Hi, I'm a 23-D girl. I've been living with my boyfriend for six. Our story is the following... Ever since we moved in together he does nothing at home because he "goes to work" (I also walk), do not hang out because he is tired (from work), we do not play board games because they are dumb and without another is tired (from work), sex we do when he wants and is not tired (from work naturally) which is rarely perhaps at the beginning and sometimes to the middle of the month... I Einagi I loved the purity (it and what else to do) when I want to go out for dinner, for example, we need 1-2 months to make it, to calculate how much we spend because we NEVER have money... And heaven to tell me is it would be better to cook at home (as I do every day). For several months I have no desire for anything, nor to cleanse, feathers, cook, wash dishes, nor for games, scandals (which are permanent)... Well, of course, I don't leave the house to sink in misery but it's not like when I want... He keeps yelling at me, yelling, pushing, swearing, and insulting... Last time he started yelling at me because I was a lot thinner, maybe 15/16kg for 2-3 months, and he thinks it's because of someone else, and maybe it's nerves or some disease I've developed from nerves and fear... Everything says it's his, not to touch it (I mean for clothes to pick up, for the phone to move away from the table) but the lid was today when I wanted to turn on the TV and he said that the TV was his gift and without asking, I have no right to include it, we fought again and I asked myself why I tolerate it, and he said it was because I'm stupid. The truth is that I tolerate it because I have nowhere to go, with my parents I can not, because they are 2 families in a two-story house with my sister and her family (male children) and I do not want to disturb them, I can go to quarters but I have no money because he picks them up and brings them to the bank on his account. Currently, I have 70 LV but I will not get anywhere... And so I tolerate because I'm stupid... I say all this because I need to share...
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alisamisty answered · May 19, 2020
You're crazy to tolerate that kind of attitude.
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classy_fuck answered · May 19, 2020
I don't know about stupid... You're even crazy to give him your money. There are domestic violence centers. Urgently turn to them.
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tsevelyntranny69x answered · May 19, 2020
Don't give him your money, pack it up and rent a house.
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unordinary24 answered · May 19, 2020
In the beginning, the story sounded like another average family in Bulgaria.
The second part proves that you've stumbled onto a nasty, obnoxious, selfish psychopath.
And what kind of brains do you give him your paycheck?!
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gyaasii answered · May 19, 2020
You get out of here, or someone's going to give you money, and you can ask for yours and let him handle it. You will work and return them or just before your salary is paid.
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suleymaninki answered · May 19, 2020
Get him out of here right now!!! Go to your parents as much as you want to pay, save and come out of the house! Be a smart girl, good luck!
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lilyvixxxen answered · May 20, 2020
Expect him to break your teeth soon.
I suggest you temporarily go to your parents, then to a lodging. You can combine with other girls. Going to your parents is so you don't give him your court and get out of this vicious circle.
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sweethoneybrown answered · May 20, 2020
... I read up to the middle, and I don't need it anymore (I have enough life experience). Just one thing I'm going to say: BJ-GAI! Go to your parents-you will find yourself resolved, but do not remain a day in such a situation!
... And do not give in to promptings to return, or to exhortations on his part. It is terribly painful and difficult, but otherwise, you will stop respect yourself, and a very serious clash can be reached, or you can violate your health irrevocably.
Run at any cost! Save yourselves!
I will pray for you.
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strawberry_feels answered · May 20, 2020
Well, stop giving him your money and move out...
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nellieltetona answered · May 21, 2020
Hi. I am a boy of 21 from London and would like to meet you! You can read the topic: "A theme for reflection these days!" and on the subject of me as a boy such behavior annoys me from the side of the male part and I can not for God to answer why mass girls fall in such and those who do everything for you cram them and pass them and then get where the decent guys?!!?! I don't know how to trade in a Coordinates... And I really wish
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maequira_ answered · May 21, 2020
Poor. How did you live with this man so long? Why at all? He has no right to take your money. Don't you have a friend to go to?
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ellinna answered · May 21, 2020
He picks them up and brings them to the bank? In his name??? Girl!!!???
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hushssh answered · May 22, 2020
It's a sad story. You're a free man, not a slave anyway.
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kristiangrey answered · May 22, 2020
You said it yourself, you're stupid. But you know what the dumbest thing is, you gave him your money, now you're pears from the tree.
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allieberrrybb answered · May 23, 2020
I can not believe how women's goals ever, incompetent in their lives and real so long endure them..
I'm just amazed, in your feminine flair for choosing halves, and the hope that one such person doing such things for years will change if it is given time.
I'm sorry to say this, or you're naïve, or your friend is right.
I'm really sorry to say it, but the writing points to it.
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lolita_nabokova answered · May 23, 2020
What do you mean, he's bringing your money to the bank? Who is he to pay your money to the bank?
