Hello !, a girl of 13 writes to you. In general, my life is wonderful for my age, I don't deal with boys, I study well, I have good grades, I'm not very "spoiled" ... in two words: I'm obedient. I have a cool character, I don't miss friends, I'm also beautiful and I don't miss admirers, I don't pay attention to them, but still ... :) Mom and Dad have their own company and work together. We lack nothing. We are satisfied with everything. Whatever my brother and I want is bought for us, it disgusts us for everything. In return, we just need to be obedient and learn well, not be too white and pick our friends, go out with the right people and be an example to the younger ones who are now learning how to behave, how and with whom one should and should not communicate. Well, it works for me. So far so good.. but the problem appeared 3 months ago. My mother and I went to the sea, only the two of us, because my father had to work and my uncle did not like it, so on the topic of this sea in question, I noticed some things that to this day do not come out of my head .. One morning, when I got up and started getting ready for the beach, I noticed that my mother had a text message on the phone, you know those text messages from M-tel "this number was looking for you ... go when you are." Well, I thought it was such an SMS, I knew I shouldn't but I took the phone and just deleted the SMS, I noticed that it doesn't start with "This number ..." at all, much scarier, the SMS read "He promised me that today you come to see me, come on tell your daughter that you are going for a walk and come, I want you ... I want you. Many kisses. I am waiting for you! " I dropped the phone on the ground, my hands wouldn't listen, I started shaking, my heart was pounding ... I couldn't believe MY FATHER LIE AFTER EVERYTHING HE DID AND CONTINUES TO DO FOR HER .... !!! ?? So he deprives himself of weekends so that she has them, he deprives himself of vacations at sea, he works around the clock and she LIES to him !!! Horror .. !!! I want to tell Dad, but you have no idea what will happen, such scandals ... such quarrels ... it can even lead to a fight! My father is very good, but if he finds out that he tears his ass because of her and she lies to him so low, he will be furious. I will be divorced in a minute .... since the company is common, I don't know how they will divide it, how long they will be sued, how many worries and tears will go ... Abee ... I don't think what will happen if my father finds out, for now I keep everything a secret, but I don't know how long it will last. Please give me some advice on how to proceed..what to say I tried to talk to mom and she said, "Oh, what does your baby's head mean to you, you're imagining something." God .. I can't imagine, although as a child I understand what happens, and what will happen if my father learns, I understand, but WHY DOESN'T SHE UNDERSTAND WHAT HE DOES, AND THAT WILL RUIN OUR FAMILY IF IT CONTINUES .. !! Please ... HELP !!!!!!!! ; (; (; (
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Abe mome, let them take care of yourself when you interfere, if you say you will make them angry with you, do you think that your mother will love you as before, keep quiet.
Tell your father !!!
Or maybe it's better to just talk to your mother about it, if you act behind her back, it will be worse. Not that she doesn't do the same, but she's still your mother.
Darling, haven't you wondered if something is wrong with your mother's and father's relationship? Because sometimes behind the apparent happiness there is some reason for your mother to do so. And, if you love them both, leave them alone to solve the problem. If your father ever learns of your mother's behavior, my advice to you is to stay away. Think about the possibility that your mother has decided not to go to extremes with the other man, and what will happen if you say now, you will only set them against each other, and as you say, there may be a divorce. Will you be happy about that? Let your mother decide for herself. You are really too young to interfere in their relationship.
Be silent, but know that such women NEVER stop. If you break with this one in time you will find another, they can not do without adventure and do not think about the consequences. In general, they come across men who, even if they understand, close their eyes.
And this is a sufficient signal for the mother, but you, dear, should know that it is not always easy to be principled and honest in the family. material well-being does not always make you happy. It is difficult to be an adult, but when you decide what is more important to you, you must be brave and responsible to yourself and others around you. For starters, you've done enough, don't bother with a problem you can't handle. After a while, try to talk to your mom and explain your worries to her. Good luck!!!
Apparently your father from this overwork just forgot about her as a woman. He doesn't have time to pay attention to her from this job, I think your father is to blame for that !!!
Threaten her that you would tell your father if she didn't stop, but she was still quite selfish. It's not fair from a man's point of view, I guess from a child's point of view.
It hasn't been written since I was 13, has it?
In my opinion, it is not your job to interfere in the relations of your parents - they are old enough and can deal with their problems on their own. You are small and you know nothing about the relationship between a man and a woman. How are you sure that your father did not deserve such treatment / maybe in their past /, and maybe he has one / the fact that you have not seen him does not mean that it is not so /. Your mother is the best she knows why she's doing this, he may not be paying her the attention she needs, and she still has her physical needs. Don't say anything to anyone so that you don't become the apple of discord. Whatever is written will happen.
