I know my story will seem silly to many people, but I need advice. I'm an 18-year-old girl who was killed by loneliness and doesn't know how to get out of the situation she got herself into. To begin with, I have suffered many losses in my life since I was very young. I faced death and illness, and some wonderful people who did not deserve it at all, including my father. I was a smiling and radiant girl that everyone liked with a lot of talent and success and now I am a wreck. I had good friends, but then I came across people's malice and suffered a lot of humiliation because I was shy and quiet, which made me withdraw from everyone. I need real friends. I have been through so many things that I am no longer afraid of anything but loneliness! Please if anyone raebera give me advice.
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I understand you perfectly, but ... I can't give you advice, because I need one myself :( If you want to give us a Skype to talk, we can find a common language!
I'm so sorry about your father and everything you had to endure. But don't give up, look ahead and get rid of your fear. If you can do that, you will see that there is life. Just imagine that when a small child falls and hits himself, he cries, but then he is careful and in time even forgets, and does not constantly crawl on the ground because he is afraid.
The solution is to find a new environment. You are 18 years old, you probably graduated this year or you will graduate high school. Apply, go to university, make new friends. Try to shake off your shyness and accept the youthful way of life. It's not that hard. Read !!! There is no better university than books. They are good friends and good teachers. You can learn many things from them, including how to shake off your fears and painful shyness. Remember that most of the things written in them are something regular, these are not just fictional stories, these are things from life. The sooner you learn to see them as something natural, the better. Learn to accept them and not live in a fictional world of restraints, fears, scruples. Of course, do not exceed the norms of decency, do not run to the other extreme. There are things that should not be done, and if you allow yourself to get yourself into new trouble: drink, but never get drunk, if you can not refrain from smoking, but have moderation; flirt with boyfriends, but choose peers and never engaged men. Be careful to look beautiful, think about what you can do for this purpose. That's why you don't need God knows what efforts and means when you are 18. The words you have to remember are FEMININITY and STYLE. Follow these two rules and you will be preferred in most cases. You are probably beautiful anyway, but there is always something to do to catch the eye. This is important at your age !!! A sense of humor is also important. Make fun of yourself and do not allow yourself to ironize others, you will not succeed. Do not engage in gossip and do not become a soulmate of beautiful and frivolous friends. By no means stop looking for friends, entertainment and hobbies. Travel, sign up for dancing, in a foreign language, for painting, for .... everything that is interesting to you and you are given (or maybe not so much to you) You will see that you will find friends and kindred spirits . The troubles of previous years are over, live for your father, he would like that! Just don't lock yourself in your room, FOR NOTHING IN THE WORLD !!! he would like that! Just don't lock yourself in your room, FOR NOTHING IN THE WORLD !!! he would like that! Just don't lock yourself in your room, FOR NOTHING IN THE WORLD !!!
Thanks №1! My skype is diqna_nikolova I really need help so I will be happy if you write to me.
Hello darling, I understand you very well, but I will regret one thing, never give up after you have reached here, and you have gone through so many obstacles, you are heroes :) You will not be alone, there will always be people who they will understand you and they will be by your side, you just have to be yourself and remember one thing - when your destiny slams a door in front of your face, go through the window :) My name is Sylvia, if you want to write my email is sil_zan @ abv. bg :)
Don't give up !!! Why are you so desperate? Head up and look ahead, life is so good!
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Dear girl, do not close yourself at home with your pain, because this way you will not overcome loneliness. Go out, look for new friends and I'm sure you will meet friends you can count on and have fun with them. I don't know which city you live in, but if you have a Balkan, walking in the mountains also works very well, relieves stress and charges you with positive energy.
I will tell you one thing from a song: A father on his deathbed gave his son two letters, one to open in grief and the other in success. Not long after, the son had no money and no friends and opened the first letter, and inside it was written - I know what it's like to be poor and to have no one, no terrible son, and that will pass. Not much time passed and fate changed, he won gold and money and had friends, he opened the second letter and it said. Well done son you won everyone they love but from me you know son and it will pass. Everything is up to date and it all depends on you contact yourself.
I went through this, I was 18-19 when loneliness was killing me. The fact is that this goes as number 9 tells you. And for the advice of number 3: what to add, except that it is perfect. You already have an action plan, don't you? He is also seen to have found kindred spirits. And people like me, who are not your age, and twice as old, tell you that they went through the same thing at your age. Now you understand that you are not alone, do you? I wish you many smiles!
Whatever you are, don't go to extremes. I will tell you something from my life, which is much nastier than yours. What people say can hurt or heal. But not only have I had no friends in my life, and I've been lonely wondering, like you, if it makes sense. But I'm enjoying a better life now. As desperate as it is, there is always hope. You just have to squeeze and endure. If you can't see the light, start filling your time with something nice. People are bad for the reason that their eyes are blinded and this is no longer strange because the God of this world is the Devil. I know what you're feeling, but you have to buy the right weather because the days are bad! Scripture predicts that many times of crisis will come. You have to expect it to get harder. My advice to you: you can be alone, but not lonely. Think about it. Then try to gather your thoughts. No matter how much pain you feel, don't lose heart. know that all people suffer.
Life is hard we have to accept it. In the end, everyone stabs you in the back and you will be alone forever. Every happy beginning has a sad ending. That's life.
I'm in the same situation as you. Even worse. A 17-year-old boy
I would give you advice but I can't. After I failed who fought so much I failed to cope with a lot of things sorry for your father. I'm convinced that he was a good man, and don't give up and you'll find a job, you'll just live happily ever after!