We are not the first youth, in the 40s. We've been married recently and I think happily, but we've been together long before that. When we are alone, it's great, we love each other a lot and we constantly show and prove it to each other. But when we are in the company of the godparents - there is a special fire in his eyes, and as if in hers. The godmother is one of my best friends, she is by no means a beauty, but she is a charmer. I can't judge what exactly worries me, some meaningful phrases from both of them, for example a question: should I give you a fire; Answer: it's high time for me, since when did it go out ... Word play, there are so many, I can't tell them all, but a lump is stuck in my throat ... I can imagine and go crazy, but I also have bitter experience - twenty years ago my boyfriend married my best friend. My husband told me in front of me how much he loves her, I also love my godfather and her madly. But there is something in the air, I feel it with my senses ... Am I going crazy Can I be so primitive in my thoughts? How to check, give advice! Whether there is anything or not - in both cases I am a fool!
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You are imagining. If there was something, you are the last person in front of whom they will show it, let alone make hints.
Don't be a fool, just be on the alert but don't go overboard with paranoia. Act like you don't notice anything. Abe was a very dirty people, how can she flirt with your husband like that? Eeee, it's okay, it's okay ... If you have to limit your contacts with them, I know ....
Don't worry about the honey, there may be no more.
In my opinion, they flirt openly, and if you tell them something, they will start denying and accusing you. Keep one thing in mind and avoid gathering them together - where there is smoke ... there is fire
I didn't understand that about pooping in honey!
My opinion is that there is some thrill between them, but it is not something serious. Just some flirtation that will grow into one-time sex at most. Unfortunately, you sound like a strictly monogamous woman to me. Multigamous women should look for monogamous sponges, which are very rare.
To me it is ... a play on words, a joke, a joke, however ... At best it is a fat, rural joke. If they are this type of people, deep provincialists - this is a widely accepted way to move the atmosphere and it is forgivable. However, if there is a fire in the eyes, nonsense and embarrassing gestures, signs - then in addition to the fact that the two villagers are lost - they are also outspoken idiots :) Everything has its limits and when it starts to kill uncleanly - you can not keep quiet. Talk to your godmother to stop "going out" because it's dumb. Say absolutely nothing to your husband. Let me give you an example. My divorced cousin, who is an absolute crook and doesn't get along with men, had never shown anything to my husband. He didn't even like it so much that he advised me not to get married. Their antipathies were mutual. After I do not know how many months, however, the dry suddenly "noticed" my husband and showed it twice, some slight flirtation. I was silent. But when one day she praised him in front of me that she was very happy with how he helped her edit a file and "started falling in love with it" - I told her that she was already overdoing it and it was unpleasant. She was embarrassed and stopped. Believe me, such people do not feel until the end and still hope that things in front of others will go "in the circle of jokes." But if you show them that their ass is shiny - they quickly take each other in their arms and suffocate. such people do not feel until the end and always hope that things in front of others will pass "in the circle of jokes". But if you show them that their ass is shiny - they quickly take each other in their arms and suffocate. such people do not feel until the end and always hope that things in front of others will pass "in the circle of jokes". But if you show them that their ass is shiny - they quickly take each other in their arms and suffocate.
There is a dump, I don't know about anything else
Steamed porridge spirit and I understand you. There are people who just behave like that, without putting anything into their words. True, female intuition is very strong, but you have to understand whether it is self-suggestion or there is a reason for it. I remember once my husband and I were visiting my close friend's husband. She went to the toilet, and he asked her, "Where did he run to?" It has happened to me that I have been reprimanded for being too "intimate" with a family friend - the man had barley on his eye and I offered him a drop of drops. Well, sometimes a person does not feel - he wants to be polite, but on the other hand is accepted as a flirtation. Try to tell your husband that you are uncomfortable. It can have an effect. Maybe you're really imagining and there's nothing. If you are close,
I think number one is right. It will be scary if the hints suddenly stop.
If there was something, they would be indifferent or pretend not to like each other. There may be some sympathy between them, but it is hardly anything more. I'm also with my best friend's husband. I like him very much and when I see him I can talk to him all sorts of nonsense, but I can't even imagine anything more between us. I'd rather eat my hand. Don't bother with nonsense. Life is too short.
I want to tell you that it's the same with us - I get along much better with my godson, we both hang out, we fit in, but that's it ... My husband and his wife are more withdrawn, more special that's why it happens. I don't think you should worry about any feelings between them, but he definitely feels good in her company, and that's not a bad thing. However, watch, you never know where the bunny will jump from ..