This seems to have been written by the mother, not by her 13-year-old daughter !?
I am of the same opinion, it was written by the mother, it happened and it is conscientious somehow. It's interesting why she wants advice from people who don't know anything about her, it's strange. I think she just wanted to diversify her relationship for a while, but it turned out to be more serious than she imagined. How will this story end only God knows ...
Nonsense ... Why do you think I didn't write it?!?! .. I wrote it, you know I don't know what to do, I'm sorry that I will repeat BUT I CAN'T KEEP IT, AND AS I KNOW THAT HE CONTINUES TO LIE TO HIM III HORROR !!! At 10, 12 and 13 I will only say that you have the right to think whatever you want, but I swear to you that I am the daughter ... but I cannot make you believe me, and I thank the others for helping me with advice and trust me! [author]
Dear child, I have just read your story and I will give you the following advice: it is best to share what you know with your brother. According to you, I understand that he is older and most likely he will help you make the right decision whether to share with your father or not. And I doubt that if your father believes you, your mother will dissuade him in some way, but even if your brother knows, you will both keep an eye on her. But I personally can't judge whether it makes sense to tell your father for the simple reason that I'm afraid of ruining your family when everything seems fine and you like it, whether it's necessary to take a risk, because if you they divorce and each goes his own way, what will happen to you their children.
Dear girl, I advise you to share with your brother and then both decide whether to talk to your mother. Remember, your father will be very disappointed. I hope you can save him these unpleasant emotions! GOOD LUCK!!!
Thank you very much, I can easily call you friends .. although I don't know who you are .. but my best friend didn't give me as useful advice as you .. don't think about the consequences ... THANK YOU VERY MUCH !! (the author)
My comment is a little late, but if you're still reading here, I want to tell you that married women, especially those who care about their appearance, constantly receive offers in some form. Now you have seen an SMS, this is not a criterion that your mother responds with the same feelings to this suitor. For 23 years of marriage I have had maybe 8-10 typically male proposals a year of various kinds - from just friendship, going out to sex to infect sex. Women receive such offers as naturally as men do. There's nothing wrong with that, my child. And for your father, who is still busy and cunning enough not to betray himself, and for your mother, who doesn't hide her phone because she just has nothing to hide from you, these are natural things. Infidelity is only proven if you catch them in bed, otherwise they can write everything down - look at what's happening on Skype. And the fact that everyone has the right to privacy and personal space is not just a phrase.
I think you should really tell your father, because it could be more serious for your father to catch her or talk to her mother and even cry if necessary, because a high-class woman would prefer Seki !!!
Children have no right to interfere in the lives of their parents or to impose penalties on their own grounds on those who created them!
Oh boy, I know it sucks, but don't interfere. I have personally experienced it on my back. The moment I saw my father I wanted to take out the gun and shoot it, but at one point I said to myself that it was not worth me interfering in my parents' personal life! I know it sucks, but you will survive it! You just have to be strong! SUCCESS!
To 18. You are right, you are very right. Congratulations on your mind, ma'am.
If you want to divorce them, go. Then you will have two fathers and two mothers. GS1
This sms proves NOTHING. Just because someone wants your mother doesn't mean she cheated on your father! Relax. Dana
I want to ask the lady (who writes on behalf of the supposed 13-year-old daughter), what did your girl do, did she betray you or is she afraid of you? Thanks, although I'm not hoping for an answer ...
Oh, if you know what went through my head .... To know that maybe not everything is as it seems. You are very impressed, but I guess it's normal for this age, I'm 14 and things like that happened to me in a much worse degree, only with my father ... Everything happened while I was still in 3rd grade ... Now I will just say that I am in the situation - we do not talk to my father, he did not want me good luck for my exams, don't congratulate me on my name day, and I forget my birthdays regularly ... I hope you understood me correctly, if you want to say something, give me your Skype;) Gray
I'm 12 and I suspect that my mother is cheating ... Often when she talks on the phone she goes to the other room, and once I noticed that with a man on Skype he was writing something like "I love you", "I miss you", there was and various hearts and hugs ... I don't know what to do ... She often goes out after work, ostensibly to her friend, and then immediately turns on her Skype. She hides her passwords. She deletes incoming and outgoing messages from her phone and home, all because dad is shaking at work all day. Please help me !!! What should I do ??? Am I bringing in or not ???