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a001ladycandy answered · May 23, 2020
Don't give him your paycheck, go to your parents first. When you're back on your feet, you're going to move. The family is about to be supported in difficult times. When I read your story, it's better not going to happen, just worse. You endure because you're dumb, so stop being "dumb" and live alone with the job, cook, clean and watch the precious TV. You're not a doormat, girl! He does not possess you, neither you nor your money, nor your freedom! Now he offends you and you sit. Are you waiting for him to start beating you?
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daiisyxx answered · May 23, 2020
Go to your parents! Immediately!
It's time for this piece of crap you're with, to stay alone.
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catalinardz answered · May 24, 2020
It's a familiar story. Well, you will suffer when you are 23 years old. The best (for you) option is the next few months to be able to get into good shape, together, rub, etc. Then, while he's at work, you're looking for another man--a lot more tenable. It's only after you find it, then take the past and grab the next.
You're still young, you don't have kids, and even if you're not very pretty, many men will tie you up. Then, when you pin it on the other, try to GROW up and not depend as much on it as you think you love each other.
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belenum answered · May 24, 2020
I guess my coworkers are going to be a hater, but you true really stupid. Go home to your parents, and that's it, so in a two-storey house there is no bed? Second in what century is this man taking the money of the woman and not having a marriage to take them for himself?? !! The whole breath story of incredible provinmatism. The modern woman is educated and independent, you moved in with your boyfriend at 17 and now you have nowhere to go?? !!!
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sextababe answered · May 24, 2020
From the author, I apologize for the decision I made, I was just in a hurry, so that's how it worked!!!
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_bella_donna_x answered · May 24, 2020
From the author... Do you guys think I'm taking a paycheck, going home and giving it to him? Well, No... He's not, he takes them one way or another!!!
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pinkimonkey answered · May 24, 2020
The author AGAIN... I can't go to my parents or to a girlfriend because I don't want to bother anyone... My parents from the beginning were against living with a man even more with him... At first, I was at the Lodge and everything was OK, then he showed up and everything was great, then we bought the apartment TOGETHER and everything started to go bad. I interrupted my education 2nd year when he started taking my money... And this is... Now I think I'm going to sit here for a while until I get at least two salaries and tell him about taking my paycheck... I hope you understand. About 20! I don't look bad, I'm going to find someone, I won't be alone... But there is no question! Thank you all for the advice but my parents and girlfriend are some very last option, which I prefer not to take place
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gemmajamesxo answered · May 25, 2020
When you get the paycheck, you run, how come he takes your money for you. Don't ruin yourself if you have to sit with your parents for a while....
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cutetiffanyb answered · May 25, 2020
I think it's dangerous for your life, cohabitation with this man. You don't realize it, but it's the truth. And given the seriousness of the položenivto, I think it's most sensible to go to your parents and tell them everything. They may have been against your relationship, but you are their child, and they will never wish you harm. Swallow your pride and act wisely. Talk to them now. Not in a month or two.
If you tell him that you taking your paycheck, he might break you in a fight. People like him are cowardly and super-suspicious. And mostly dangerous! The choice is yours!
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sydnytheschoolgirl answered · May 25, 2020
To the author of Number 10. You think we can find a way to swap the coordinates?
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ferahthegoddess answered · May 25, 2020
To the author. I feel very sorry for you.
You're not dumb but you have no choice, and he knows it, and he tries to keep it that way and how he wants to work (it is what he does).
And for love can not be a word, the game of dependence and possession is played.
Independence is a very strong word but you have to gotta earn it.
Save money without him and no one else to know and look for alternatives, if the situation at some time becomes intolerable you have to fight with him otherwise something will change.
I don't respect men and bullies, I don't respect them...
P.
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sxc_babe answered · May 25, 2020
If you're in this position, use a little trick. Stay, 2 months maximum or 3, for the money lies that taking them that the problem in the work, move out soon. You're a good girl, everything's going to be okay. Just a little courage.
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xcuriousitykilledthekatx answered · May 26, 2020
Author, you're really stupid! What it means to not want to disturb anyone-the family is, therefore, to support themselves in difficult times. Even if you're not very close to them, talk if you need to pour your head with Ashes, tell them they were right about it, that you didn't have to collect at 17. (It really is, but it's another topic) and return to them at least until you're back on your feet. I can't have a place for you in a two-story house!
How I'm going to get your paycheck and bring it??? Are you okay?
And what do you mean "we bought the apartment TOGETHER"-whose name is it? Yours, his or both? If it was his, and you gave money to the apartment, you're not stupid, but a very dull
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alice__little answered · May 26, 2020
Swallow your pride, ask for forgiveness and move in with your parents-but IMMEDIATELY. Do not leave a second more in such a position, because then the departure will be more difficult and, I fear, more dangerous for you.
Agape
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cumforfun112233 answered · May 26, 2020
You're really stupid. You're either going to endure it forever, or you're going to go to the parents. Or stop working, and if he doesn't have the money to take from you, He'il leave you. I wouldn't work when someone else takes my money. Now you're 23, how long are you going to be with him?
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miss_kream answered · May 26, 2020
And how EXACTLY does he get your paycheck?!
