There are probably a lot of people who have experienced my type of story, but the details are very special to me and I would be very grateful if you could help me deal with them in the right way. I will not spare words and I will describe everything that torments me and makes me have no desire for anything for most of the day. Some time ago I had a long relationship. After that, I couldn't afford to be with another girl internally, but now the right one appeared. We met in cyberspace. I am from Sofia, she is from Varna. We liked each other a lot. She had a boyfriend at the time, but she was obviously tired of the fact that at one point she only started writing to me, calling, and in a moment we admitted that we wanted to be the two of us and take things seriously. She had to complete her final year of study as a bachelor, to be able to move to Sofia and continue his master's degree here. In general, during the day she went to lectures, then went out for coffee with friends and finally in the evening we talked on the messanger, watched movies, shared things for hours, until finally she literally fell asleep on camera at 2-3 at night. We didn't see each other that often due to the fact that the costs are very high if we want to see each other all the time. We saw each other 1-2 times a month and in most cases I went and rented a hotel for 4-5 days. That seemed to be our only problem at the moment. Despite the distance, we understood each other a lot, we constantly wrote to each other and said nice things that we feel and that we can't wait to be together anymore. It all went on for a few months when I called her one afternoon and she said she wanted to talk to me and suddenly explained, that she wanted to be alone, that she didn't feel me, that she would find me, in the morning while I slept she had talked to her mother and she had told her if she thought she would hurt me, to leave me and things like that. I was in shock ...
A man who, almost every day, explained himself to me in love and spent time, either in writing or orally with me, suddenly told me that he wanted to throw everything away and seek his happiness elsewhere. I felt very bad. So every night I had to choose whether to go out with my friends or wait for her to come home so we could be together .... And what, in the end, because of all the good things I've done for her, she does so with me ... About 1 month later I was constantly looking for her, we talked a lot and it seemed as if the hope came back to me that maybe for the moment she wanted to be alone, but time passed and she did not take up the topic of being together. She kept telling me to find another one and that she wished me luck .... This month passed and suddenly she posted a photo from a Sunday walk with her friend and some new man. He had put a love sticker under the photo. When I saw him and this thing, I just went crazy and told her if it meant wanting to be alone and she directly said, "Are you normal, this is my friend from my company, I can have her friends, not everyone needs to be my boyfriend "Then I fell silent, but the one she said was just a friend became her real boyfriend. A week later, she began to disappear for hours over the weekend from the variety of 15-16 hours did not go online. This never happened, I realized indirectly that there was something. She never told me directly that she was seeing someone else. I called her for an explanation, but she said that I enter her personal space a lot and that she will remove me from friends or block me. I kept asking for answers. She removed me from friends and a few days later I saw a photo from a nightclub - they together with her most formal blouse, with which she was on our first date ... I was in a lot of pain ... Then I realized that this and she's a friend ....
She's just love stickers under every picture and every weekend it is clear that she sleeps with him and they are together all the time ... I can't stop thinking about her .... I can't I believe how she treated me ... I feel so hurt, especially at the thought of her sleeping with him or spending all her time with him. I hate when he sits online and I know he writes to him; she even uploaded some statuses about how happy she was or whether the real thing had to be appreciated. I just can't believe it will take to really fall in love with a man, who is there with her, and I will blow the soup. I follow her when she enters the line, when she gets up, when she goes to bed, I can't stop doing it. If I tell myself that I won't follow her, a few hours pass, I have a nasty feeling of lack or ignorance of what she is doing and I look at her profile again. I can't stop doing it ... Every day for 2 months now I do this. I do not want to do anything. If I find a desire, I find something to do. However, when I see a new photo or status from it on a social network, everything turns to me directly and it's just as if some knives are stuck in me .... She will finish her education in 3 months and will go to a separate apartment; he will probably invite him to live together ... Tell me how he will survive, but when the seas start, the warm season and they start uploading photos all the time, how can I live with the thought, that she is so good and happy while I am tormented and she doesn't care ... I feel that my life without her is terribly boring or maybe because of the lack of any spark for life, he has become like that. You have no idea every day when I wake up that I have the nastiest feeling, where is she, did she get up, are they still sleeping together and she hasn't come in ... You must have felt so disgusting when you woke up .... I am currently looking for a job. How the hell am I going to start working when she's always in my head and I'm not going to be focused. I don't know what to do. I'm so fucked up, I fall apart internally, as if my happiness is in watching her and calming down in the moments when I know she's not with him. that my life without her is terribly boring, or perhaps for lack of any spark of life, he has become so. You have no idea every day when I wake up that I have the nastiest feeling, where is she, did she get up, are they still sleeping together and she hasn't come in ... You must have felt so disgusting when you woke up .... I am currently looking for a job. How the hell am I going to start working when she's always in my head and I'm not going to be focused. I don't know what to do. I'm so fucked up, I fall apart internally, as if my happiness is in watching her and calming down in the moments when I know she's not with him. that my life without her is terribly boring, or perhaps for lack of any spark for life, he has become one. You have no idea when I wake up every day that I have the nastiest feeling, where is she, did she get up, are they still sleeping together and haven't come in ... You must have felt so disgusting when you woke up ....