Familiar story. I've been this way. You don't imagine at all, but you do well not to ignore the signs. I also thought I was insured against infidelity - it turned out I wasn't. Unfortunately, I realized too late that everything was happening before my eyes. Talk to both of you separately until it's too late. If things continue, you will lose a good friendship, trust and respect. I do not recommend it. It's awful. Good luck.
lol are you okay Once the author feels it, then there is something! Why not worry when you are with another company? I'm not saying that something happened between them, but that maybe there is some attraction that is not normal for me! It can get worse if you open your mouth that you feel something like that and you are uncomfortable .. I don't know, I'm 24 and I don't keep quiet about these things, I feel them very well .. I think it's your fault girlfriend .. how can she flirt with your husband? !? these men do not feel so much and may not understand what we are talking about .. but women are cunning and do everything and speak with an absolutely clear thought and purpose! I hate women who put pressure on committed men because they think that their wife doesn't deserve them and that they are better than her and they only do it to raise their self-esteem ... And there are so many of them ... Interrupt their play on words, let it become clear to her that your husband is not her job .. at least from what I read .. he asks her normally, she answers as if it were the initial line from an erotic movie ... oh , I am getting angry! :) thinks the author, but don't let them make their own ... And you are not the first such case - an acquaintance of mine, at my age, got married recently and her husband and godmother are in the same way .. she even sat in his lap, they heard each other all the time ... and my acquaintance, like you, is silent and doesn't know what to say ...
Ah, I'm from the comment above. You don't have to 'check' anything at all. Trust your instincts - they do not lie. After 1 year of experience with nonsense, I learned to understand without 'checking' at all. If you go to 'check' and gather evidence, it will get even worse. TRUST ME. It's not too late, but if things start - it becomes very difficult. Try it well, for now it seems to me only a hobby, but you have to be 'firm' and not succumb to talk and suggestion. There will be leprosy like - 'you suggest', 'you're crazy', 'there's no such thing' - don't give up. Tell yourself how you see them and understand things - explain that this will not lead to anything good - ask yours, as he lacks in your relationship, that he is looking for him in another, if necessary, relax in bed, talk to the godmother, do not be idle. If they are smart, they will realize, if not - there will be dandania. Good luck.
There are women with a very strong intuition ... the author may be one of them. For example, I always, but always feel when something happens between two people. I have girlfriends who also don't miss these things. Women are by nature intuitive beings and we sense things that are lost to men and in most cases we are completely right. I say again, I hope in this case it is not so and the author has a happy and fulfilling life with her husband! :) Doriana
a few months ago we were invited as godparents of a young family, a couple we have known for 3-4 years. As soon as the girl met my husband, I felt that flame in her eyes. She never failed to send him greetings, to ask how he was, I indirectly felt her interest in him and all this for several years. He was the one who asked me to refuse, showing me an extremely vulgar text message in which she openly told him that she had no restraints in sex and could have it whenever she wanted. Well, too close in these relationships should always be treated as a signal of something suspicious.
Author: Do you know a saying "tell yourself the truth so they won't believe you". I think in the form of a joke they say serious no, but "possible" things. Yes, the saga is done in front of me, but it has to start somewhere; maybe if they stop looking at each other and talking this way I will worry more, it will be too late !!! God, can I stumble on the same stone twice? !!
Do your best not to meet so often. Talk to your husband frankly, tell him that you don't like these insinuations and make him comply with his words and actions .... the joke is a joke, but there are limits. I hope they don't cross them.
What I would do ... get involved in the jokes and start a new line of behavior - why not a swing? Jokes and jokes allow you to provoke with impunity. Given the way the author expresses herself, I don't believe that her partner is a wild peasant ... rather, you communicate at a high level and such hints are an indirect way to tell you about what is happening. React. 4th to share a bed, would it be a compromise for you or would you accept it as an interesting experiment? If you are inclined to break the situation, you need a very drunken evening and no preliminary conversations. If there is an exchange of partners, you can tell your husband that this is a gesture to him ... I hope you appreciate him, without, of course, pushing him.
To number 20 - great advice! It is just as adequate for a person with a broken leg to break the plaster with an ax.
Keep in mind that when you read comments and tips here, they are from people with some bad experience and something bad has happened to them. Women felt - we feel men too, or rather they all see different things. Don't make an elephant out of a fly.
number 20 are you normal ???
The author at №20: I can't imagine the four of us having sex, I'm even shaking! I have always distinguished friends from lovers. Besides, I love my husband, I have no desire to do it with others (much less with my godfather, who is a real friend of mine, it has been proven over the years !!!) nor do I plan to share it with anyone else, and at least with the godmother. I'm not a narrow-minded person, I accept orgies - they are for young people who are now learning about the world and want to try everything, but these years I do not know what we will surprise each other so much in sex. I love him, that's it, and I don't think there's a third or fourth person between us. Many thanks to everyone for the advice and opinions - they are very useful to me and I have decided to keep my love and marriage even at the cost of losing a 20-year friendship. If they start drooling like that again, I intend to suggest to them that such rural humor is inherent in people from other strata of society and speaks of a lack of good taste and class. I hope this works, because they are both not very proud of their origins. What do you think, isn't it too much?