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dom_cherry answered · May 26, 2020
Author... The dwelling is both of the name! I did not explain everything to them, but I told them some things, it turns out there is no place in them and that I am to blame for everything!! Now I feel sorry for talking to them.... I told them that we have a little problem and for a day or two I need help but alas.. Not all parents are the same!!! I left like this for the last few years... He realized (from my sister) that I had been there and became a little uglier than usual, but everything went slightly!! Coordinates don't know how we can trade 10!!!
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simplykim4u answered · May 27, 2020
Run! Respect and custom first yourself to make it and others with you. When I was young, I allowed a similar attitude, but there was no one to tell me it wasn't worth it. You're just wasting your life and ruining your health. Be brave.
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alena201 answered · May 27, 2020
33, thank and jump out of joy that you have not stumbled upon an abuser and manipulator who will very easily pick you up a paycheck that a loan will make you withdraw. The girl pulled the short straw, that's all. I join the other commenting-run, baby, money, no money, if you have to and naked, but don't come back, if you're going to get on your belly!
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sexyelix answered · May 27, 2020
Honey, you're not stupid, you are not determined. And how long are you going to endure? As long as it starts to physically reach you? Get your hands on the next month and one penny of your paycheck, don't give it to him, and then you go to quarters, if you're going to be a landlady, you'd still be better off and leave him with "his" TV to make company. A man like that doesn't deserve to have a wife next to him.
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_valery_levis_ answered · May 27, 2020
So... You have to yourself a perfect selfish, who on top of it is also aggressive. You can't change a man like that. You're not giving him your paycheck, and you're going to out-OK, but I have another question. What's going to happen to the common place? I guess he paid the installments (even though it was with your money)? How long do you pay for it and what exactly are you going to do with it? Are you a mortgage debtor? This is something very serious and maybe it will be a good time, given the very high prices on the real estate market, to sell this apartment, to repay the loan and to divide the money (if they remain). Consult a lawyer. And don't worry about turning around to parents/friends. You think they don't know what's going on? However, a typical Bulgarian trait is to close their eyes (for friends I speak, parents tried to save you). It's typical of the victim to be ashamed of his choice. You do not dare to stand openly against the violence that your spouse exercised over you (not only physical violence is such, psychologically he has crushed you!). My advice is to turn to your parents, they are the people who will help you the most. Yes, we may have a "we told You" critique, but they will help you, incl. Financial! The two-storey house will still find where to accommodate you, even temporarily. You have the same rights as your sister.
If you have the will and the power, you will get rid of the nightmare. But keep in mind something else-your handsome man will show up with lamb skin, but remember that the wolf's fur, but temper-no!!! No matter how many stars take you down, don't look back.
Think about how to get out of this relationship the best way for you, i.e. Without any obligation and no major financial loss. For me, the most significant thing is that he didn't let you graduate from university-he wants you weak and dependent on him. Run while you can!
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sweetvane_ answered · May 27, 2020
Hello people, I am the author... To NO38!! The apartment bought it in cash, as they say! We owe nothing to anyone! I don't want any of it, no money, no sharing! Be safe. Yesterday I found out I was pregnant, in a very sad way! It turns out that physical violence was not too late. Everything with the baby is OK, but I can handle it! I have to quit my job but I can't afford it, I'm just going to go to grandma's village and from there I will travel to work every day. Now I'm in charge of someone else, a very desirable man! Thank you all for the comments, tomorrow or the day I will take this step, I hope I can write to you how everything went!! Good night for now!
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dirty_eva answered · May 27, 2020
I am very happy for you! Be brave! I pray for you!
Agape.
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im_lauracherry answered · May 28, 2020
In that case, medical and police. You're already a victim of physical abuse. Buy yourself a spray and if you get close, ACT!
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johnsmith67895 answered · May 28, 2020
Author... Hello, today I was discharged from the hospital and so now I am writing!! I'm in the village, it's nice and peaceful! When I told him I was leaving, he started pushing me and cheekbones, then he started yelling at me that if it wasn't for him... etc. I only kept quiet and waited for it to end.. Then he pushed me to the ground and started hitting me and the guts. When he started hitting me on the body, I said I was pregnant... I stand as a steam... Suddenly everything changed, lifted me, started apologizing and took me to the bathroom to wash up when I washed it started to explain again how it will change, how everything will be OK!! I didn't believe him this time. I told him I was adamant and that I couldn't afford to stay there, even more with a baby (my biggest mistake), he started screaming again that the baby was guilty and had to squeeze me in the belly. He asked me a few times if I was sure, and I was more than sure. I remember hitting my head in the tiles then I woke up in the hospital... They said the baby was close, but they saved it, they also said that my head was broken and that I was unconscious for 33 hours. The hospital has contacted the police and from there they have triggered everything necessary... Neighbors came home because it suddenly became quiet and found me in the bathroom... This is the new around me, thank you all for telling me what I knew, obviously I needed to hear/read it from other people!!!
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collegecamfam answered · May 28, 2020
You're a little fond of decorating, and all the hours in the hospital know that it was just you... People, a fictional story.