Hello, boy of 16. This summer I realized a lot of things that currently hurt me. With people I know from first grade, I thought we were close, I gave them so much time, I neglected my loved ones because of them, I always paid more attention to them than to others I thought were less important. I'm just obviously too naive and pay too much attention to some people ... I was blind to the truth. Exactly those friends that I thought were less important at the moment, it turns out that they are much more real to me and they are counted right on the fingers of one hand, and I always put them in second, third place, etc. But I'm glad it happened to me, at least I realized what the truth is, no matter how much it hurts. I hate to say it because we've been together since first grade and I thought I knew them, that we were close, but apparently I just lived in a lie. You may be wondering how I realized. There were some events that made me really think seriously about all this. We haven't broken off all relationships and contacts, but I'll just have one thing in mind now. It's happening to me for the first time, and I didn't expect it from them at all, I didn't expect to experience such pain. I cared for them a lot and I appreciated them a lot. I even neglected myself many times. I don't know what I saw in them so much that I considered them real friends. I no longer know what to look for in people, how to find out if they won't use me again, if they are really real friends. I can't find more words to keep writing. I will be happy to read your opinions on the subject. but I'll just have one thing in mind now. It's happening to me for the first time, and I didn't expect it from them at all, I didn't expect to experience such pain. I cared for them a lot and I appreciated them a lot. I even neglected myself many times. I don't know what I saw in them so much that I considered them real friends. I no longer know what to look for in people, how to find out if they won't use me again, if they are really real friends. I can't find more words to keep writing. I will be happy to read your opinions on the subject. but I'll just have one thing in mind now. It's happening to me for the first time, and I didn't expect it from them at all, I didn't expect to experience such pain. I cared for them a lot and I appreciated them a lot. I even neglected myself many times. I don't know what I saw in them so much that I considered them real friends. I no longer know what to look for in people, how to find out if they won't use me again, if they are really real friends. I can't find more words to keep writing. I will be happy to read your opinions on the subject. I no longer know what to look for in people, how to find out if they won't use me again, if they are really real friends. I can't find more words to keep writing. I will be happy to read your opinions on the subject. I no longer know what to look for in people, how to find out if they won't use me again, if they are really real friends. I can't find more words to keep writing. I will be happy to read your opinions on the subject.
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Look boy, Everyone looks at their own interest. People have become selfish and users en masse - as long as they have some interest - they are with you. The moment a more attractive "friend" appears on the horizon, they transfer to him and it's as if you didn't know each other ... Keep in mind not one, but several. When you meet new friends, don't make movies that you are best friends, etc., because the truth will soon shine - you are their friend, and they are yours? True friends in a person's life are one or two people, you can find them in 20 years - everything else is temporary and temporary. So look for these people in life, and they can find you themselves? Fate!
I fully support number 1. Don't get so attached to friends so quickly. Trust between you can be built for years. You can't be sure if they won't stab you in the back tomorrow. You can have many such cases in life, but always upside down. Be more with people who, through their actions, show you what you mean to them, and not just in words and / or mentally. Don't focus only on specific people, because that way you miss the opportunity to see those around you, who are probably many times closer to you than in your case. If you want to know each other for 15 years, deeds are needed, not words, as they say. Proximity alone is not enough. Now be more careful what and to whom you share and carefully choose friends. Watch with wide open! I hope what I wrote helps you. I wish you to make real friends in your life, to do what they do for you, what you do for them, and even more. I believe you will meet them one day. I wish you health, happiness, love, success and luck!