I am currently looking for a job. How the hell am I going to start working when she's always in my head and I'm not going to be focused. I don't know what to do. I'm so fucked up, I fall apart inwardly, as if my happiness is in watching her and calming down in the moments when I know she's not with him. when you woke up .... I'm currently looking for a job. How the hell am I going to start working when she's always in my head and I'm not going to be focused. I don't know what to do. I'm so fucked up, I fall apart inwardly, as if my happiness is in watching her and calming down in the moments when I know she's not with him. when you woke up .... I'm currently looking for a job. How the hell am I going to start working when she's always in my head and I'm not going to be focused. I don't know what to do. I'm so fucked up, I fall apart inwardly, as if my happiness is in watching her and calming down in the moments when I know she's not with him.
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I don't know how old you are, but ... Stop meeting girls on the net and go out among people. Otherwise, if you continue to abuse yourself in this masochistic way, you will not get anything good. Life is NOT in the virtual. It is very clear why she preferred the other, it is real communication after all. From the net, anyone can say anything. Don't get so obsessed with the lady that you'll ruin your psyche. You don't want to injure yourself unnecessarily or get a mental illness ?! Let her go where and with whom she wants. Stop yourself. Get out. Breathe. Focus on yourself. Clear your thoughts and you will be relieved. You will see. F41
You don't go crazy, don't worry ... everyone has done such things that I know people with more obsessive behavior. However, it is not worth it.
The exact same thing happened to me. Believe me, everything is temporary. And I thought I would never get rid of that situation. And let me tell you, these in my case got engaged over time. But then I was no longer interested. I had long since forgotten him. As you continue to check on her every day, you will not stop feeling disgusted. Find a hobby, go out, play sports, get a little distracted. When you're out or with friends, you won't have time to check where he is and what he's doing. Everything depends on you.
That is, she cheated on her ex with you and then cheated on you with her current one? The circle of life! If they cheat on you, they will cheat on you too.
So what do you care so much, you're kind of there ... these actions should help you understand some things. The better you are, the less they will want you, at least this kind of female, the other kind are rare, we are a little lucky to have found them. Serious, really knowing what they want - the opposite of most women. Today she is with him, tomorrow with another, one loves and another falls in love.
Don't look at these pictures. Fill your day with your activities, in the evening do not log in to Facebook, but read books or drink with people. If you continue to look at photos and whine, you will become a shiver, you will deepen your crazy state. Forget that something could happen between you, just ask her why she chose him so you can figure out what's wrong with you. And smell it, wipe it directly. Phones, connections. She's gone. Then set goals on how to improve and this will give you peace of mind for your next relationship with ANOTHER (with this NO). 10 s
I've been in the same hellish state for months, a terrible nightmare. At least you know her recently and she pulled one for you in a hurry, it's not your fault. And now imagine that you have known each other since childhood, that she tried several times to start something with you, you also liked her, there was some inexplicably strong chemistry and connection, but due to some fears and doubts you cut her and did not has received. And now at some point, as in all these years, you think of her again, but this time she's been in a serious relationship for a long time, they don't show up and you don't know what's going on, you know that they're still together, and for cover for some reason no longer wants to talk to you the most general things, like saying "hello how are you". This state, combined with the guilt that you caused it, that you tortured the other person, is just deadly and corrosive. But a lot ...
