Hello, I have been reading stories on this site for a long time. I've written a lot of comments, I've given a lot of advice. I've read at least half of the stories, but I've never had the courage to share what's bothering me. I am a 21-year-old girl, almost 22. Years ago I met a boy from my school. We were together for about 5 years and he dumped me in the lowest way. While we were walking, he had a very strong quarrel with theirs, his father had beaten him. I talked to my parents and we took him home while their relationship improved. He was on the edge, drinking, smoking ... he was failing! My parents and I were the ones who took an interest in him, my mother and father showed me what life was like, we made him continue his education (he had just finished 12th grade). We helped him find a decent job, in a nutshell WE BROUGHT HIM BACK TO LIFE! Finally, after all, what I did for him, after 5 years of love, I can't say perfect, because every couple has their problems, but we supported each other and helped each other, he left me. 1 month after we left, I still didn't love him, and I had the opportunity to leave him, and now not to be interested in which canopy he sleeps in, because that's exactly what would have happened if it weren't for us! That's exactly why I'm writing to you, that's exactly why I shared everything, my question is how can he be so ungrateful!?! How could he dump me with the excuse "I want freedom" ... How 5 years of relationship ended just like that .. why did he dump me for "his freedom" ... I'm tired, now I'm sorry that I helped him and that in the most -difficult for him, me -my parents, moments I did not leave him. And now he looks at me with such hatred that I have ruined my life, not that I have returned it to him. Now that he is a successful man, and has everything that every boy of 19 dreams of having in the future, he is gone. Had he said a thank you, and hugged me just friendly because I saved him from a lifetime of suffering. It depends on him if he will be really happy, but the expensive car, the big house and the 2 villas ... he has it all thanks to me years ago ... I think I deserve at least a little respect from him, thank you. I don't ask him for money, I don't want anything from him. But I will be very happy if he just comes in front of me and admits that he is what he is - because of me, if he comes and smiles and says "Thank you, I will always remember you." .. even that is enough for me. But no, according to him, I don't deserve a smile. CAN HE BE SO UNGRATEFUL!?!?!?! .. If he had said a thank you, and if he had hugged me just friendly because I had saved him from a lifetime of suffering. It depends on him if he will be really happy, but the expensive car, the big house and the 2 villas ... he has it all thanks to me years ago ... I think I deserve at least a little respect from him, thank you. I don't ask him for money, I don't want anything from him. But I will be very happy if he just comes in front of me and admits that he is what he is - because of me, if he comes and smiles and says "Thank you, I will always remember you." .. even that is enough for me. But no, according to him, I don't deserve a smile. CAN HE BE SO UNGRATEFUL!?!?!?! .. If he had said a thank you, and if he had hugged me just friendly because I had saved him from a lifetime of suffering. It depends on him if he will be really happy, but the expensive car, the big house and the 2 villas ... he has it all thanks to me years ago ... I think I deserve at least a little respect from him, thank you. I don't ask him for money, I don't want anything from him. But I will be very happy if he just comes in front of me and admits that he is what he is - because of me, if he comes and smiles and says "Thank you, I will always remember you." .. even that is enough for me. But no, according to him, I don't deserve a smile. CAN HE BE SO UNGRATEFUL!?!?!?! .. he has it all thanks to me years ago ... I think I deserve at least a little respect from him, thank you. I don't ask him for money, I don't want anything from him. But I will be very happy if he just comes in front of me and admits that he is what he is - because of me, if he comes and smiles and says "Thank you, I will always remember you." .. even that is enough for me. But no, according to him, I don't deserve a smile. CAN HE BE SO UNGRATEFUL!?!?!?! .. he has it all thanks to me years ago ... I think I deserve at least a little respect from him, thank you. I don't ask him for money, I don't want anything from him. But I will be very happy if he just comes in front of me and admits that he is what he is - because of me, if he comes and smiles and says "Thank you, I will always remember you." .. even that is enough for me. But no, according to him, I don't deserve a smile. CAN HE BE SO UNGRATEFUL!?!?!?! .. according to him, I don't deserve a smile. CAN HE BE SO UNGRATEFUL!?!?!?! .. according to him, I don't deserve a smile. CAN HE BE SO UNGRATEFUL!?!?!?! ..
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Maybe. An absolute ungrateful. People forget when they were in trouble and how hard it was for them. He had great support then. He is on his feet, thanks to you. And now, like everything ok, what are you for? This is a man without any upbringing and scruples. It's not worth bothering about. Simply put, you don't deserve tears. You deserve much more. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP.