Do nothing to avoid discord between your parents. But you can show your mother with a more distant demeanor that you suspect a passion. He even turned his attention to his father, asking him if he was tired and how he was feeling. Most likely they are just words and maybe they haven't even seen each other. Going out with girlfriends can be a coincidence. There is nothing fatal, you just be tactful.
the same problem but I was not afraid to tell my father only after 3 years and I was 16 but when I found out I was 13 I was angry after 3 years of love text messages and messages on Facebook and I told my father of course he knew because they are not the first youth and then there was a big quarrel but I advise you to say and in time everything will be fine .. :)
In my opinion, mothers may want to make a gift to fathers and consult with a friend and do not want anyone to know but her. And he hides until he invents any gift .... And I've been in such situations, but back to his father he hid that he makes a gift to mothers .. show a little patience .... :)
My mother is the same, she constantly writes with other men and this irritates me. My father finally found a person I didn't approve of much and my father did everything for me, even if he misses me. In my opinion, the father is the most important person. and my father found another
If I were you, I would hate my mother. I wouldn't look at her again. Tell your father he doesn't deserve such a thing.
My mother was filmed having sex with a man named Joro Lyalev. She most brazenly lied to me that he was her gynecologist. I was just shocked that she lied to me that she was going to work (she is a pilot and they call her sometimes extraordinary, but she has been walking without a uniform several times and I doubted, and today I saw this video and I just don't know what to do please help, tell me what to do.
Well, in the end, everyone has the right to personal choice and no one is anyone's property. Sometimes such things happen in a family, for one reason or another - they happen ... The bad thing is when it is done in a way that humiliates and hurts the constant partner and the infidel starts behaving badly with him, just because there is another connection. Otherwise, each case is individual and it is difficult to say who is wrong and who is right. There can be hundreds of different reasons for infidelity, but sometimes it really just happens ... Obviously the human species is not monogamous and no one is insured against anything in this life. He who today zealously condemns infidelity, tomorrow may find himself in the position of an adulterer, be tempted, irresistibly attracted or madly in love with someone else even though he continues to hold on to his spouse, to respect and appreciate him as a partner, but ... Sometimes these things really just happen even to people who are generally loyal , correct and responsible, who are reasonable and believe that they can be controlled and always do the right thing. Yes, I tell you this because I considered myself a person who was completely in control and could always do the right thing. Yes but no!!! After 16 years of marriage, in which I was absolutely loyal to my husband and repulsed all sorts of attacks by various intruders, I assumed that I had sunk irresistibly into one man. It was madness, like a natural disaster - strong, omniscient, uncontrollable ... From the beginning I thought it would pass, I did nothing, I just waited for it to pass. Yes, but it didn't work, with each passing day it deepened and got worse. I writhed like that for two years. It was crazy ... I was really tormented, it was terribly painful. I don't know where this came from, but I couldn't control it or stop it. I was obsessed. I loved this man, I wanted him - madly. Finally, I looked for him myself. I told myself that since I wanted it so much, I would take it. And I took it! We have been in a relationship for eight years. We love each other and we have a good time together, but I live with my family. I respect and value my husband as a friend and father of my child. He is a very expensive and extremely valuable thing for me, I do not want to hurt him for anything in the world, but I love the other. That's it. I've been living a double life for eight years. Who understands as he wants ... It doesn't matter. Otherwise, the man in question was divorced. I didn't stick my nose in someone else's family So I mean, that in life everything happens and there are no insured! And my advice to the girl who wrote the confession is not to interfere in the relationship between her parents. Dear child, no matter what happens, even if you are right about your mother, just stand aside and let the adults get better. If you intervene, you will most likely cause the destruction of your family, scandals and quarrels at home, and no one will gain from this, only everyone will lose. What happened then may have passed and gone, just don't dig. More importantly, your parents live well together, understand each other, love you and care for you. Everything else is not important. Let your mother go her own way. Even if he goes somewhere, the important thing is that in the end he comes home to you and you are in no way neglected and left without parental care. I know that it will be difficult for your child's head to understand what I am saying, but the truth is that you should not interfere in your parents' relationships and you should not tell anyone what you have seen. If you intervene, you will destroy all chances for things in your family to be sorted out, but on the contrary, you will ruin them completely. Believe me, it's true and stop bothering at all about whether your mother goes somewhere or not. She is an adult and can make her own decisions and be responsible for them. It is not your job to make accusations or administer justice. Just live your life and don't bother with the problems of adults. Good luck. you will destroy all chances for things in your family to be sorted out, but on the contrary, you will ruin them completely. Believe me, it's true and stop bothering at all about whether your mother goes somewhere or not. She is an adult and can make her own decisions and be responsible for them. It is not your job to make accusations or administer justice. Just live your life and don't bother with the problems of adults. Good luck. you will destroy all chances for things in your family to be sorted out, but on the contrary, you will ruin them completely. Believe me, it's true and stop bothering at all about whether your mother goes somewhere or not. She is an adult and can make her own decisions and be responsible for them. It is not your job to make accusations or administer justice. Just live your life and don't bother with the problems of adults. Good luck.