I'm sorry, but you're annoying. You broke up, you don't have to ask her for an explanation. Keep going. It's all over.
I'm a girl, I've been in such a relationship from a distance .... It took me, maybe two years and something to get this man out of my mind and heart. I thought it would never end, but just when you don't expect it, everything changes ... Don't shut yourself in, try to be among people so you don't think about her ... Block her so you don't you check her profile and when it's online, because you won't be able to move on any time soon ... I know how difficult it is, but obviously this is a lesson you need to learn. Learn to love yourself first, then someone else! Pay attention mostly to yourself, do not allow a person to become a kind of center of your life and live for him, because then it will be very difficult to overcome his absence. Good luck and look at the good side of things :)
9 is right I don't know why you get so poisoned. Block her from everywhere and you won't look at her pictures with her lover, once she dumps you for him, she will never come back to you, that's for sure. And even if she comes back - at least you don't have dignity and a gram of honor, why do you continue to humiliate yourself, in her eyes you will definitely not grow up? I don't know how old you are, but you're being infantile.
Stop bothering her. Get her out of here before she does and you start to feel inadequate. With your behavior you only show that you are there and that you are waiting for her. Sorry but you're boring. At the moment she has a new thrill and quo and she cares about you knowing that no matter what happens to him, there is a fool who is waiting for her and will run to him to be well, eventually. Don't be a back up plan. Get her off social media, break her ego, show that you can do without her, people hurt the most when they are rejected, and I look at you as a unique example, with your questions "how can I give everything for her" or whatever it was also to choose another, I don't know if it hurts you so much for her or for you,, your behavior is a little crazy, I did the same, at one time I reached a state where I endangered my own life to attract someone's attention. It will hurt you, there is nothing to lie about, but that passes with time. Do productive things to raise your energy to more positive speeds and you will attract only cool things.
Hi, you sound like an intelligent and good boy to me. I'm sorry for the situation you're in, believe me, it looks like the end of the world, but it will pass. Apparently the girl has no respect for people and relationships, maybe the distance has had its say, but she cheated on her ex-boyfriend and you, she will soon cheat on her new one, ask yourself ... would you like to be with someone like that person? A man who dumps people and changes them just like that? Go outside, start going to the gym, distraction helps the most. She doesn't deserve you, you put feelings and emotion into your relationship, you TRAVELED for her, to be honest, only someone who is very in love would be ready for such a thing. Once, when I was younger (now I'm 28) I had a boyfriend again from the net, I lived in Plovdiv, he in Nessebar, my mother would get a stroke, every time I ran away from us, I got on the train to go to him. Then I was 16 and brutally in love, I almost imagined some future with him and so on for two years ... while after the next time I went, we were together for two days, I returned to Plovdiv and he told me that he wanted to we divide. SHOCK. I was in a terrible state of despair, and he not only left me, but cheated on me with a girl from Sofia. I was between earth and sky, hurt for months, my teaching declined, the pain was terrible, but it passed, now years later I remember what it was, but I want to be with this mind :) Find the strength in yourself <3 I was in a terrible state of despair, and he not only left me, but cheated on me with a girl from Sofia. I was between earth and sky, hurt for months, my teaching declined, the pain was terrible, but it passed, now years later I remember what it was, but I want to be with this mind :) Find the strength in yourself <3 I was in a terrible state of despair, and he not only left me, but cheated on me with a girl from Sofia. I was between earth and sky, hurt for months, my teaching declined, the pain was terrible, but it passed, now years later I remember what it was, but I want to be with this mind :) Find the strength in yourself <3