that he is losing you and if he is on the spot he will at least try to keep you next to him ... he will start to enjoy you, to want you, to show you that he wants you ..... BUT ..... In no case DO NOT deal with that boy whose heart he understood 15 years ago .... Forget him ... you have no feelings for him ... as they wrote to you earlier, you just wonder, what would it be like if you were with him ??? I sincerely hope that things will get better with you .... After all, you have a child ... And no one will be a better mother than you for him ... no man, not even the most understanding partner, to accept your child / if we assume that you are divorcing /, he will not be a better father than the biological one ... weight again to create a child, obviously at least at the beginning of the relationship you wanted ...

   You look for a new passion for your life in your memories, which you resurrect yourself ... But that person has already died, killed by you. This new man, I am convinced, has a new life. And it will be very selfish if you want something more from him, from a possible acquaintance. It's not easy for you. But it doesn't make it difficult for him either.

   9, oh yes! After 15 years, she will certainly be very sorry that she has not added it to the "facebook" now! In general - if you are not registered and do not slap all the nonsense there, as if you have not lived at all!

   Girl what are you listening to here these people with their nonsense about love. To give it up and I don't know what else. You are terrible, you are not human. You had to support her to try and see her luck, nothing is known, something may come out. Several times I also sought advice here, but I saw that people are bad, people are envious, no one wants you to find love. When I wrote my story here, everyone jumped on me like a piece of meat and told me no sense, you are small, what do you understand ... so, so, so .... But I said I will not listen to them, these are people who are not in my situation and will never understand it. I tried I didn't give up on the boy I wanted and now you know what? I'm with him. Because I didn't give in to people's talk and rosaries about him not wanting me. Therefore, do not listen to them, but listen to your heart. Add him to Facebook, write to him. There is nothing scary, you know that well. If he wishes, he will answer you. You are not small, I will not teach you. Just try and give love a chance, it costs you nothing. And don't believe all these people in their written nonsense, because you know what is wrong with you and what happened, they haven't experienced it, they don't know ...!

   number 2, the reason for not having sex between us is only me, I did not speak correctly, if you understand that my husband does not want me! About infidelity-I, as I said he was my first man sexually, two years later I cheated out of curiosity to see how it is (I was about 20 years old then) with two different in a short time .. and that's it. The last 11 years I've been absolutely true, even now since I don't want to have sex (since August-September last year) I haven't been with anyone. But I just don't want it, it kind of repulses me for no particular reason. Regarding the child (that's another topic!) He is the most wonderful father I could have imagined. Even if we split up, I would never get in the way of a father-son relationship. He behaves wonderfully with the child, they make men's games, only between them, my son adores him (he is 6 years old). Abe is a dream father. From a baby she looked at him, changed diapers, wore, cried, fed, etc. We understand each other as friends ... in the sense that if someone understood me that there are scandals, screams, hysteria, this is not the case! But there is simply no thrill, sex, caresses, such things ... as if we are best friends, roommates. I don't know how to explain it, did you get an idea, as I wanted to say .. About the infidelity on his part, well, I have no doubt, but he doesn't know anything ... if a person decides, he will always do it. But he is never late for work, calls several times a day to hear how we are, hurries home, never goes out with male friends (and never is!) We go out together the three of us or with other family friends with children, all it still shows me that he wants me sexually, despite my countless refusals, but I don't think he's cheating ... if it was an isolated case, but not to have a systematic mistress. I don't know, I want a thrill, I want an emotion .. maybe we just ran out, we've been together for 15 years .. I was a student, I ran away from us and we lived together, we went through a lot! number 5, I don't think I spat on it !!! I just share and, in general, I have neither written nor can I say anything bad about my husband. On the contrary, he is not a bad person, we respect each other, but something is not going well. number 14, thanks for your understanding! Thank you all for the answers and advice, no matter who understands me and who rebukes! Be happy, because we live a life and it is not worth it from old age or because of the opinion of people not to take risks, not to look for our happiness! I don't think I spat on it !!! I just share and, in general, I have neither written nor can I say anything bad about my husband. On the contrary, he is not a bad person, we respect each other, but something is not going well. number 14, thanks for your understanding! Thank you all for the answers and advice, no matter who understands me and who rebukes! Be happy, because we live a life and it is not worth it from old age or because of the opinion of people not to take risks, not to look for our happiness! I don't think I spat on it !!! I just share and, in general, I have neither written nor can I say anything bad about my husband. On the contrary, he is not a bad person, we respect each other, but something is not going well. number 14, thanks for your understanding! Thank you all for the answers and advice, no matter who understands me and who rebukes! Be happy, because we live a life and it is not worth it from old age or because of the opinion of people not to take risks, not to look for our happiness!

   The months go by, and I feel the same way ... my thoughts are completely overwhelmed by it ... I'm starting to get scared. I am a busy person, I work, I do housework, I am a child, but I still wake up and fall asleep thinking about him. It's all starting to kill me! I'm afraid ... The author

   Hello. I am in a similar situation, but he dumped me a few years ago. I didn't stop thinking about him, I saw him too, but he didn't see me. I wouldn't look for it, but it's different with you. You can at least look for him as an old acquaintance, but for me at least such renewals of forgotten relationships have not been successful. Moreover, you were almost children. You say that when you saw him for the first time in 5 years you didn't feel anything, maybe then your marriage was happier. Maybe you really lack emotion and falling in love and you are currently associating them with him. This boredom in marriage we all know is happening, but sometimes things turn around. Good luck and write again what's going on :)

   Ugh, not to judge you, but I was very sick. A wonderful father, etc., most likely still loves you or loved you at least in the beginning, and you hoped for two strangers, is so out of curiosity.

   I still feel that way ... now I looked when I wrote (9 months ago), and my obsession with it only intensifies. there is not a day that I don't think about him, I don't want him. I saw him a few more times after that and each time I go even crazier. I'm already thinking about seeking some help from a psychologist ... I can't live like this ..

   To the author, well, you ran away from the one you're writing with now, that you want to try again .. You're just a person who periodically needs "thrill, emotion, new fucking, ah, but to look at you with THAT look , but to put your hand between your legs in a certain way, ... and so on until the next one - right ?! It doesn't matter who is a good father, who is looking for you, how he behaves, etc. - you are just that type of person - you don't need a man next to you all the time, because anyone will get to this situation! It is best to listen to the person who tells you to become more financially secure and live alone, change your men and the thrills and butterflies respectively and look after your child and your life! m. 35