Здравейте, Това, което ни се случва в живота не е случайно. Това успях да проумея на твърде скъсен етап от развитието си - т.е когато вече навлязох в т.нар. зряла възраст. Всеки човек има своите трудни моменти и всеки излиза рано или късно от тях. Аз също преживявах своите трудни моменти и на един етап от развитието си разбрах, че винаги има причина и следствие- твърде елементарно е, но много трудно може да се види точната връзка. В един момент исках да разбера какви са духовните принципи и защо всичко, което ми се случва се случва точно на мен. Четох много книги, запознавах се с принципите на християнството, срещнах по пътя си много чисти и истински духовни хора и разбрах, че Бог никога няма да ни даде нещо повече от това, което можем да носим. Разбрах, че всеки човек си носи кръста. Понякога, когато ни налегне отчаянието си мислим, че сме най-нещастните същества на земята..., но в действителност се оказва, че точно благодарение на това, което ни се е случило сме спечелили страшно много. Какво е полезното в случая за Вас - първо Вие имате разкошни родители, които са до Вас, които са със Вас и никога няма да Ви предадат. Помислете си само - колко хора могат да се похвалят с такива родители? Второ - ако този човек, на когото сте протегнали ръка е толкова чудовищно неблагодарен - истинско щастие е , че се е махнал от Вас. Нищо хубаво не можете да очаквате от този човек, освен предателство, грубост, насилие и неблагодарност. Така и Вие си имате свободата, а щом имате и това състрадателно и добро сърце - Вие ще срещнете подходящите хора, с които наистина ще бъдете щастлива. Най-голямото постижение за вас и душевна полза ще е да забравите за добрините, които сте сторили за този човек. Не съжалявайте за нищо. Бъдете сигурни в духовните принципи - ТЕ ВИНАГИ ДЕЙСТВАТ БЕЗОТКАЗНО. Сторили сте добро - забравете го. Ще бъдете възнаградена д добро. Не мислете за това. Но извлечете поуката - не разчитайте изцяло на хората. Разчитайте на Бог, вярвайте и се уповавайте на волята Божия. И колкото по-малко такива същества като този п"приятел" има около Вас, толкова по-добре. Той ще си получи заслуженото. Рано или късно пак ще стигне до калта. Важното е да не повлече и Вас със себе си. Не се измъчвайте повече за това, опитайте се следвате целите си и мечтите си и не ставайте зла. Запазете невинността и добротата си. Пожелавам Ви много щастие и Успех!
Yes ... he acted very selfishly, but you brought him up to that to some extent, because you fulfilled his every wish (villa, car, house), he got what he needed and he dumped you, you just came across an idiot. But you are not right either, why do you regret that you asked him, after all, you did something good, he may have repaid you for it, but you should be proud of yourself and not apologize !!!
Your story is touching and cruel to you. For him without comment - a man is above all. They find it difficult to say many things, and I love you, thank you, I'm sorry ... His behavior for me personally is hellishly ungrateful. It would be rude to use other stronger words, but I think about them. You really don't deserve what he's doing to you. Raise your head, do not despair, say - fuck it and move forward boldly. Have faith that you will soon meet a man who will appreciate your undoubtedly good features and qualities, will truly love you and will be grateful to you for everything you do for him. And just try to forget this one, even though I'm sure it will be terribly difficult for you. Good luck, darling! Write to me if you wish (I'm 24). :)
Just one thing to ask ... Some time ago, when he was in trouble, did he ask you to take him home and support him, to feed him. Do you educate? Does he ask you or did you take the initiative and invite him to your house? Because if it's the second one, you made it not because he wanted or expected some dividends and thanks, but because you wanted it ... It was good for you ... So don't wait for thanks now ... No I think you're so mercantile that you thought then - now I'll help him make him feel indebted to me all his life ... And I think maybe the first night he was with you, has thanked you and your parents for the gesture ....
Yes! He asked me ... he said "Is it possible for me to sleep with you because they don't want me yet?" I said "understand" and he just smiled .. Even then my mother said: this boy, she could thank me and I lied to her and I said "thank you already." .. with a smile, but then it meant a lot to me .. and now ... I don't know. when he had left, thank you for saying ... nothing more. I am angry that I could have helped people in much greater trouble than this ungrateful person. / the author /
I read a hell of a funny comment here and I couldn't get past it. This is number 2. What is this nonsense. Come on, explain to me who wears what cross, that I don't understand something. Christianity, Islam, Buddhism. Aren't you tired, people? It is very easy to believe in something and wait for things to just happen. There is no such thing, there is no way it can happen. Everyone is what he did for himself, and before that his parents did. Be realistic !!! And I will tell the author not to regret anything. Comment 4 is what I would tell you. Just look ahead. Don't bother about past things. And do you know ... One day he may look for you again. But then will he find the same good girl? Just be careful in the future.
Hmmm ... yes! He really was a jerk! I'm in a similar situation downstairs - I live with my girlfriend, I fight with my parents, I drink and I smoke! But, I leave my story. The thing is, this loser hurt you. You may not be the last! My point of view is different, but the only thing I know is that this type of men build the bad image of the BULGARIAN man. For example, I will never, even if I break up with my girlfriend, insult anyone, let alone look at her blood and her family! Thanks for what you did, it's a pity there was no one to appreciate it! CONGRATULATIONS! I WISH YOU EVERYTHING GOOD!
Well, let me just say that people promise themselves something forever, and it only lasts until they get bored. Unfortunately . . .
Number 2 - Come on, stop with this God !!! Even from a religious point of view - this God has given man REASON !!!! Respectively, the right to choose and its realization !! Otherwise, dear God would not allow wars, murders, etc. So that's enough with these laughs !! On the topic: Dear girl, I have been in a similar situation, but with a very different outcome. I can congratulate you on what you have done for this guy and I advise you not to regret that you did it. And take his attitude as a lesson for the future. And to tell you the truth - not for anything else, but for the priceless years of his life, wasted on various "Lord Nothing"! No one will tell you "Take your 5 (or more) wonderful years and experience them again as you want"! So from now on just be more careful, but no less good person! This guy forgot it, it's not worth wasting even your thoughts on. I am convinced that valuable people like you discover exactly what they deserve and I wish this to happen very soon !! And don't forget, "The whole beauty of the past is that it's past." Holly
...No good deed goes unpunished! In other words - to do good and to eat g * vno ...
Accept my respect for what you did for this boy. BUT! It will be interesting to read his point of view. When a person has difficulty, he accepts help from everyone. This does not mean that he loved you or that he should now thank you with love! And that's exactly what you want. Well it doesn't work! I even think that looking at your blood has its reasons. You complain that he dumped you, and then you say that one thank you is enough. What actually hurts you? I think it's the first, and you can't command your heart. So I excuse the boy and I don't think he's ungrateful! It is not right to expect help to be paid for with love.