From: 20 I understand you well, that's why I asked - people are different and everyone has a different tolerance threshold. You are very confident and determined to keep your marriage - I admire you! Be cunning, it is in a woman's nature to maneuver. Rough attacks and remarks will most likely be interpreted as a weakness on your part ... as an act of despair dictated by your fears. Don't afford it! It is unworthy for you to get into their tone and jokes, but it will be sadder if you become evil and sarcastic. Divide and rule - first a conversation with the godmother, in a feminine way ... if necessary with the godmother, but not direct remarks. Any more specific advice will be inadequate - I do not know exactly what relationship you are in. You alone know best how to approach, but keep your level.
"nor do I intend to share it with any other," I regret, but in spite of all my pretensions you are deeply primitive. "I'm not a narrow-minded person," - quite the opposite. "I intend to suggest to them that such rural humor is inherent in people from other walks of life and speaks of a lack of good taste and class. I hope this works because they are both not very proud of their background." the above. Laugh. You took yourself too seriously. The principles of life are not like that. You will be deeply shocked, disappointed and hurt by this thinking.
Number 26, and who are you and what are you, God?
Next to the author - number 26 is hellishly rude and extreme, but she is right in one thing - try to save yourself hints that will make you look mean or will lower you to their level. This will only hurt yourself, and they will feel like happy angels, chased by a devil. The important thing in the situation is to keep your dignity, otherwise nothing good is waiting for you, and as a cover you will see in yourself in the worst light. So listen to me, just ask your godmother in private to be more moderate in the future, because she has upset you a lot and you do not want what is nested between you to harm your friendship. You will see that if she is naughty - she will not only stop, but will greatly reduce contact with you, because it will be uncomfortable that you have always felt her unhealthy interest.
number 26 do not try to impose your opinion .. to say what were the principles of life .. everyone determines them. you accuse the author of being primitive because she doesn't want to share her boyfriend, and I deeply doubt that she would accuse you of organizing group orgies .. To the author - what you have in mind is a bit rude indeed .. at most to unite them .. go directly, I have commented above (14th comment) Talk to your godmother or both, but separately. Tell her "but you're probably messing with my husband, aren't you?"
"I intend to suggest to them that such rural humor is inherent in people from other walks of life and speaks of a lack of good taste and class." That's not what you're saying. I can't explain why, but it doesn't sound good. That would be said by a child or a lady from the aristocracy around the 18th century :)
29, I'm not blaming anyone, I'm just stating a fact. The principles of life are the same for everyone and are perceived, not determined by someone. Whoever tries to define them is guaranteed to end up deeply disappointed, depressed and with a crushed ego. Unfortunately, the author has taken this path. Do not doubt at all that the author, although the very perfection in her own eyes, has strangled to death her husband, who, the poor man, finds a pale moral consolation in this - innocently teasing their godmother. Who am I? Well, a man like all of you, maybe a little more aware of things. And no - I don't have orgies, and although I don't mind - I just don't care. And the author's torments seem to me like a child's quarrel over some kind of Chinese garbage toy, connected with roars, tears and thoughts about the end of the world. To all, who will again start slandering and criticizing - you will become like me, not me like you. I have already been like you. The question is how much fight and suffering you will endure until then ...
From the author: №26, I don't consider myself perfect, I think you have a bigger problem than mine - you haven't met the person you don't want to share with others. And as I understand from your evil words towards me - you can't stand that others have met him! In the end, I shared with you one of my doubts and asked for advice from people who have experienced something similar. And for №26 it is certain that he is not able to give such advice, because true love accidentally forgot to visit him! Thanks to the others - it's really stupid to get bile, I'm sorry I thought so. I hope there is nothing between them, in any case your opinions will be useful to me.
Number 31, if she'd been through these things before and she was smarter, you wouldn't even mention the nonsense that a woman strangled her husband. These are cheap and on-duty excuses for every fool and dancer who sees only dependence in a relationship and does not feel joy and empathy, but only suffering :)). Plus, as you can see, she's been silent so far, so she's delicate and smart enough. nowhere did I read that she walked like a hen on his heels and grumbled about something. But when things go beyond what is acceptable, it is very foolish to remain indifferent. However, these scenes take place in her own home and can send away any beggar, entrant and guest who digs into her personal belongings or personal life.
Wait a minute, dear readers. The site is anonymous and its purpose is to share your story and get advice, to see different points of view, to read the comments of people very far from you. Everyone carries their own burden ... and our experience and capacity determine our worldview. Why did you attack 26? By sharing our story with a group of strangers, each of us must be prepared to read extreme and even painful opinions. True, it's always easier on the sidelines, but that's what we're here for. To the author, without bad feelings. Don't strain from what you read here, just think about all the options and be bold and true in your decisions - we live once ... maybe. 26, I am interested in only one thing - when he decided that there is absolute truth and universal behavior. Your nature and essence allows you to distance yourself from the flesh and belittle it, without a "infidelity". to hurt you or shake the foundations of your relationship .. fortunately not all the fruits of the tree ripen at the same time. Some are on a fruit tree, others on a bush, others on a large tree, burnt with age - life is very colorful. Don't make him bitter with inappropriate remarks ... not so rude.