Hello friends, I am a 24-year-old girl from a small town, I am married with a 1-year-old child, everything is fine between me and my partner, but I have a problem. I buy a lot of nonsense, I have an obsession with clothes, make-up and beauty salons. It often happens in the morning that I go for a haircut for no reason just to be beautiful, my husband is 10 years older than me and is very responsible. Our scandals are mostly related to my expenses, the minimum I spend per day is 30-40 BGN, the maximum is 200-300, I want to change and not buy things that I don't even carry, but I'm obsessed with HELP!
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Obviously you don't know the value of money. Have you ever worked, had you had to figure out how you were going to spend the month with the money you made, and were you hungry if you didn't have enough? I was hungry at your age. I wrote down all the expenses for the day in a notebook. Otherwise I would not be able to pay my rent and electricity. Stop buying unnecessary clothes and without them they are still the same. And your husband should respect you for what you represent, not for the look you get used to, and the beauty is temporary. Obviously he has no reason to respect you at the moment. It works, and you, standing at home, spend money pointlessly. I just wonder why he gives you money in this situation. I wouldn't give it to you. When you want to buy nonsense, make money first, spend on family support, and then spend it. But a reasonable person saves money,
For a start, take some money or give it to the man to keep it. Well, now my motherhood is 380 leva and I can't imagine a person who spends so much a day on unnecessary things.
Divorce and start supporting yourself. It will come to your mind very quickly;)
Yes, you really overspend on nonsense. You don't seem to make the money, so you waste it lightly. You are not a child, but a mother, and you should be more responsible. Impose self-control and make a list and plan of expenses. Set aside more for your child and less for yourself.
Go to a psychotherapist.
Well, you set a budget of about BGN 20 per day and more money should not reach you. If your husband makes them, he won't give you more than that. If you make money too - you give them all to him at the end of the month or there when you receive them. And done! Try it and if you are not "beautiful" for a week, what will happen? You will hardly die from this ...
I want to have your husband !!! Believe me, if you have nowhere to get them - you have not made them or there is no one to give them to you, you have nothing to spend. I have been "growing" myself for 8 years. I give for home, for consumables, for the car, for food.
It is possible that this excessive shopping is an attempt to compensate for another shortage. Think about what you miss.
Everyone settles down according to their rug, having you spend.
If you want, stop going to the shops and looking at catalogs. Is it a catalog - crush and throw! The ads should make you sick. Call any ad nasty and then turn off the TV. Think of a way to spend your day. Knit, embroider, lift bars, set an example for the child, nothing that is small. Read books to save, there are also lectures on YouTube, if you are lazy, but with less effect. suitable book: "money or life"
Towards 8: She lacks attention. It's obviously simple.
I have the same problem, with the difference that the money is mine and I make it completely on my own. I was very miserable during my student years and I really counted my pennies. I have enough now, but I can't stop spending. Any advice, numbers 1 and 4?
Drive like this and I feel how very soon your problem will be solved, when you will spend what you earned yourself, as the others have already hinted to you :) Bakhti is the funny topic. I don't know how to help you. Should we come and punch you the next time you go spending money you didn't even make?
The problem for you is not really your money. They are just pieces of paper that come easily but also go easily. A moderately intelligent person has long realized this and knows how to make enough "paper". Your real problem is that you are mediocre. An absolute product of your sent environment. And the saddest thing is that there are many like you. Too much ... That you watch children too ...
When I'm a mother, no one gives me money to spend, I spend what I have, just if you don't have money, you won't spend it. I also like the author's husband, not that I want someone to support me, but a little help is not bad ...